How Much Should A Man Earn To Sustain A Marriage?

kay4kelvin, am not married yet, but what i actually see in what you have said is the environment you are in write now i mean the kind of girls you met.
personnaly i do not think any girl in her write sences would think is what the man earn that will feed the family but by his grace.
likewise myself self am being face with a challenge that i earn more than my wife to be but the place where she is working is quite intemidating but what can i do it is just for me to perform what i fill is write and let her use her mind to to choose what she fill she need.
cheers, be yourself is the major thing here.

Hello Engr Kevin,

You will agree with me that money is very important, you need it to do whatever you want to do. So the first step before going into marriage is to get a good job or engage in a fruitful business.

How much you need, depends on the type of life style you want or the type of life style you and your spouse have agree upon.


Yes you can find true love, but before talking about marriage, why not sort out yourself first. Will you blame them if they run away from a man who have no job, obviously no one wants to suffer. The answer is: Yes you can find true love, but try and be yourselves and tell them the truth right from the start.
The girl who will love you for who you are will surely love you. Remember the true worth of a virtuous woman is not how pretty she is or how sexy she is, but her inner qualities.



It depends


Any girl who ask questions such as :

What type of car do you use ?

How much do you earn ?

How many houses do you have ?

How much do you have in your bank account ?

Are you a senator or the president's son ?

or who demands very expensive things is nothing but a gold digger, because if what she wants is no longer there, she will run away or the marriage will begin to experience serious problems. BEWARE OF SUCH GIRLS . RUN AWAY VERY FAST FROM GIRLS LIKE THAT. PEOPLE LIKE THAT ARE NOTHING BUT SATANIC LIABILITIES.



Just as shoe have varying sizes, so do girls have what they want in a man. All these so called high class girls are nothing but terrible liabilities. Common there are lots of girls every where. In order to substain a marriage both of you must earn at least 200,000 naira or more depending on the type of life style you want to live.


Women wants a man who can take care of them, so if you have no job, it sends a message that you cannot take care of them and they are must likely to run away from you.

My own advise is :

Whenever you meet a woman, just be yourself. What you know you cannot do, please don't say you can do it. If she runs away because you told her the truth, you know she is not for you. Meanwhile concentrate on yourself, your success is very important, if you are successful they will run after you, not you running after them.

I hope this helps.

First thing ill say is that not all girls seek ready made guys, personally i like guys that are very ambitious, u might not necessarily have money but if uve got that drive, intelligence and ambition ill definitely find you attractive and wuldnt mind going into a relationship with you, the reason some girls ask those questions ( thou most ask for material reasons) is because they need to find out if the guy in question is intellectually ok, and has a reasonable enough job to sustain them if they eventually get married. If ure unemployed but can prove to a lady that ure smart and uve got ambition and ull certainly make it soon, i see no reason why she shouldn't dig you.

As for the getting married if uve got no money, i would advise against it. Personally i think a man should earn a steady income of say a minimum of about a million yearly to sustain a marriage considering he'll be paying bills like house rent, nepa, hospital bills (when d wife takes in) and so on.
 

@focused
or who demands very expensive things is nothing but a gold digger, because if what she wants is no longer there, she will run away or the marriage will begin to experience serious problems. BEWARE OF SUCH GIRLS . RUN AWAY VERY FAST FROM GIRLS LIKE THAT. PEOPLE LIKE THAT ARE NOTHING BUT SATANIC LIABILITIES.[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]



 i agree, money shouldnt be the first thing. but remmember ladies wil be ladies, asking don't mean she is a gold digger, there has to be money to secure your home,

Lola
 I must say am impressed with your reply,u sound very reasonable and inteligent.

My post was a true life situation and your eply made so much sense to me.
 

Can I have your email address for further interaction


Engr kelvin

i reserve my comment 4 now. A GOOD TOPIC

INTERESTING TOPIC

@ Focused - good explanation

@ Lola - brilliant reply

Cheers

Nice thread. We all are human's and it so happens that our greatest fear is INSECURITY. A man does'nt need to have all the money in the world before he can go for a woman. What really matters is his ability to provide those basic things of life and also have a plan for the future- like planinng for the kids and all that. A man who is not financially stable (in and out of job) has little or no plan for the future due to some limitating factors. Few women would stand by such men and wait for better days to come especially those who feel that they are due for marriage.

On the other hand, any woman who is approached by a guy and she starts asking such questions like the kind of ride, if he has a house etc is nothing but a selfish/greedy person and would not hesitate to leave such a man when the going goes bad. Chau!!

I believe if a man gets a woman who loves him for who he is, i mean true love, what do the man expects in a woman again he should go ahead.presently am still an applicant but my babe who works in one of our new generation banks loves me irrespective of people who come decieving her.she takes me the way she sees me.that is when she notice some stuffs you're made up of. i am not doubtful i believe such girls are real and can be found.also being open to your girl from the word go matters alot in every relationships.all am saying is that u dnt need much but as time goes on u see things for yourself

@Engr Kelvin
u don turn to another thing else now oooooo,
hei hei Engr him self haaaaaaaa hhaaaaaa !!!!!!
is clear where u are going
full stop.

I don't think it is a matter of how much. It is more of how convenient or comfortable should a man be before getting married. You need a good job that can feed you, cloth you, shelter you and provide some basic comforts of life. Your taste will determine what you consider as convenient or comfortable for you. The kind of babe you want to marry will also influence how comfortable you should be before marrying her. You also want to consider the kind of nursery and primary school or creche you want to put your children.

But don't forget that your income will be increasing as you climb the ladder of your career. That is why you need a good career before you marry.

there are guys that earn 100k monthy and yet can't take care of themselves muchless a wife.i really think the HOW much you earn is the most important issue.you as a guy what r:

your ambitions and aspirations in life?are you there already?
what are your future plans?how long would it take you to get there?
what are your wants and needs?which comes first?
your present income,how do you spend it?do you have any allocation for the future or living from hand to mouth?

i believe if any human being(both sexes) get those things right and marry the right partner too,they would be able to stay together,regardless of how much they earn.

If the ladies on this thread represent the opinion of our ladies then, i am begining to see hope in a state of near hopelessness.

Peace to all!

If she can cook: about $80,000 per month (without any kid); $100,000 per month (with no more than two kids).

If she can't cook: about $110,000 per month (without any kid); $150,000 per month (with no more than two kids).

These estimates are for the Lagos metropolis.

well let me speak 4 myself: can date a guy who does not have a job yet so far he does not have the mentality that money is everything. then he must show that he is intelligent, hardworking, can produce meaningful results, well brought up and disciplined, likes to read real books believes that the power to make wealth lies in him trusting God and he is open to corrections, loving and romantic bet u he can never have problem dating a lady that will turn his live around for good and impact him positively.


well going by the cost of living in this country u will need about 30,000 minimum to run the house monthly, u will pay yearly rent of say about 300,000 for somewhere in abuja for either 1 or 2 bedroom flat depending on the location, u will fuel your car and leave about 20,000 minimum for miscellaneous expenses and outings, so check out the average amount required to sustain u. but this will keep increasing over time because of the law of insatiable wants so u will have to also make room for such expenses but have to be disciplined in spending so that the family can have savings.

if  na because of moni she wan marry me, so she shld forget it, n go to blazes 4 all i care, if u as a to be wife, if you're not confortable, i mean, if you don't hav means of survival, me no go even near u 4 anytin, i kno dey 4 monkey work, baboo chop, i go sufa work finish, u go kom dey sit-down say u b 1 kin house wife, u go kom dey fat 4 my house, y me dey lean, GOd forbid!!!!, na only mumu men dey marry such house wives these days, men wey wan get hypertension quick quick, na them dey marry such pipo, if i m wokin, so also my wife.

no cheatin.