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hacker777
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hi nairalanders,
i want you guys to help me out here.
i met this babe 3years back, but our relationship never got so strong not untill about 6months ago.
now she feeds me with not just stories of how much she loves me but also her relationship with so many guys after and before we met 3years ago.
the issue now is that she claims to be a changed person making promises to stay faithful with me, but with all that she still recieves and sends calls and text messages from guys about love, the worst of it all happened today when she text me that she is lonely and that one of her ex wants her to come and check him in his place, asking me if she should go and see him.
mind you that i am in warri going through a training in one of the largest oil companies while she is in lagos.
she will be going back to school soon.
do you think she is worthy of my trust?
what do you think i should do with this relationship, ?
please help me out.
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hacker777
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abeg make una help me nairalanders.
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blackmann
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Pally u better dump that babe like she's hot. For a girl to tell me she's bored and wants to go hang out with er so-called ex, oboy no let the babe mumu u o!! i won't be surprised if she soon asks you for permission to have sex with the guy.
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hacker777
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thanks man.
noted
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hacker777
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people please dont keep quiet on me, i need your advice
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desgiezd (m)
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do you think she is worthy of my trust?
You should trust your dog more than you would trust her |
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kingkams (m)
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@ poster,
You're just not around for how long and she's bored and wants to visit her Ex.
That goes to show you what she will do after you get married and have to go for a business trip etc.
One thing i can guarantee you is, she's not for the future. She just wants to kill you with honesty.
Bail Out, NOW!
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Nautillus (m)
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NO!!!
NEVA EVA TRUST HER, IF THE SEX IS VERY GOOD THEN KEEP SHAGGIN and keep you heart out of it, But if not. Bounce and move on,i have been with a gal like that b4. THEY NEVA CLD STOP SCREWIN her Ex's
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yimiton (f)
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All these school girlfriends. . . .
shakes head and leaves thread
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tboy1 (m)
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Like evry1 has advised u, you should break up with the lady ASAP(i know its hard, but there are somethings u just have to do)
What u need a lady who u'll trust 110%.I know they are very rare but they do exist.If there is no TRUST in your relationship then the relationship is not worth keeping. Don't waste your time with the girl- Get out of that your relationship TODAY!!!
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hacker777
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men, thanks for all the responses, it tells me that i still av my brain on my head.
but the issue is that she wants me to trust her. also she is my reverend's daughter.
both families are aware and are looking forth to see us marry, though they lack the knowledge of what is going on.
i asked her just now to tell me three things she wants to go and do at the guy's place and all she could say is that since i did not let her go and of which she did not i should not bother asking what she would have gone there to do.
people i need help.
truth is that i really love this girl and wont want to end our relationship based on speculations that cannot be proven. moreover i see sincerity in her eyes, could she be faking all this? or rather should i give her some more time to clean up all the mess of the past.
also am i sure if the next babe i will meet will be better than her at the long run.
mind you she claims to be a virgin, and though she kiss like a pornstar, we are yet to have sex, ofcourse i am committted to waiting till marriage.
please i need your help good people.
god bless you.
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tboy1 (m)
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but the issue is that she wants me to trust her. also she is my reverend's daughter.
So what? i asked her just now to tell me three things she wants to go and do at the guy's place and all she could say is that since i did not let her go and of which she did not i should not bother asking what she would have gone there to do.
people i need help.
Listen,no responsible girl will tell her current boyfriend that she is going to see her EX.I'm still waiting for the person that will try that shit wit me.I'll have to blow her head  truth is that i really love this girl and wont want to end our relationship based on speculations that cannot be proven. moreover i see sincerity in her eyes, could she be faking all this? Yes she can.
mind you she claims to be a virgin, and though she kiss like a pornstar
Homie, u're really funny. Anyways Goodluck wit your decision |
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zheroes (m)
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you joined this forum about 10months ago, you obviously should have learnt your lessons from similar threads.
Is there anything further i can help you with?
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Busta (f)
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@topic,
why don't u just tell her that u're not comfortable with her hanging out at her ex's place.
if she refuse to listen to u, then u gotta leave her and find someone who would share your opinion.
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sleekdot (m)
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abeg make una help me nairalanders.
My guy you are funny oh, You better run for your life HIV no dey show for face |
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sagitarius (m)
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Personally,i've had sex on several occassions with my Ex.therefore,there's no way i'll advise u 2 let her do it, why can't she hang out with her girl friends?Naaaaaaaaaah,she aint good.
shakes head & kicks d thread
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adeboo (f)
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How old is she?
I did something like that when i was like 16.
She is taking the whole honesty in relationship thing to another level.
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top_kin (m)
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Bros, my candid advice, forget her!
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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There are high chances she might be cheating on you. But talk it over with her, if you both can't cope with the distance then part ways.
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blackmann
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Bros like everyone has said, take a hike!!! She knows you love her so much and that's why she's taking advantage of your situation. Even if she had asked you for permission, how are you to know that she hadn't gone already? And which sensible girl will want to go spend some time with her EX when she knows she has a new boyfriend? Boy the babe is cheating on you. Don't look at it that she's your reverends daughter or what and don't fall for that stupid look in her eyes. Most girls are like that and it's when they know they are doing something wrong that they give that look. Boy abeg use your brain. Don't let her fool u. before i leave, did u say somewhere that she still receives and SENDS love texts from other guys? And how do porn stars kiss? i'll like to know pal . |
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Nautillus (m)
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men, thanks for all the responses, it tells me that i still av my brain on my head.
but the issue is that she wants me to trust her. also she is my reverend's daughter.
both families are aware and are looking forth to see us marry, though they lack the knowledge of what is going on.
i asked her just now to tell me three things she wants to go and do at the guy's place and all she could say is that since i did not let her go and of which she did not i should not bother asking what she would have gone there to do.
people i need help.
truth is that i really love this girl and wont want to end our relationship based on speculations that cannot be proven. moreover i see sincerity in her eyes, could she be faking all this? or rather should i give her some more time to clean up all the mess of the past.
also am i sure if the next babe i will meet will be better than her at the long run.
mind you she claims to be a virgin, and though she kiss like a pornstar, we are yet to have sex, ofcourse i am committted to waiting till marriage.
please i need your help good people.
god bless you.
Its obvious that you Love you galfriend so much. at the least, you will be compensated by the fact that you have loved FULLY in your lifetime. But truth be told, i do not think HER VIRGIN claims are true with this whole "Ex" thing and if you think you can see sinserity anywhere near her then yo must think again. HUMAN ARE VERY DECEPTIVE CREATURES. I hope you guyz can survive this phase and come out stronger, sinserely i do. Its just that the odds are SERIOUSLY against you guyz. Your blind trust can only get you in trouble. 4get the "child of a pastor thing" infact history has it that "they" are usually more negative driven than kids of regular people [if you know what i mean] so thats even a dis advantage [sorry to say] My verdict: its a 75% chance that you guyz wont make it. |
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hacker777
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thanks so much good people.
i pray that god help you in all your endeavours.
we did spoke all through last night and after it all she got me more confused. i did all i could to cause her to get annoyed but men she was unyielding to that. she never raised her voice at me, she was all receptive.
i tried all i could so that she will atleast react like someone who has some skeleton in her cupboard but she just wont.
she said she never intended to get me so mad, that she cannot even tell what made her ask me for such a permission. also that she has been missing me so much that some of her behaviours are irrational.
she claimed that she could have gone there without my permission, that for her to ask for my permission should tell me that she wasn't serious with what she said.
people i am confused, though i have known her to be a very good liar infact she deserves an award at that, but like tuface said nobody holy pass.
ofcourse she can cheat without my knowledge of it.
people i am confused.
how do i tell if i am not over reacting?
how do i tell her sincerity?
if i am finding it differcult to trust her at this stage, can we really last long?
what if she is truely innocent?
please someone help me out,
oncemore thank you all and god bless.
hope to hear from you soon.
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zheroes (m)
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my brother wake up from your slumber though i have known her to be a very good liar infact she deserves an award at that,
what else do you want to hear, personally anybody that lies to me can as well kill me, what on earth are you waiting for? dont console yourself with 2face's lyrics |
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Gucci_Babe (f)
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damn,,, lolll, mugu
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bennygee (m)
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@ poster,
e don tey when they guy service am.she still loves his hot rod.
dont beleive that virginity story,na dagbo.a babe kissed is half "nacked"
u better cane her fast before she goes back to school.
in fact invite to warri for the action.
if u never nack am,my guy,she never be your babe
na true i dey tell u
there's no gawking in new york.
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uchetobi (f)
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I agree its funny 4 her 2 ask your permission 2 go see her ex but truth is women we culd be really funny at times, maybe she just wanted 2 c your reaction, or get u jealous so u can be up on your toes cuz I mean WTF? She may have gone without your permissionDats one perspective. D oda culd be dat she is just messing with your heart and mind in which case d answer will be 2 skip. But u knw her beta dan we do, if u want 2 continue relatnshipd den u better tell her your expectations and she shuldnt bring up her ex escapades with u, ex shuld remain ex
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bennygee (m)
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being a reverends' daughter is not a guarantee of chastity
.she's had previous boyfriends,so your not the firstguy u better shine your eye
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zheroes (m)
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this guy no be WAFFI, WAFFI CANT (FITNT) CARRY LAST.
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hacker777
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uchetobi, thanks very much for looking at things from a very different perspective.
i am till a 24year old guy and believe that i still have alot of time, so i think i can still watch her for a while more and truely know her better.
she promised not to bring up such issues again.
she even went further to say that knowing that both families are aware and have expectations she will never let such an issue tear us apart. and also knowing that we are living not for today but for the future, she wont want us to part on such a note.
uche, i think i agree with you.
as for those bringing up issues of sex, no pressure can lead me into such a temptation. the essence of our relationship is not for me to sleep with her, what i want is love in its purest form.
if i were a silly fool i wont bring up this issue here.
i am not a fool.
i know exacting what i am doing, though i may be confused, i know what i am doing.
a fool will go with what the crowd says, but i am still waiting for wise decisions.
although most of the reponses have been based on impulses yet i still alot of sense in then.
thank you all
still awaits more responses.
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zheroes (m)
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hey poster,
point of correction: if you haven't slept with a girl, don't get troubled if she sleeps in another mans house because obviously the friendship is casual, no visible strings, nothing holding nothing, how can it stand. am not trying to say that relationship without sex do not exist, in most cases, as is yours ,most certainly,one party tends to cheat on the other, besides the only way to stamp duty a relationship is sex because our generation is too promiscuous.
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Gbemyte (f)
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I understand your plight,but i must be sincere with u as a lady, a lady can pretend till thy kingdom come so dont be deceived by her humility.Take it from this angle she might decided to keep u as to marry and still flirt around, and to taking permission b4 going, she had studied u vividly she knew u wont see anything wrong in taking permission she used that as a camourflag.Pls dont be deceived ,wat if she goes there and the guy rape her what will you do.I commend you for adopting the after marriage stuff but wat if after marriage u discover she is not a virgin wat will u do? so use your brain dont' let "AM IN LOVE" vail cover your face.Not everybody that called the name of the LORD is a child of God, beeing a reverend child doesnt mean she ll be an angel. Which u good luck.
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uchetobi (f)
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hey poster,
point of correction: if you haven't slept with a girl, don't get troubled if she sleeps in another mans house because obviously the friendship is casual, no visible strings, nothing holding nothing, how can it stand. am not trying to say that relationship without sex do not exist, in most cases, as is yours ,most certainly,one party tends to cheat on the other, besides the only way to stamp duty a relationship is sex because our generation is too promiscuous.
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