Recorded Sex Noises On Boyfriend's Phone: With Another Girl

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i am so sorry. i don't know why but i am really touched by your story. it's kind of emotional. please be careful while making your decisions so that you won't be even more heart broken in the future. i'm so sad. sorry.

its a sad situation, i really pity u and don't even know what to say,  your write up is very touching.

Call me a skeptic, but have you thought of the fact the guy just wants to use you to get out of Nigeria?

 If you can't Find a reason to forgive him then forget about the relationship because the Human mind ACTUALLY DOESNT delete things. You will never forget. so if you are the type that ruminates over things my dear let him be and remain good friends with him because it will hunt you forever and possibly make you do something wrong to "even" if you decide to remain with him.I wish you the best

Dearie am so sorry about the situation but to be very candid with you. Its an incident you cannot forget even if you forgive him and get married to him. Would u trust him? would u leave him with your sister at home? what else are u not going to think. If you can forgive him and let it go and see him as another person, its right for you to go on if you truely love him but if u cannot bear it. My dear don't give a chance because Marriage is what you enjoy and not endure. But try to put it behind you and get focused. Also its not all men that are like that so don't look at men as to be this bad.

All the best dearie

You're CLEARLY so much better than him and he doesn't deserve to be with you if infidelity is/was on his agenda,
Do not take him back or accept this unwarranted behaviour.
I sugets you forgive him, so that you can move on but don't forget.
Remember what an asshole he was and why you shouldn't go for guys of that nature in the future.
The worst punishment you can give him is the regret he'll feel months and years from now, he'll remember how he blew a beautiful thing and kick himself.

Stay fabulous and remember your self worth, (don't allow any guy to diminish that)

Well I understand what you are going through, and you'D be getting the most ridiculous replies because it sounded fictional not until when someone is in your shoes and feel it first-hand. Loving should be unconditional like you said, yet still there are some circumstance that we really don't have dominion over. Like we all know, male sexual libido is really high, we want to get our freak on at any point in time. In your own words, you went to Nigeria to give this dude a chance and to make it sound ridiculous as it can be , you didnt have sex with him, well I respect your morals and dignity yet still homeboi shld be given a chance as well, some girl living off  shore and came back telling me she might give me a run again but refused to give the primary 'intimate' connection most guys believed in.

Did you make your stand known to him? Trying to test his commitment to you? But things could be a bit easier in a relationship if you are both on a mutual level of reasoning and its being accepted as well. Dude needs to get his freak on, provided that was him, LOL, same thing happened to me, messed around with a phone I got my mum for her birthday, i used it for JUST 2 days just for test run before sending it to Nigeria, all freakky text messages that came through was stored on the phone, all phone conversation data. Thank goodness my freakky text messages are only from females, she got wind of everything, yet its a new phone I just had to brush it off somehow.

Anyways, I knw this is a development that shouldnt have surfaced at all in the relationship, yet I'D say, even though it might sound ridiculous, give him another chance, just for the sake of it. Believe in fidelity, imbibe in him a little trust and lets see how well he could do with it. You are in the relationship, you knw how well it is for you and you are at the forehand , plan your strategy around something that wouldnt really have a huge impact on you, test his fidelity and lets see how well he will fare. I hope that helps!

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Beyo,

Yes,I understand it is marriage,but please sit down and talk with your man and make him understand,there is nothing as good as communication,just talk things over with him.we guys can change you know.

so sad and i can understand how it hurts, even if u try 2 forget and forgive him, its going to crop up when u have fights, think about it very well. love hurts, thats what they say, take care girl!

well the thing is this does he love you, look most of the women here forget the power of prayer, the bible says that the heart of man is wicked and knows no good thing what am saying is that if he is not born again he would sin it's his nature to sin and he would do it, but when you pray for him things change, if God gave up on us after each mess up most of us would be dead and in hell right now. i have a chic whom i love more than life but she fellt i was going out with someone and thou it  took alot of begging she took me back andwe are doing well, thou she has not forgive me totally ( but with time her heart would heal) they also say the devil you know is better than the devil you don't know

I am so sad for you. No woman should have to go through this. You have every right to feel the way you do. Good Luck with everything. I feel you in the beginning part when you had started showing him off and everything. You were proud of your union together and thought it was true and real. And he turns around and does this? Yuck!

forget what anybody's gon say, leave the guy, break up the engagement. the sonuva$#@% ! THE EVIL THAT MEN DO.,.,.,.,

hi,

just read your write up and i must tell you that i am touched by it and I greatly admire the efforts you put into it. I also read all the replies by other and realised that almost all those people are female (Women always think they understand guys). I must tell you that guys are about the most confussed living creatures about (just think of a baby) never able to make up their mind on what exactly they want. I am not making excusses for your man, on the contrary I am saying that u probably know him better than most and certainly better than anybody that has written in. It is not everyday u find someone still having a fire after 9 years and enough of it to actually put a ring on a girl's finger.

be careful about the decision u make. The guy may actually care and want to be with u. I am trying not to say this and can't but still say that ' guys will be guys' You were the one looking into his eyes when he proposed to you. the decision is yours to make and please do be careful about it.

Wish you best of luck

cheers

i agree with you sister that you should let things cool off a little before you talk. i am sure he is sober now and if he really loves you and cherishes you he will be like he is losing a pricless jewel now, so when you finally decide to talk, i promise you he will be straight with you for the rest of his life. i am sure he is really not himself and the fact that he is still wanting to talk to you means he cares, luvs and he is really sorry.It will be well dear girl, very soon!