Did I hear a poor man say money isn't everything?

Buckingham Palace, where the wedding procession route begins.

donobi:

it is better u let them know the advantage and disadvantage of it.

Yes o.
A personal experience that is trivial to this issue but somewhat related to it.
Something happened in school someday and I was crying. Friends came around to soothe me. Some offered cigarettes, saying it would help me calm down but without stress, I turned it down.
Reflecting on it now, had I not been previously informed of the seeming pleasure derived from smoking and the disadvantages, I probably would have accepted it because I just newly discovered one of its 'advantages' - it would make me calm- and that's how I would have continued lighting sticks of cigarettes each time I'm not happy and from 1 stick, 2 and 3 and 4 and 5 and then, I become an addict, regardless I've always known of its disadvantages.
But because I've always known of its advantages and disadvantages, and that its disadvantages exceed its 'advantage(s)', what they said - It would make me calm - wasn't new to me, and that made it easier for me to turn it down with ease.
Teach them everything. The gain and the pain. It helps.

Meddler:

Or maybe I have the wrong impression of sex ed. Sex ed should be about teaching kids how to be safe and protect yourself from STD and unwanted pregnancy. How did pleasure and everything else u guys have been talking about come into this?

I daresay it's more than that. Sex Edu. involves everything about sex.
Everything that has to do with sex must be taught. The area you fail to teach, she would learn from friends and you know how risky that is.

However, everything cannot be taught at once but gradually. Taking the female child as an example here -
At age 12, when the child begins to adolesce, you could lecture her on how to ignore/turn down and report sexual advances made at her. You can't stop there. You have to tell her why she should, the possible outcome of failing to do so etc. Failure to touch these areas would leave her more curious than she was, previously and cause her to seek more knowledge from peer groups [God help, if she meets the wrong person or learns through practicals].

At 15, when she's more prone to fall victim to peer pressure and no longer a mummy's girl [ the mummy-says-i-shouldn't-do-that-and-that girl] - she's now beginning to form her own values and have a mind of her own- one can now explain, not necessarily profoundly, the pleasure [Like, Its [sex] main purpose is for procreation, and only husband and wife are supposed to engage in it, it's a beautiful thing ordained by God but can cause a lot of disaster if engaged in, before marriage. it's not for kids your age blah blah] and introduce the idea of condom.

When she's 17,18, one can now go into full details- inform her of the inevitability of sex urge, and of course, the possibility of overcoming it. Teach the use of condoms, pills, abortion etc but always be on the anti-side of it. In a way that, you teach abstinence and preventive measures at same time. While emphasizing more on abstinence.

Why is it necessary to inform them of the pleasure and seeming advantage(s) of the things you ask them not to do at that age?
One of the reasons is, it helps them deal with lures, better. Teach them of the disadvantages alone and when they get informed of the pleasure part by friends, they would be thrilled at the new discovery, and most likely curious to try it out.

bawomolo:

let me guess, it's wrong for a father to teach his children sex education?  what happened to our child?
what if i was a single father. should the children be taught by an aunt?

Like I always say, each parent has his/her [explicitly or implicitly] defined roles.
It's general awareness that when it comes to intimate issues like this, especially with female kids, the mother does the observation and teaching.
She can later discuss it with father, in private.
Mothers teach female kids how to handle menstrual cycle, ignore sexual advances made at them, etcetera.
Hardly does a father do these things, when there's a mother.
Kids just tend to be more 'open' and 'free' with mothers. That's how it is.

bawomolo:

nothing wrong with sex education in schools as long as they are thought the pros and cons of having sex.  sex education courses typically include lectures on how how to effectively wear a condom, what diseases condoms protect and can't protect again, curable and incurable std's etc. sex education isn't thought with a kama sutra handbook nor does it encourage people to have intimacy.   

'Include' is the word. Sex education includes those aspects and more.
It's a very delicate subject, not everyone can teach it, as it should be taught- The reason I opine it's best taught [first] at home.
There's no need refusing to talk to the child about sex pleasure. Every area must be touched- The pleasure, the pain, the inevitable urge, the possibility of overcoming that urge etc.
It's only understandable that I fear, having my kid learn about sex [esp. the pleasure part] from just any person [how am i sure he/she isn't passing the wrong info across, or presenting the issue in a wrong manner, like making fun out of it] and in the midst of young minds, ready to try out everything.
I, as a mother, have to lay the foundation first. It's my responsibility.

DakANGEL:

i wldn't be comfortable wt my dad doing that for me.

Nor I.

Meet me in the bedroom, for your meal.

It depends on how the teaching is done.

Preach the importance of condom in case abstinence is impossible, without making it seem you're encouraging them to have s[i]e[/i]x because ''with condoms, you're safe''.

I think sex education should be done by mothers [at least, it should start from home] not school.
It's risky having your child learn from school or peer group, for fear of misinformation.
I can't trust my child with any other person, on that subject.

Thanks for the appreciation, Darl.
Just holla at me whenever you're hungry.

I tell you - Iice is strange. Werrin concern you with pesin feet and hands?  

omo_to_dun:

Hello my brothers and sisters,
I make fun of ugly people any chance I get. Whenever I lay my eyes on an aesthetically mismatched couple, I begin to theorize about their situation, for example, maybe the beauty lost a bet at the casino, or the beauty owes a debt to the beast, and so on.
How can She look Herself in the face after creating people with faces only mothers can love.

I'm so dead! Rotfl          

Don't we all love them handsome/beautiful?
I'm a fan of Fine Face too. . . . .I mean, why should I settle for less?  
Something's got to attract your attention before you get close to them and begin to notice their good qualities.
That thing that attracts me, most times, is either looks and/or their knowledge [judging from their words].

When I decide to settle down, he must be Fine. Not necessarily drop-dead handsome but, at least, an 'okay' face.
I wouldn't want to regret or cheat.

oyb:


add sardine 

Noooooooooooooooo
You so know about those dayz. Some used Geisha [Is that what they call it?] but I prefer and used sardine.
I always try as much as possible not to allow others know what i'm preparing, 'cause I never want to share. Chei! See me remembering those good 'ol dayz.

E consain You?

oyb:

i forgot this one

i also remeber cold indomie noodles

You did that too?
I also did. Soak it in cold water for 30 minute. Chei! 

iice:

Ahahahaha i used to pity some juniors.  They had it bad mehn.  To produce water when there was no water.  To buy stuff and bring back change.  To stand in line for water all night.  To iron uniform when we no get electricity outlets.  To do the agricultural projects of seniors. Mehn it wasn't easy.  I didn't have a bad time.  I did what i wanted to do and go away with it.  Had a lot of freedom hehehehe.  The most they could do was give me toilets as my daily chore.  I touch am? Say wetin?.  As a senior. . .i ignored people.  Didn't have time for them.  Got made a prefect and made them reverse the decision.  Didn't want stress and was happy to continue doing ish as i pleased.

I remember the washing of toilets and ironing of uniforms when there isn't light. Mehn!

It reminds me of one of my bad days in the hostel.

During one of the hols, I saw a senior student close to my house - She was with a dude.
I was so excited, I started shouting her name ''Senior Pat'' [God help you if you called them by their name, within and outside school compound] while walking fast to meet her. She gave me a faint smile and asked how I was doing. After replying with the famous ''Fine, thank you'', I asked her ''You? how are you?'', she didn't answer.
We greeted and went our separate ways.

On the first day of resumption, I heard some1 shouting ''**Missy**, at the count of 10, i want to see you crawling to my corner- 1, 2, 5, 7, 8, 9and1/2, [that's the usual way they count]. I started crawling. Unfortunately i didn't make it to her corner b4 the mention of 10.  Punishment x2.
After interrogating and accusing me of disrespecting her by asking her ''how are you'', and not obeying her count, i was given 2 dirty toilets to wash.
I was so sad 'cause i didn't think I was wrong. While washing the toilet i started crying and growling - ''In my house, no one treats me this way, these wicked seniors sef''.
Too bad, she heard me and that was how i received the beating of my life plus 1 additional toilet.
Long story. I later informed my parents though, and they came to school to see the principal and every other senior was mad at me for reporting. Hostel life.

Word of Faith, I hail thee.

I spent 6 good years of my life in a boarding school. A period I'll never forget.
I remember when we were flogged with clothes hanger on the feet, by senior students at odd hours [12, 1, 2 a.m].I cried and complained I didn't want to remain there but I was made to stay.
As time went on, I became a senior student too and found myself doing some of the things that were done to me. Then, I realized it's only normal.

How senior students would count from 1-10 for everyone to come downstairs for meal. Even if your room is on the last floor, fly if you will but be downstairs before 10 is mentioned, else na die. How many people fell and dislocated arms and legs

The soaking of garri at night and sneaking in of food stuffs and stove.

The sisterhood I shared with strangers - Strangers that became sisters. Ate same food at same time together, had bath together, slept together, did everything together.

The tears I shed when I finally had to leave, the regret. The assemblage of junior students in my corner, crying and singing. The speech we gave before leaving, the hugs and the i'll miss You_s.

If I have a second chance, I'll go again.

Yorisb:

Hey

Can I have unripe plantain porridge abeg, I need some energy!

There happens to be no plantain in the kitchen at the moment. Bear with us.

wendybaby:

Hi Missy B,

can I have turducken for dinner plzzzzzzz.

thanks,
love u.

Sorry it's coming late.

jennykadry:

Missy

Please kindly take your eyes off my 25th baby daddy van vicker, Thanks

Na Winch? Van and I have come a loooooooooong way.

He's cute but sucks at acting. Too 'slow'/calm for a man.

Go Van!

LouisThoru:

^^^^


So what have you said?

Classic!         Lmao