My Life Is Amazed

Hmmm! Yes my life is amazed the way i look back. I am gratefully and thankfully to my parent who sent me special school early at age 3.

By the time you read this, i bet you did not know me well.

I am truly profoundly deaf since age 18 months old. It caused by wrong ear infection medicine that destroyed inner nerve. At that time my parent were poverty not able to afford me sending school, my major hospital sponsored paying fully tuition for me all the way from pre-school to university. Today my parent are working class nearly retired age---one of them still working while the other is permanent disability under the doctor's order no longer employed.

Yes, i do wear a pair of hearing aids behind my ears with my shoulder-length hair covered. Yes of course my school provided me speech therapy to learn how to talk properly. My voice is not 100% perfect only family members understand me perfectly.

I am uniquely God-given gifted and talented to have my capability of exhortation, teaching, and serving with technically, creativity, and problem-solving more efficiently and accurately, professionally.

Yes, of course I am divorced single mother of two children that I am proud of raising them myself. I cannot believe that my children now about entering grown adults. First child already is grown adult at age 19 but the last 2nd child at age 14 will be grown adult in 3 more years to go.

Finally everyday in my whole life, lot of people underestimated thought me look 20 years younger, fresh out from college, never been married, never have children---but they are wrong. Everyone could not believe me when i told them revealed. Lot of them asked me what is my secret of being young. I ain't tell.

Sometimes i accepted criticized so harshly but i don't tolerate, because they do not know what they are doing. Very few thought I was scammer, very few thought i was somewhat foreign---because of my grammar structure. They have forgotten that my English is my second language, SIGN LANGUAGE is my first language. In the US, sign language is UNIVERSAL LANGUAGE acceptable.

Thank God that my life is so amazing everyday as long as I live and breathe so fresh like a rose that blossom. Wow, my children grow up so fast turning grown adult soon. Thank God!

Yes, dating a hearing guy is over-rated to me.

In my lifelong dream since my childhood, i always yearned for marrying a hearing husband. Now, in the reality, it does not happen. The same reason where white men/black women who married does not lasted up to 3 years.

My ex-husband is deaf, getting married him was not my idea. That was my mother who forced me into marriage that does not lasted 5 years. Because she was worrywart, paranoid, and overprotective about my deafness how to raise my first baby when i was pregnant during college senior year (4 months left to graduate) and does not believe in wedlock.

My mother always forgot that i have special alert device with the lamp flash for baby crying, doorbell, phone ringing, fire alarm as well as wearing pair of behind-the-ears hearing aids.

It is not fair to my sister, who is hearing, got pregnant after secondary school graduation---my mother did not force my sister to get married. I felt myself INSULT, just because I am deaf and my sister is hearing! But I graduated college to have full-time job, have my own car and settle down my own apartment. My sister just graduated from high school and drop out college because of baby.

Dating deaf guy is OUT OF QUESTION, because their education and communication level are way way way below than my level. Most of them are drug addicts, jobless, alcoholic and rely on government assistance. The MAJORITY OF DEAF READING LEVEL in the USA are 3-5th grade despite of their age between 21-55. Most of them are mentality (hearing haters/bashing), and deaf clingy to deaf world---no idea about facing and afraid of going jobs in a hearing world.

I grew up attending to white predominated hearing school with special deaf education starting at age 3 to 13. I was only one black deaf student among white deaf classmates all my life. Until I transferred to deaf residential secondary school at age 13 that was my FIRST CULTURE SHOCK seeing so many deaf students multi-cultural from all over the world. Most of them cannot speak well UNLIKELY ME, most of them are not really smart UNLIKELY ME. They deaf students never been to hearing school before, bec they grew up in a deaf board school with dormitories all their life at age 5-18 sending by their parents. _{(90% deaf children raised by hearing parents out of 10% of deaf children raised by deaf parents)}

Most deaf board school do not provide speech therapy to teach deaf students learning how to talk properly. I was lucky enrolling in hearing school provide required speech therapy program.

For example those deaf guys at age 35-55 whom I dated with is very much the same as 15-18 years old hearing boys, because those deaf older guys NEVER BEEN HANG OUT with hearing men/buddies/brothers- - -just imitate hearing guys what deaf guys saw on TV or movies trying to impress girls- - - BIG TURN OFF!!!!

Finally, i was told by few hearing guys from online dating site where I registered on 2 weeks FREE TRIAL PERIOD 8 years ago, they CANNOT HANDLE WITH deaf woman they do not wish learning the sign language in the quality of communication needed, that is too much for them. I think that was their lame excuses even though they all know that I can speak well to communicate with hearing person without using sign language. THAT WAS THEIR LOSS, MY GAIN (blessing)!

They wanted me as casual relationship or no string-attached benefit! Not for me! They said that I have nothing wrong with me in a relationship, I WAS PERFECT PACKAGE for them but DEAF is one flaw for them.    _{(77 men overall I date during 2 weeks trial---they all enjoyed chat and FEW did dating out with me in person locally in the public places with crowded surrounding---each eight different dating sites upon 2 weeks trial period expired for 8 years)}

Now i am not seeking for one. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!

Let me educate you about my DEAF CULTURE. If you do not believe me, use google search you will find lot of information about deaf culture.

Do you aware the fact that is on the following below:

• There is roughly 35 millions residents who are either deaf, hard-of-hearing, or late deaf out of 300 million USA population?



• There is 70% of deaf people are unemployment after graduated from either high school or college on the ground of deaf job discriminations. Most of them are government assistance receiptants called Social Supplment Income (SSI)---the similar to welfare program only for poor people. Only 30% of them are fully employed?



• Most of their reading level are 3rd-5th grade at grown adult age. All of them are completed high school graduates. Very few of deaf people are naturally talented/gifted to be able to read at 8th grade through college level?



• Most of them attend to deaf US state school residential/boarding at starting age 5 to 18 that is sponsored by state government come from US taxpayers paying for deaf tuition fees covering?



• Most of them have driver's license to purchase their own cars to be able to drive?



• There is 95% of deaf people ARE UNSAVED/UNBELIEVER. Because of  all hearing churches ARE SHUT THEIR DOORS not welcome to deaf people. Only 5% of them are BELIEVERS. Very few deaf pastors, deaf layman, deaf deacon/deaconness, deaf choir, deaf church teacher?



• In the USA, each state has one or two deaf schools and few colleges/universities that is designated for deaf students to enroll to meet deaf education needs with fully sign interpreted. Only two universities: New York and Washington has DEAF UNIVERSITY since early 1800s that brought a special teacher for the deaf students from France?




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Final reading more about DEAF CULTURE: Do You Aware The Fact That is,

• There are over 10,000 private contributors donating over $20 millions dollars support deaf needs toward both DEAF UNIVERSITIES in the quality of deaf education improvement?



• There are two job positions shortage to meet deaf people needs that are NEEDED SO BADLY all over the USA everywhere: CERTIFIED INTERPRETERS and CAPTIONERS?
Hourly rate is between $10 to $45 based on which 4 level you pass the regional interpreting exam for interpreter certification. Sample salary are subject to change that is based on 2007 at below:

• Educational interpreters to interpret/voice between hearing school teachers and deaf student at schools under contract, you will get earned $32,000 per year under Virginia state education department



• Court hearing interpreter to interpret/voice between the judge, lawyer, and deaf client, you will get paid between $15-$40 per hour contract.



• On-call Emergency interpreter (24/7) to interpret between police/doctor and deaf patient, i don't know the salary be
• many more different kind of interpreter,



• The video relay operators are A HOTCAKE job position everywhere in the USA at deaf-owned communication service providers for West Coast, Mountain Coast, Central Coast, and East Coast? It comes from both residential and business telephone bills that has been deducted $1.00 that goes to relay service for the deaf nationally (remember there are 50 million USA population phone callers to pay bills)?

Gospel Music for the Deaf Community

<a href="http://www.youtube.com/v/iIhmqYpqRMk" target="_blank">http://www.youtube.com/v/iIhmqYpqRMk</a>

This lady is a paid certified interpreter for deaf customer somewhere in the USA. _{personally i do not know her myself}

*** coming soon more REAL black deaf soloists whom I know them personally in gospel songs in youtube.  I will create my own video files as my own solo gospel singer placing in my Hi5 site real soon this year. I myself write my own gospel songs few years ago that is ready for video recording soon. ***

Yes, my video-youtube will be opened-captioning for my hearing friends who do not know any sign language or not recognize my own voice as I sing in sign language. Remember I do not rely on CD player to listen the music without wearing my pair of hearing aids currently disable that need to be repaired later.

Deaf Poem: What Is It Like To Be Deaf?

Dianne Kinnee (Switras)
Source: http://www.deaf-center.org/being_deaf.htm
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"What is it like to be deaf?"
People have asked me.
Deaf? Oh, hmm,  how do I explain that?
Simple: I can't hear.
 
No, wait,  it is much more than that.
It is similar to a goldfish in a bowl,
Always observing things going on.
People talking at all times.
It is like a man on his own island
Among foreigners.
 
Isolation is no stranger to me.
Relatives say hi and bye
But I sit for 5 hours among them
Taking great pleasure at amusing babies
Or being amused by TV.
Reading books, resting, helping out with food.
 
Natural curiosity perks up
Upon seeing great laughter, crying, anger.
Inquiring only to meet with a "Never mind" or
"Oh, it's not important".
Getting a summarized statement
Of the whole day.
 
I'm supposed to smile to show my happiness.
Little do they know how truly miserable I am.
People are in control of language usage,
I am at loss and really uncomfortable!
 
Always feeling like an outsider
Among the hearing people,
Even though it was not their intention.
 
Always assuming that I am part of them
By my physical presence, not understanding
The importance of communication.
 
Facing the choice between Deaf Event weekend
or a family reunion.
Facing the choice between the family commitment
And Deaf friends.
I must make the choices constantly,
Any wonder why I choose Deaf friends???
 
I get such great pleasure at the Deaf clubs,
Before I realize it, it is already 2:00 am,
Whereas I anxiously look at the clock
Every few minutes at the Family Reunion.
 
With Deaf people, I feel so normal,
Our communication flows back and forth.
Catch up with little trivials, our daily life,
Our frustration in the bigger world,
Seeking the mutual understanding,
Contented smiles and laughter are musical.
So magical to me,
So attuned to each other's feelings.

True happiness is so important.
I feel more at home with Deaf people
Of various color, religion, short or tall.
Than I do among my own hearing relatives.
And you wonder why?
Our language is common.
We understand each other.
 
Being at loss of control
Of the environment that is communication,
People panic and retreat to avoid
Deaf people like the plague.
 
But Deaf people are still human beings
With dreams, desires, and needs
To belong, just like everyone else. 

Here is my answer at following link provided at below:

Why do I, Uspry1, love Nigeria and Nairaland so much?