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shimfe (m)
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I love oral sex & as such always give my wife the HEAD during all our love making sessions ,but she has refused to Reciprocate this Gesture to me.Now i am really starved of a Blow job .I love being sucked before the act itself but wife refuses to do the needful even after i poured out my heart to her on this issue.She does not just seem to like & believes it's indecent.What pains me is that i always give it to her & she enjoys it but refuses to give it back to me.
please what ever therapy any of you can profer for me will be highly appreciated as i may soon go nuts then Go on rampage .if she does not see reasons with me soonest. HELP!!!
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Siena
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You obviously like the giving of oral sex, clearly your wife doesn't. If she doesn't like giving oral sex, then she shouldn't! No one should engage in a sexual act they don't enjoy.
Lovemaking isn't about tit-for-tat. If you MAKE her give you oral sex, she'll come to resent and dread lovemaking altogether. There's not a lot you can do, but just enjoy regular sex. Don't be tempted into coercing her to pleasure you the way you want, that'll be wrong. Not everyone likes oral sex.
As for you threatening to get your pleasure elsewhere, that would be very foolish. She IS seeing reason, she's told you how she feels, you're the one that's being very singular about the whole thing, and refusing to see where she's coming from!
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azucar (f)
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well, if your wife feels it's indecent to perform this act for you then maybe you should stop pleasuring her in that manner. cause it don't make any since if someone finds oral sex to be improper but yet allow their partner to perform that on them. I've noticed that this is becoming a major strain in Lots of other marriages some people like to receive but don't like to give. I hope you can find your way through this in positive way. And please don't seek else where just for that. again I hope you see your way through this.  |
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libra101 (m)
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Azucar u just hit d nail right on d head. At poster,guy if u need it so bad u can rub some soap on ur palms and masturbate.U can tell me how it feels when u have done it  |
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shimfe (m)
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Your Opinions & contritions are highly appreciated. Siena, azucar & libra101 Thanks so much.
But you see for me lovemaking/SEX is not complete without oral sex both ways. I do not see anything wrong with it,even if she does not like it ,for the sake of love & for the fact that i give it to her good,she should be able to do it if for nothing please me her hubby as she well knows how happy this will make me. I do not subscribe to masturbation at all so that is out of the question.
Like i metioned earlier i appreciate your responses & i guess i will keep exploring her to find a way out.
However, More contributions,suggestions,opinions will be welcomed
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D-reloaded (f)
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well, if your wife feels it's indecent to perform this act for you then maybe you should stop pleasuring her in that manner. cause it don't make any since if someone finds oral sex to be improper but yet allow their partner to perform that on them. I agree with this., Stop going down on her and when she asks you why you don't do it anymore, just tell her that YOU now find the act to be "indecent" and see what happens from there. If she still isnt bothered then I guess you're going to have to accept it but first thing first, stop giving her oral. |
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azucar (f)
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Your Opinions & contrition's are highly appreciated. Siena, azucar & libra101 Thanks so much.
But you see for me lovemaking/SEX is not complete without oral sex both ways. I do not see anything wrong with it,even if she does not like it ,for the sake of love & for the fact that i give it to her good,she should be able to do it if for nothing please me her hubby as she well knows how happy this will make me. I do not subscribe to masturbation at all so that is out of the question.
Like i mentioned earlier i appreciate your responses & i guess i will keep exploring her to find a way out.
However, More contributions,suggestions,opinions will be welcomed
well do understand that you love doing it and she doesn't, so the only thing now it to except it and move on but on the other hand only time will tell, some women don't like to be pressured. |
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odiaseo (m)
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If you love her you'll respect her views and dislike in giving oral sex. Sex in marriage is only limited to what both parties agree to do and are comfortable otherwise it's rape.
If she doesn't like it, respect her feelings and don't pressure her. Because she enjoys receiving oral sex doesn't mean she has to give.
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amsky (f)
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@ poster i think understand this situation.please don't put pressure on her for it.i'm a woman and i know the way it feels.sometimes,we have to make sacrifices for the ones we love.don't stop it if she enjoys it,and it will be so bad if you look elsewhere.just be patient she may suprise you with your heart desire as your new year gift  all the best. siena,you are such a good personi always look forward to your replies.i like hearing from Uare you a guy or a lady?i wish you well in all your endeavours.good people like you deserve the best.keep it up. |
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almondjoy (f)
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Then you should have married one of the ex-"C" suckers. You would not be on Nairaland missing your B & J(Ben and Jerry). If you like being sucked, you should have married someone who is an expert in sucking. To be very honest with you, I think you miss your days with the "hookers". If you were really married, you would have understood your wife by now. Not all ladies like the act of sticking that object in the mouth-- the only pleasure derived from such an act is watching you guys jump around like "Mexican Jumping Beans"---- While women gag their guts out and puke all over the place.  Though women like that "downtown" business, I am sure most can do without. Your wife would not mind giving it up so she can have some peace and quiet in the house. Bottom line learn to do without---You get to a certain stage and you become too old for some things like BJ's!--Those are high school treats and for people who specialize in "hookers"! If I were to stick something down your throat, I don't think you would like it either. That is the problem with most people. After "partying" with freaks for the first half of your lives, you then decide you want to marry a Nairaland virgin. You cannot have your cake and eat it too. You married your wife for better for worse--Now is the time to honour those vows. Or you can head down town-- it only costs about 50naira per session. Treat yourself on Sundays after church! Enjoy-----------Happy 01/01/2008  |
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Siena
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Hey Militia, how've you been? |
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almondjoy (f)
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Hey Militia, how've you been? Happy Holidays Babeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!! Of course you know where I have been. See you in 1 hour! |
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efuah (f)
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hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm  |
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@labiyemmy (m)
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nollywood - as they say here on NairaLand. Posting the sexual act between your wife and yourself on a public forum like NairaLand is nothing but very absurd and degrading to you, yourself and the marriage institution, next thing you will do is tell us how you sleep with your wife.
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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Because she enjoys receiving oral sex doesn't mean she has to give.
You're right. He doesnt have to give nor do she have to receive it anymore. Selfish people are the worst. He should stop giving it to her. Why doesnt she find HIM indecent for doing so? The same with idiotic guys who want to get Bjs but wont give because they think it's "gross" They are all retarded. |
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davidylan (m)
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You obviously like the giving of oral sex, clearly your wife doesn't. If she doesn't like giving oral sex, then she shouldn't! No one should engage in a sexual act they don't enjoy.
Lovemaking isn't about tit-for-tat. If you MAKE her give you oral sex, she'll come to resent and dread lovemaking altogether. There's not a lot you can do, but just enjoy regular sex. Don't be tempted into coercing her to pleasure you the way you want, that'll be wrong. Not everyone likes oral sex.
hmmm i think this is stretching liberalism a little too far. Why should she accept oral sex and refuse to give? No she SHOULD give oral sex . . . that's why she's his wife. |
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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Lmao.
David will probably choke his wife with it
*runs away*
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Siena
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hmmm i think this is stretching liberalism a little too far. Why should she accept oral sex and refuse to give?
No she SHOULD give oral sex . . . that's why she's his wife.
Welcome back, David!  We only have the poster's word that his wife actually enjoys receiving. From the little he's divulged, I doubt she'd lose any sleep if he chose to stop giving. |
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davidylan (m)
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Lmao.
David will probably choke his wife with it
*runs away*
You can run but you can't hide. Welcome back, David! We only have the poster's word that his wife actually enjoys receiving. From the little he's divulged, I doubt she'd lose any sleep if he chose to stop giving.lol tx Siena. You are right, the poster does not tell us if his wife enjoys it or not but i believe that in marriage both partners endeavour to make each other happy. Its about compromise . . . for your wife you just have to give her whatever satisfies her even if, like me, the mere thought of oral sex gives you the creeps. The girl has every right to refuse if he were just a boyfriend . . . but as a husband . . . get your mouth there and start sucking ASAP! |
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shimfe (m)
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@ All, Thanx so much your opinions,sugesstions,remarks & likely solutions, believe me i've gained something vital in all this.All advices are duly noted .More reason why it is pertinent to share your problems& experience with others. I have carefully perused all comments & i see a lot of sense in what most of you profered. I intend to stop giving it to her like @azucar & @D-reloaded suggested & again i'll learn to do without it like @almondjoy & then give her a little time to see if she may surprise me in the new year lika @amsky profered . But u see in all this na me they feel where e dey pain me for the shoe wey i wear o. just like @davidylan mentioned hmmm i think this is stretching liberalism a little too far. Why should she accept oral sex and refuse to give?
No she SHOULD give oral sex . . . that's why she's his wife.
For God sake we are married & she is my wife,if not for any thing that singular fact exonorate me in this issue, @labiyemmy People like u make the world go round.as much as i do not agree with your judgment i still appreciate your opinion which u are very much entitled to. however if u must know this is a serious personal problem i'm facing in my marriage that bugs me.I did not come out to describe in detail our sexual act.The tread was simply to find a solution by seeking niaralanders opinions& possibly a solution. However if i've anoyyed you by this ,abeg no vex & still try give me your sincere opinion or solution that u think may see me through this. Hey i got to go i wiil finish this up later ,just got a call for someting i need to attend to urgently . Thank u all again for your contributions,More solutions are still welcomed cheers |
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nossycheek (f)
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At least Mr BJ has agreed to let sleeping dogs lie. Don't give and don't take. The mouth is used for talking and eating and need not be converted.
@David,
I disagree with you for the 1st time, the wife is not under compulsion to be choked with what cannot be eaten and digested. He can go down town & have his privates sucked by opios.chikena
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Reverend (m)
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If your wife does not want to give you oral sex, then find a girl on the side that is willing. Life is too short to do without your daily Blow Job |
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Nautillus (m)
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guy, u've really tried, if she wont learn how to from you and start blowing you 2i meant, you blow her all the time 4 pete's sake
FINE, My advise, get a girl on the side that can offer the expected service. and everyone will live happilly ever after
Sexual satisfaction is responsible for about 46% of marital binding forcewhy do you think "Nauthy/Bad" girl always get the good guys?
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babycool (f)
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@Poster
I don't understand, what kind of help do you need badly, if your wife doesn't like it, why don't the two of you look for other interesting alternatives?
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InCar_Nav
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Hey Militia, how've you been? what is this greeting got to do with the topic - Seun will have to ban u for off topic posts. |
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Siena
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what is this greeting got to do with the topic - Seun will have to ban u for off topic posts.
And your post here is "on topic", huh? So, Seun bans me, he bans me. My life doesn't revolve round Nairaland. Though, I'm sure Seun's intelligent enough to know the real poison here. |
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kaylala (m)
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I will simply recommend you for a deliverance session but in the main time try harder she might succumb  |
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libra101 (m)
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don't u haters know that d backbone of a lasting marriage is bigtime sex(including oral sex) so if both partners ain't getting what they need sexually,i can see this marriage going down the drain in the near future.
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Freewilly (f)
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*** runs from thread***
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