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ckc (m)
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i am of ibo extraction and by God's grace wuld marry a yoruba lady.I heard that inter-tribal marriage has challenges,but i have always loved it and wuld definitely go into it. Are u for or against inter-tribal marriage? Let's talk about it.
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Allcorrect (m)
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Do u think marriage is joke?  Its a lifelong stuff. Especially in the igbo culture, marriage is too sacred. The igbo pips haver the lowest divorce rate in the country thats y guys these days dey mak sure their chics get belle befor they marry them Had a yoruba i dated for like 2yrs and had plans to marry her but lo and behold my folks said a big NO. even afetr all my plea and threats, my dad said he will not go with me and i should go hire a father, so amy reasons were given, culture, divorce rate, cooking, issue of yoruba ladies having inheritance, yoruba marrige not total thats Y they don't collect bride price etc so mani bla, bla, bla. Just trying to get back on my feet and start all over again. Just be ready just incase, so ur story will not be "Did I not tell U" But in the real sense of it all issues of tribalism were handed over to us by our parent. Until we in our generation put an end to it, we might find ourselves repeatinfg the same stuff. For me, just go with what works for U??? |
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Siena
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I'm all for inter-tribal relationships / marriages.
I've never understood why parents threaten to disown / disinherit their children, because they choose to marry someone they love, who happens to be from a different tribe! It makes very little sense, and as far as I'm concerned, fosters tribalism. It's one of the reasons Africans don't unite as one, and it's a shame, really.
I'm Urhobo / Itsekiri, but I'm not marrying a girl from my "tribe". I'm marrying my choice, and woe betide anyone from my family who tries to get in my way! If my parents were alive today, and wanted to disown / disinherit me, then so would it be. I refuse to be blackmailed into marrying what they deem as the "right choice". Pretty much like allowing your parents to choose your bride / groom, with me, a definite no-no.
@ Allcorrect: It's a shame you gave in to your father, when he put his foot down, but you know best, all the best in your new relationship.
@ Ckc: You're Igbo, and you want to marry a Yoruba lady, good for you! Whatever tribes you both are, you're Nigerians and human, the tribal thing is secondary. Do what you feel is right, if you find the right lady for you, go for her! Disregard what others may tell you, they won't be living with your wife, you will!
Marrying from the same tribe does NOT guarantee both parties will stay together.
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D-reloaded (f)
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Had a yoruba i dated for like 2yrs and had plans to marry her but lo and behold my folks said a big NO. even afetr all my plea and threats, my dad said he will not go with me and i should go hire a father, so amy reasons were given, culture, divorce rate, cooking, issue of yoruba ladies having inheritance, Rofl I didnt know you people were this jealous of us sha. Why the hell wouldnt we have inheritance when we are indeed daughters of our fathers or are women not children too? We thank God sha that we don't bathe in ignorance nor are we caged like christmas fowl. Siena dear, can you speak your tongue? |
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nwando
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d reloaded give the Igbo men a try. a trial may convince you  once you go Ibo you'll never go oyinbo  |
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D-reloaded (f)
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Osisi you don mad. I refuse to be part of a family that hates me because I get inheritance from my family. Why wouldnt I when I'm not a bastard? I really don't have a problem with 'em as I know quite a number of Igbo guys whom I'm actually quite attracted to HOWEVER I've noticed that some have this controlling thing about them, very sexist in their thinking which I for one can NOT stand. Of course there's uber controlling Yoruba guy here and there who'll probably expect you to call their 3 yr old sister with the title "auntie" like some demented idiot but they are mostly the ones with Muslim ties and since I don't intend on marrying a Muslim ever, I'm sure I'll be fine Seriously if the some of the males on Nairaland are any indiction of how they reason while they are in relationships, I'll definitely pass on the trial. No offence to the ones that are sane though  |
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nwando
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There are good men and bad men everywhere. A friend in California married to a Yoruba man gets into fist fights with her hubby,does it mean Yoruba men fight their wives? Men generally are controlling. That is just their nature,period The mildly controlling ones have been tutored by someone If you like go find a man from Timbuctoo I bet you he'll be just the same It takes wisdom to know how to handle them And make them eat off your palms. Which one be inheritance as stated by the earlier poster ? people can make a big deal of nothing. |
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D-reloaded (f)
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, issue of yoruba ladies having inheritance, Explain this one to me o, Osisi. I never knew women having inheritance is seen as a bad thing in the eyes of other tribes  The mildly controlling ones have been tutored by someone Send me those ones for trial and we shall see  |
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nwando
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The inheritance one I never hear before that a man would dislike a woman based on that.
Inheritance of whose property?
The mans?
Is it a bad thing for a woman to claim what is rightfully hers?
Infact I would run away from any man Igbo or Itsekiri with that type of mentality.
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D-reloaded (f)
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I think he was implying that his dad felt Yoruba women were "bad" for him because they are allowed to inherit property. Creepy  |
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almondjoy (f)
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@Topic What a question. I doubt if anyone scouting around Nigeria would designate majority of Nigerians as pure Igbos, Hausas, Yorubas or any other ethnic group as (thoroughbreds) in this day and age. Most often intermarry and usually we all are a mixture of something not just where our paternity lies. Gosh! Nigerians are wonderful. Call yourself whatever you want, but the reality is that you are a hybrid of different ethnic groups from your ancestral heritage anyway. |
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khai_khai (m)
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women from a particular tribe in nigeria are more likely to cheat in marriage. .
most i hear about are from there.
i'm all for Inter-tribal marriage. . But me stays away from that side of naija sha.
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Xolokristo (m)
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I am 100% in support for Inter Tribal Marriage, i no fit shout e` fit b me o`!
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tj4ever (m)
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I have been married for 54 months to a loving wife who is not from my tribe. Our families get on great together ( her parents call my folks more than I do).
Love, maturity, exposure trump tribe any day.
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