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mlawal
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if it's health wise YES! why not?.men are vey jealous!!! when it's comes to that,especially when they are truely in love.when a man knows your past ,that man will use its against u(as in yab you) make u regret why u told him about your past.
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squirrel20 (f)
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IF THE MAN WANTS TO KNOW, THEN HE CAN ASK HIS WIFE BUT I DON'T THINK IT IS NECESSARY THE WIFE STARTS TELLING HIM ABOUT ALL THE THINGS SHE HAS DONE IN THE PAST COS AT THE END OF THE DAY THE MAN/HUSBAND WOULD HAVE DONE OTHER THINGS IN THE PAST AS WELL, EVEN IF HE HEARS IT FROM SOMEONE ELSE, I DON'T THINK HE HAS ANY RIGHT TO GET UPSET COS EVERYTHING HAPPENED IN THE PAST BEFORE THEY GOT MARRIED.
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yemivictor (m)
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IF THE MAN WANTS TO KNOW, THEN HE CAN ASK HIS WIFE BUT I DON'T THINK IT IS NECESSARY THE WIFE STARTS TELLING HIM ABOUT ALL THE THINGS SHE HAS DONE IN THE PAST COS AT THE END OF THE DAY THE MAN/HUSBAND WOULD HAVE DONE OTHER THINGS IN THE PAST AS WELL, EVEN IF HE HEARS IT FROM SOMEONE ELSE, I DON'T THINK HE HAS ANY RIGHT TO GET UPSET COS EVERYTHING HAPPENED IN THE PAST BEFORE THEY GOT MARRIED.
Crap!!!  |
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squirrel20 (f)
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Crap!!! ALL YOU'VE SAID IS CRAP, SAY SOMETHING BETTER THAT IS IF YOU HAVE ANYTHING TO SAY. |
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kingsikaz (m)
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true relationship should be base on the foundation of trust and sincerity. both parties must be open-minded. a relationship in which either of of the parties has closed mind is heading to the grave.
genuiness is the word.
both parties must know each other secrets though nothing is secret on earth.
they shouldn't be ignorant of past issues about their lives.
you might say it doesn't matter . mind you what doesn't matter today will later be the matters-arising!
don't be a stranger !
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yemivictor (m)
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ALL YOU'VE SAID IS CRAP, SAY SOMETHING BETTER THAT IS IF YOU HAVE ANYTHING TO SAY.
NEED I SAY MORE!!!
You see! This is what happens when people just stumble on a thread and post, just for the sake of posting without carefully reading through the pages!
Go through the pages and you'D see my numerous contributions!
And if you're mentally lazy to do that, just read the post right after the last one you posted!
If it'll make any sense to you . . . that is!  |
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squirrel20 (f)
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NEED I SAY MORE!!!
You see! This is what happens when people just stumble on a thread and post, just for the sake of posting without carefully reading through the pages!
Go through the pages and you'D see my numerous contributions!
And if you're mentally lazy to do that, just read the post right after the last one you posted!
If it'll make any sense to you . . . that is! ALL I CAN SAY IS YOU NEED HELP. |
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ruudgal
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i still find it amazing that men beleive their pasts can be forgiven and well ladies, subject to contemplation,
a player who has dated and used other girls suddenly claims redemption and says i want to settle down, she accepts and she;s OK,
she says, i have dated laods of men, i've done this, done that, and the guy immediately thinks, she's going to do the same thing to me, or damn, how do i compete witha ll these shadows in her past/////////////////
if a guy killed or robbed, hed expect his chic to stick by him,,
why can't females be given that same loop hole, we can't all be perfect wives or husbands, Show me a poerosn who doesnt have a past and i'll show u someone who has not yet been born,
Dont be judgemental about your girl, its good to know about the past, that way, nothign anyone says can shock u, wher eu should have cause for concern is if she speaks about ti with so much pride and arrogance as opposed to someone who is repentant,
Then you can question how far your willing to go in the relationship,
Anyother reason for being judgemental is just not acceptable,
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michelin
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If a woman is faithful to his man so i don't see any reason why she should not shear her past with her man. And on the other side, a man should always tke it as a thing of past and should not take it as a thing of consideration becouse it has becomes a thing of past.
That is my own idea.
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treadstone (m)
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it is just like beating around the bush.the only thing you have to know about your future wife is her origination.every other thing is irrelevant.because you might faint when you hear from inquiry that she was formerly a red street light agent.be specific,go for gold.
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almondjoy (f)
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it is just like beating around the bush.the only thing you have to know about your future wife is her origination.every other thing is irrelevant.because you might faint when you hear from inquiry that she was formerly a red street light agent.be specific,go for gold.
Boy. I am so glad I left out a lot of details----Sorry Mr. Almondo--don't want to know yours either. Just keep paying the bills. That is the only thing that concerns us. People just use things against you when they are mad at you. God forbid!--The magic of the Nigerian loose tongue. The most glorious of gossips!  If a woman is faithful to his man so i don't see any reason why she should not shear her past with her man. And on the other side, a man should always tke it as a thing of past and should not take it as a thing of consideration becouse it has becomes a thing of past. That is my own idea.
Sure! Looks good on paper!  |
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shuppie (f)
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@ sienna , i agree with u, whatever happened in the past should stay in the past. we are human beings, and we re meant to make mistakes, unless a woman was into prostitution, carrying aristo, participated in a sex orgy, or had been involved in a swing, anything apart from these. and people should not be judged by the mistakes they made, but by the goodness in them which they can show to others, it's as simple as that. if the man insists, and if he feels he can handle the truth, then goodluck to them.
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kingsikaz (m)
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i think there's need for d couple to sit down n discuss their past with positive n lovin mindset( not for condemnation). they need to iron-out those things DONE IN D DARK for there's no such thing as SECRET for SECRET (itself) IS EVEN LOOKING FOR a hidding place from generation2generation.
everythin matters when it comes to marriage for "True marriage is based on the foundation of Trust, sincerity,honesty and openess of heart"
what seems doesn't matter will later becomes the matters-arising!
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folly69 (m)
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Really i think a man should know his womans past only if he can handle it and he truly loves her e.g real life scenario a girl told her boyfriend about her past ,she got drunk once and two guys she took as friends had their way with her while she was unconcious as they say its a small world afterall one of those guys happened to b the boyfriends younger brothers friend well since the guy already knew what happened the culprit wanted to slander her but her boyfriend shut him up made him to apologize to her for what him and his friend did.So i personally think its rite for a guy to know about his girls past provided he loves her truly and can handle it.  |
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buzyDiva (f)
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What u don't know won't kill u!!!
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yemivictor (m)
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What u don't know won't kill u!!!
That is a lie from the pit of hell!!!  |
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yemivictor (m)
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There's no greater disease than ignorance . . . . .
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bdaf (m)
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knowig each others past helps
one to understand certain situations, such when a boy/girl friend from the past wants to mess up one's present relationship.
by knowing before hand, situation will b put under check because of
knowledge of the past.
also, it helps one to make corrections
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MyAfriplac
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leave the past behind but as one writer said it is important to know if there are any significant health issues. other than that leave her ex's or his ex's in the past. Bringing them up will create ghosts
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galatico (m)
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It doesn't matter al that matters it when you meet you turn a new leaf, Let the past be gone what matters is the future,
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Chat2MeBac (f)
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@topic
As long as he is willing to share his( and the truthful version) Why not??
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