How Can I Tell If My Man Is Serious?

@timmy

WOW!!! nice pointers----are you really a bloke??? OR You must have lots of female friends???

I posted it for advice not to see how many awards it will win 


lol lol

I didn't say i don't get attention or care. I get enough attention from him.  The advice you give is for ladies whose relationship needs spicing up.  I just wanted commitment from him. It has been established i wont get it from him right now because he enjoys having his cake and eating it like most men will.



Seems like some guys don't understand the term commitment as they think it automatically means marriage.

@Timmy what does commitment mean to you?

@desiree lol, me blush 

@Hot_coco, girl,  "NO MAN" would give a commitment to a lady he aint sur about, just the same way it is with the ladies too.  I feel your ma has not seen the proper reason for commitment, you don't give it, your earn it. You really have to prove it to him that he needs to show some commitment Another irony of it all is that, he may be commited already, but you are the one not seeing things as it is,  Somtyms we give ourselves selfish reasons,  you just have to learn more about your man. We man are diffrent at evry level in life

A man is diffrent when he wants you, diff. when he just gets you, diff when he wants sex, diff. whe he's broke, diff. when he has money, diff when, yada yada,

So maybe he is in another diffrent state only you have to find out and adjust to it.

As regards seeing other women, well its a mans chioce, even when i say i didnt see other girls (in true sence) i still had some flings back then. but after sometime i got over them.

if he still give you all the care and attention you need, then other girls are just trips, evry man likes to know girls want him, and many girls like a man whois hooked,  they feel they are better thats why another girl hooked him up,
So _coco relax, yur man is yours,  just say that to your self, take a deep breath and smile 

Spend the weekend together making love and evrything would be just fine

girl

it takes both parties to commit

If 1 party is fucking up

Then ,  mess all

The guy sincerely never ready !!!!

Move up

I did not say move , I said move up

meaning ,   

if a guy  insists on meeting your family and wants u to meet his then he is more or less serious bout you

 

For the upteenth time i didn't say i want marriage and no i am not desperate! I unlike 'we guys' believe in sticking to one person, helping them grow and investing training time. (Yes men have to be trained).

What the heck are you trying to say about me being a liability? Am i your woman? you may have the audacity to call her a liability but dint even go there with me. What on earth are you talking about independence? I guess you mean 'your space to sleep around' which in turn will turn out to be a liability to your women when your hood catches fire!

If you don't understand,  ask! Don't go putting your 2 Kobo and then insult me while at it!

@ abakinola

Am i short tempered just because i replied to your insults or you have a way of knowing how people are? You seem to have a rather negative perception of women. You are yet to explain how a woman can be a liability, what financially? emotionally? You are speaking from a bachelor's point of view and it shows through your words.

I did not post the entire story just the areas i needed advice on so as i said before ask before you start the sarkiness. Also i am not paranoid. Women never are.

Actually men over here are scared of a woman who is 'up and doing' and tend to go for the less confident ones who will then think the sun shines out of their .

Men do not commit because they feel it will lead to marriage. Simple.  I can be doing well financially, submissive as a housewife, prepare finger lick'n meals, be a slut in the bedroom along with a body that's slamming and the man will still have a reason not to commit.

Its not us women with the problem, its the men.

It's time i find me a real man!

lol

Every man wants a woman who can 'work it' in the bedroom.  Even you, so don't even go there with the stooshness. I won't front, I would like a man who can give me the 'wickedest slam' and entertain my mind. If your woman was crap in bed you would look elsewhere to get satisfied. Admit it.

You said you were too scared dating another and now you are suggesting you jump into the fire with me? lol

Sharp guy, (this is the serious guy we've been talking about!)

just look at his way of acting

my dear, the earlier u move on with ur life, the best for u!!!!! the truth of the matter is that he has "seen u all", there is nothing exciting again to look forward to. i believe in this saying "why buy the cow if u can get the milk for free?". men love "the chase"!!!! there must be that pully that will make them want to keep u. but in ur case, there is nothing more to pull u to him because he has seen it all.

as for him not having the money, honey please wisen up!!!! if ur boyfriend sees a babe he considers a wife material, he will be married before u say"jackpot". please dear, i advice u take a firm decision. stop throwing yourself at him. if he is truely serious, he would marry u. if not, just be his friend. because the truth of th matter is that he is blocking u from seeing serious guys that want u for keeps!!! because once u meet another guy,u fail to see his interest in u because right in ur heart, all u see is this guy that is using u to practice marriage. note if he marries someone else in future, he'll be a good hubby because he has practiced everything about marriage with u. so dear, the earlier u tell yourself the bitter truth and move on, the ealier u'll find someone that truely loves and wants to keep u for life. but let him know that u'll still remain his friend and u r not leaving him because he has no pay yet (after all u've been with him for the past 4yrs without pay).

good luck!!!!!!!!!