How Much Money Should A Lady Contribute towards Family Upkeep?

dear landers,

please how involved should a working class lady be financially in the family expenses? or is it entirely left to the man? your views please.

this is why you don't marry someone who would be totally dependent on you which means that she has to come up with 50% of the family expenses. I mean a man is not the only person in the house hold so why should he carry everything on his back.
If you are a man in this day and age and you are still looking to marry a house wife you will have problems

@stranger26

 If I know who u are, and if u are not married, I will never touch u with a long pole as far as marriage is concerned.

As far as I am concerned, My future wife must be a working class person and must contribute to family upkeep. In fact we must agree on the proportion as part of the courtship process. I can not be slaving alone while my wife spends all her money on buying jewelries and taking care of her people.

And for ur information, I will share certain chores with my wife e.g cooking, cleanin the house, taking care of the baby (to the level I can go), afterall I married her to be my life partner, not my slave.

I think it should be 70% for the husband and 30% to the wife, remember an adage says for every successful Man, there's always a Woman.

i hope this is not trade by barter!!!!!!!!! do me i do you, do this or i wont do this. personally, i feel a man has got more dignity when he can provide for his family without any aid from the wife, but what if then i believe there is absolutely nothing wrong if she contributes more while he tries to up his game, afterall if i may say, she probably knew his worth before they got married and i feel there shouldnt be any relationship between financial contributions and house chores if the couples have good understanding, these shouldnt be a problem.

yes, its the man's duty to cater for his family, but the woman, while it may not be expected of her, has major roles to play. who says men don't stay awake when their kids are sick with flu? who gets up when a strange sound is heard at night?
asking this is like asking who pays the bride price, their isnt any provision made by our creator  for a man to take up that role, otherwise men would, for some reasons like this, some would say its a man's world,no matter how you try to manipulate things a woman comes out unfavoured in most cases.

well said!!!!!!!!!!!.

@ fabiyi
Biblically a woman also supposes to contribute to house hood
read ecclesiastic's 6 or proverbs 6 among the two.
the bible say a good wife must cata for food in her house, must weave cotton in order to make clothe for the children
must not seat and wait for the husband to close with food from his working place.
infact what the bible require of woman in that chapter for me is too much if really we are to follow it i pity for women
but then we have to less the burden.

I believe a woman should also contribute.

She shouldn't leave everything to her husband to do just because the Bible says the husband is the head of the home

The main point is that the husband should be the one to make decisions, ofcourse he will contribute

Woman! Let us rise up to every challenge in our homes

We are capable!

@topic

my candid words to young is not to go into marriage expecting what their ladies is going to contribute.go in if u are ready, its not out of place if she contributes though in the spirit of building the family of their dreams

This is how we do it in our home:
Made up numbers

His income plus my income = Total
30K         +            40K        = 70K

Total amount of bills = 3K per month

Difference in income = my income/total income
                                = 40/70 = 57%

Total amount of bills * .57 = amount to contribute
3000 * .57 = 1710

In the above example I would contribute 1710 to the mantaince of the house budget and he would contribute 1290.  The rest is yours to spend or save.

As much as she can afford to bring out.

so tell me how it is done in your neck of the woods.

And they asked how each person did it, so i offered our forumla that works for us.  It is up to the poster to decide what to do with that information.

Poster, in my culture, we don't think or consider how much the women is suppose to contribute. We would usually just come out money whenever it is needed as long as the family eats well and gets enough supplies.

d good book says that a man that cannot provide for his family is worst than an infidel. i believe we know what that means. nevertheless, a woman is meant to be a helpmate to the husband which means that since both of them have become one, they are helpmates to each other. in our world it is ideal for a man to provide for his household but since the world's economy is not helping out, it wouldn t  be  bad for the woman to assist the man.
she is under the man, he allows her to go out every morning and be  back in the evening so at month end she should be able to share the national cake. though that does not mean that the woman is under obligation or must be pressurized to do so. all the same i don't understand how a woman will be earning salary at the end of every month & will have the mind to sit on it. i will call that wickedness & witchcraft. men on the other hand should equally learn to fulful their own obligations as helpmate by helping in the house.

as for me i've vowed not to be a housewife, to work hard and ensure that most importantly my kids have the best life can offer them. infact that is where most of my money will be channeled.