Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?

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Ndipe (m)
Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« on: December 19, 2007, 09:11 PM »

At first I thought it was no biggie then, but my views changed when a lady cautioned me that it was definitely a no-no. While certain customs may frown upon it, others endorse it, perhaps with the reason that it would strengthen the family tree (I just don't see how). So, it came as a surprise to me when I read that a former model, Christy Turlington's younger sister is married to the younger brother of her husband, literally, her brother-inlaw.

Would you endorse such a relationship? Just curious!
nwando
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #1 on: December 20, 2007, 01:06 AM »

Nothing wrong with it,they're not blood relations.
My maternal uncle(mom's younger brother) is married to my paternal first cousin.
No kids yet but when do arrive they'll be my first cousins and second cousins at the same time.
Busta (f)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #2 on: December 20, 2007, 05:29 PM »

how about twins marrying twins?

don't see nothin wrong with it.
ifyalways (f)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #3 on: December 20, 2007, 11:45 PM »

@ nwando really?
its quite a normal thing in my hometown but i personally don't endorse it.i feel like its just like one marrying his brother.the world is such a big place,i need to move out jare.just my opinion please,no critics are invited.  Tongue
almondjoy (f)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #4 on: December 21, 2007, 12:19 AM »

Quote from: Ndipe on December 19, 2007, 09:11 PM
At first I thought it was no biggie then, but my views changed when a lady cautioned me that it was definitely a no-no. While certain customs may frown upon it, others endorse it, perhaps with the reason that it would strengthen the family tree (I just don't see how). So, it came as a surprise to me when I read that a former model, Christy Turlington's younger sister is married to the younger brother of her husband, literally, her brother-inlaw.

Would you endorse such a relationship? Just curious!


Sorry, I can NEVER dream of marrying any of ma husband's brothers.  When we got married, the family became one.  My sister cannot even marry from that family.  Neither can any of my brothers marry from that family.  Cousins can go there--fine.  Gosh! I might as well marry any of my own blood brothers then.  YUCK! Angry

What in God's name is the meaning of that?  Men don finish for this world? Shocked
iice (f)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #5 on: December 21, 2007, 01:03 PM »

don't know if i will feel differently in another family but no way (with the family i have)
Foreigner
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #6 on: February 12, 2008, 10:10 AM »

As for me I would not but I am facing this problem right now as my brother-in-law has recently passed away and my husband told me that according to tradition, he is supposed to take over the wife! However, if his deceased brother's wife does not consent to it, the marriage will not happen. I am strongly against it as I do not wish to share my husband with somebody else and my husband is also unwilling to do it but it seems that the brother's wife is doing nothing and in fact, she's trying to get into my husband's family's good books!
Mortiple (m)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #7 on: February 12, 2008, 02:15 PM »

Why Not?  A relation is a relation and an inlaw, an inlaw.  Afterall, the Elders do say that when a track (road) is smooth, the traveller will want to go through it again and again. This is why it's important for us to establish and maintain a cordial relationship with our inlaws.  Another commandment:  Inlaws be nice to your inlaws.  SmileyCheesy 
TOYOSI20 (f)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #8 on: February 12, 2008, 08:18 PM »

Haaa, me I cannot marry an in-law o!

Infact it would be a turn off for me. Huh
Ndipe (m)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #9 on: February 13, 2008, 04:02 AM »

Foreigner, is your husband a Christian? It is amazing that the custom of a man 'marrying' his deceased's brother's wife is still around in this century. Guess the adage, "Tradition dies hard" is a suitable example to this scenario.
tpia
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #10 on: February 13, 2008, 07:24 PM »

@ topic:

I don't think so.


Too much familiarity.
Foreigner
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #11 on: February 15, 2008, 09:34 AM »

Ndipe,

Yes, my husband is a Christian but what difference does it make if he is a Muslim? The tradition applies to all religion isn't it?
Ndipe (m)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #12 on: February 15, 2008, 09:45 PM »

Nope@foreigner. We, Christians are not expected to be in a polygamous relationship.
michelin89 (f)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #13 on: February 16, 2008, 07:00 PM »

Circumstances play an important role.
sista-jay (f)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #14 on: February 16, 2008, 08:57 PM »

Me I no fit marry an in-law or out-law
uchetobi (f)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #15 on: February 20, 2008, 02:40 PM »

Ur brother in-law is ur brother,….sso no I wont. I think its only permitted for twins
francessby (f)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #16 on: July 04, 2008, 04:48 PM »

There's nothing wrong since two of you is not from the same mother and father
spoilt (f)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #17 on: July 05, 2008, 11:44 PM »

Nothing wrong with it. No blood ties anywhere.
ikamefa (f)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #18 on: July 06, 2008, 12:30 AM »



a definite yes!

hummmmmmmmmmm  those guys are hotties  Tongue
Godalone (m)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #19 on: July 07, 2008, 03:48 PM »

Nothing spoils.
Ujujoan (f)
Re: Would You Marry An In-law Of Yours?
« #20 on: July 09, 2008, 01:29 PM »

My Dad married the younger sister of he's elder brother's wife. Theirs is a marriage made in heaven. Both families are like extensions of each other. I love my cousins like my own sisters. Infact, I'D love it if my sister would agree to marry my husband's brother. Thats a pity because he dosent have one Undecided Maybe Cousin Grin

Anyway, Theres nothing wrong with that, marriage is actually b/w two people, not their family.
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