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ogrebuga (m)
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mehn, you guys are cracking me up o! All over this simple issue, if it was natural for a lady to want to marry someone less succesful than her, then why are we here having this conversation??? As a man, it's in-built into you to want to provide for your family, at least most normal men anyways, But then again if you're both earning so much (e.g. beyonce and Jay), what does it matter who's pay cheque is larger  |
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EmekaNaija (m)
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Thanks for the correction. @Nwando You are indeed above the average Nigerian pettiness. Some others would have seen the correction as "insultive" or "belittling". May you "marry up" (to the highest you ever dreamed of), if you aren't already. Take care, Nwanne mmadu. |
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Dalby (m)
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who cares about marrying up or down, money is not a criteria for me to date a guy or marry him because i have mine, as long as he has no complex about it we'l prolly get along
99 out off a hundred, it never works out. It probably is not intentional on either parties. Have u tried to imagine how the physically challenged feel amidst the smiles, sometimes it gets that bad for this kind of man  |
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choco4life (m)
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Na who one suffer?
Common girls marry up,up and up.
And to my Guys, stop hating and go find something to do
so u cud go up the ladder.
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aloib (f)
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hey omoge, never knew yu were an ib babe, infact maybe i knew u sef, i was in command odgbo, lol, geez i just read a thread wer yu mentioned going to army day, thats wassup
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Jezzy (f)
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@Nwando,I enjoyed reading your take on this matter. Marrying up from the little online search I did seems to refer to marrying someone better than one is-whether the better is in finances,assets,education.The most emphasis is on finances though. So do women want to marry up because they don't feel like they're making enough money or is it just a status symbol thing?Whether marrying up or down,a woman should never marry a man that can't provide for her and their kids.Though women are working more and are in some instances making more money than their male counterparts or available suitors,a man should and must be able to provide for her regardless.That's what being the head is all about  . |
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lilian (f)
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I will like to marry a better person that has money more than my family oooooooo
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oziomatv (m)
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before I start , EKELE KELERE M NWANDO NWANNAA.
@ TOPIC,
Women are inteligient in terms of marriage they don't like to choose just because they want something to fill the whole like men do in making choice.
women marrying up is like having mike tyson as a bodyguide.
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Elisha.com (m)
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hey omoge, never knew yu were an ib babe, infact maybe i knew u sef, i was in command odgbo, lol, geez i just read a thread wer yu mentioned going to army day, thats wassup
Sweet babe i want to know you, don't mind marrying you up wassup? |
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moondust (m)
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because they can't "marry down", i guess
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omoge (f)
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hey omoge, never knew yu were an ib babe, infact maybe i knew u sef, i was in command odgbo, lol, geez i just read a thread wer yu mentioned going to army day, thats wassup
 soja for life |
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oge4real (f)
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Marrying up as you may put it is actually Biblical: better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof.  |
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E-baby
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Who want to marry down before, eya those poor guys don stuffer oh, Chie no one want to marry down, na wa oooooo As 4 me, I will marry up because marry down isn't acceptable in my family  |
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toyinrayo (f)
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Who want to marry down before, eya those poor guys don stuffer oh, Chie no one want to marry down, na wa oooooo As 4 me, I will marry up because marry down isn't acceptable in my family lol. . true true. which parent would want their daughter to bring home a carpenter or a baber or even a gutter cleaner? |
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nwando
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@Nwando,I enjoyed reading your take on this matter. Marrying up from the little online search I did seems to refer to marrying someone better than one is-whether the better is in finances,assets,education.The most emphasis is on finances though. So do women want to marry up because they don't feel like they're making enough money or is it just a status symbol thing?Whether marrying up or down,a woman should never marry a man that can't provide for her and their kids.Though women are working more and are in some instances making more money than their male counterparts or available suitors,a man should and must be able to provide for her regardless.That's what being the head is all about . Thanks my dear. It is not greed to want to marry a man that can provide. It's only natural before I start , EKELE KELERE M NWANDO NWANNAA.
@ TOPIC,
Women are inteligient in terms of marriage they don't like to choose just because they want something to fill the whole like men do in making choice.
women marrying up is like having mike tyson as a bodyguide.
Ozioma my dear,God bless. Love should not be blind. @Nwando
You are indeed above the average Nigerian pettiness. Some others would have seen the correction as "insultive" or "belittling". May you "marry up" (to the highest you ever dreamed of), if you aren't already.
Take care, Nwanne mmadu. Thanks. And yes I married up because me sef,I am up and I'm not ashamed to say it. I would do it over again. |
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infobaba (m)
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Who dey where |
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I-man (m)
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Women want to "marry up",but also men want to "marry down".Very few men will want to marry a woman who has higher income than them.
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nwando
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Women want to "marry up",but also men want to "marry down".Very few men will want to marry a woman who has higher income than them.
In my Church in Enugu,a big Pentecostal Church,our pastor looked an engaged brother (who was a carpenter living in one room) in the face and advised him that the chick he was about to marry was not in his league.The lady had a car,a great job and lived in a big house. He told him the marriage would not work because it was not designed to work. Thank God he listened. |
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nwando
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I am pretty ambitious and I have a desire to get wealth but I do not desire to personally make more money than my husband,ever
I would always want him to be the main provider for the family.
I believe that will make him see himself as the head of the family which he is.
It just looks wierd to see men running errands and babysitting while their wives work double shifts because they make more.
I'm sure those men don't feel good about the situation.
Sitting at home watching "Judge Judy" and "oprah"
These men can only make noise in Nigeria because amongst their contemporaries here people know who brings home the money.
I know there are temporary setbacks and roles are reversed but every one should pray it's only temporary.
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bjibola
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Guess we fill each other's needs. With all the talk, how many guys really want to marry up. What guy wants a woman with more money than him and will lord it over him(Your Ego wont take that, even if u scream u want it). Truth Guys! We just rub your ego. You don't want to marry up, we don't want to marry down. EOD |
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Signor Zax
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mARRY uP? maRRY doWN?
marRY lefT? marrY righT?
marry centre?
ABEG Joo, AL MARRY NA MARRY.
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ono (m)
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Interesting topic. And BabyOsisi aka Nwando, I hope all your entries will encourage the ''lazy'' ones among us to wake up.
But folks, I have a case in hand where a ''brother'' dated a girl of his dreams while he earned more than this girl. At the time, he was earning just above 100k per month, while the girl had just finished serving (NYSC) and was in the job market. The babe sure agreed to marry my guy, and they were living fine. The girl later got a job with pay almost 3 times that of my brother friend - in thesame company my brother friend is working, after just a couple of months - she sure had the talents, excellent grade from his school in an engineering program. She's damned pretty too. Everyone would like to have her.
Her great job not withstanding, they went ahead and got married. After some time, my brother friend came back to me for advice. He's having a rough time in there with the chick. At the slightest provocation, the girl tells him, he's supposed to know that she's the one taking care of the home and all that thrash - you know how women behaves with their mouth. He isn't planning a divorce, he just wants his marriage to work. At the moment, his wife still earns more than himself, albeit, the gap isn't as wide as before - just a couple of thousands - according to him.
How do I advise my brother friend to make his marriage of 2 years work?
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PTH (m)
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How do I advise my brother friend to make his marriage of 2 years work?
patience and hardwork. Sister will soon climb out of her home in the clouds. |
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oziomatv (m)
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I am pretty ambitious and I have a desire to get wealth but I do not desire to personally make more money than my husband,ever
I would always want him to be the main provider for the family.
I believe that will make him see himself as the head of the family which he is.
It just looks wierd to see men running errands and babysitting while their wives work double shifts because they make more.
I'm sure those men don't feel good about the situation.
Sitting at home watching "Judge Judy" and "oprah"
These men can only make noise in Nigeria because amongst their contemporaries here people know who brings home the money.
I know there are temporary setbacks and roles are reversed but every one should pray it's only temporary . Bia Nwando I thought you're a man, ever since I've been refering you as a man never knew you're a woman. |
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FemiATL
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Bia Nwando I thought you're a man, ever since I've been refering you as a man never knew you're a woman. Oops------same here-----lol |
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oziomatv (m)
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men make una hustle well cause women nowadays expecially nigerian ladies no money no love.
If ladies change their mind to marry down men will be asking for permition a week in advance to make love.
exept you no dey interested for that side.
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oziomatv (m)
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Oops------same here-----lol hello |
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omoge (f)
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em Ono, So how do women behaves with their mouth?  |
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omoge (f)
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he should look for another job with higher pay the bacon should be fat sister Nwando, make i borrow your word (bacon) bo . |
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azucar (f)
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why not marry up; maybe some of the men out there can use the situation as motivation. hey; the Sky's the limit.
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