My Marriage Is Dying Before My Eyes: Help

That 's my point! They may not inform the subject in advance, but must inform later. So, keeping the subject in the dark is usually temporary and applicative only in certain instances.

Ol boy, if you're living in any Western society and you're not familiar with the laws, then you'll be taken for a ride. I try to know ALL THINGS LEGAL, my dreams of a JD from Harvard/Yale/Stanford/Columbia law school, notwithstanding! 

I am quite aware of the law Richy and that a restraining order requires both parties else the dumb ass wouldnt know where NOT to go. I watch Law & Order too, jare. Make I hear word.

It was wishful thinking on my part.

Ok, now I know you are mentally retarded

what is this incomprehensible garbage of  "all female circumsion isnt bad"

Since when is female circumsion divided into sections? Are you insane?

Btw, I think it's so funny when ignorant village bunnies think throwing the word "feminist" like it's an insult. Please tell me the advantages of female circumsion for the WOMAN. Please let me in on your demented way of thinking.

These are the same pitiful Nigerians that make fun of Islam and it';s rules on women yet you want to cry and say that your rules are good. How is female circumsion any different than making a woman wear a hijab. Same purpose is it not? At least with the latter however, she can take the damn thing off and that will be it, instead of being physically scarred for the rest of her life

How typical that you have guys telling girls whether or not circumsion is "bad". How the hell would you know? Abi you be hermie? Asinwin.

Obviously, your knowledge is false!


You and I have different definitions of the word "bad" - keep yours and leave me with mine!


There are different types of female genital mutilation known to be practised today. They include:

    * Type I - excision of the prepuce, with or without excision of part or all of the clitoris;
    * Type II - excision of the clitoris with partial or total excision of the labia minora;
    * Type III - excision of part or all of the external genitalia and stitching/narrowing of the vaginal opening (infibulation);
    * Type IV - pricking, piercing or incising of the clitoris and/or labia; stretching of the clitoris and/or labia; cauterization by burning of the clitoris and surrounding tissue;
    * scraping of tissue surrounding the vaginal orifice (angurya cuts) or cutting of the vagina (gishiri cuts);
    * introduction of corrosive substances or herbs into the vagina to cause bleeding or for the purpose of tightening or narrowing it; and any other procedure that falls under the definition given above.



Sources:
1. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_genital_mutilation
2. http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs241/en/


I'm not. Are you?


Sorry, I do not have the time to fully educate you on this. See:
1. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_genital_mutilation
2. http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs241/en/


I have no problems with Islam.


A most misguided analogy.


Well, I know that women also carry out circumcision on women. Go ask the women.

For your information, I understand Yoruba and don't think you can insult me in that language and get away with it.

I've restrained myself from insulting you and I hope that courtesy will be returned. We do not have to agree on everything, and so bring your points and I bring mine, and we exchange ideas. No need for insults, okay. Thanks!

 The reasons given by families for having FGM performed include:

    * psychosexual reasons: reduction or elimination of the sensitive tissue of the outer genitalia, particularly the clitoris, in order to attenuate sexual desire in the female, maintain chastity and virginity before marriage and fidelity during marriage, and increase male sexual pleasure;
    * sociological reasons: identification with the cultural heritage, initiation of girls into womanhood, social integration and the maintenance of social cohesion;
    * hygiene and aesthetic reasons: the external female genitalia are considered dirty and unsightly and are to be removed to promote hygiene and provide aesthetic appeal;
    * myths: enhancement of fertility and promotion of child survival;
    * religious reasons: Some Muslim communities, however, practise FGM in the belief that it is demanded by the Islamic faith. The practice, however, predates Islam.

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Although FGC is practiced within particular religious sub-cultures, FGC transcends religion as it is primarily a cultural practice.[30][31][32] UNICEF stated that when "looking at religion independently, it is not possible to establish a general association with FGM/C status."[33] The arguments used to justify FGC vary; they range from health-related to social benefits:[34]

    * maintenance of cleanliness
    * maintenance of good health
    * preservation of virginity
    * enhancement of fertility
    * prevention of promiscuity
    * increase of matrimonial opportunities
    * pursuance of aesthetics
    * improvement of male sexual performance and pleasure
    * promotion of social and political cohesion

Did shapey complain about FGM? How did it suddenly become a topic of discussion?

i beg you o!!!! shapey is not a circumcised female.that does not happen in our family.we are whole and enitre-just the way we were made.
richyblack and d-reloaded please cool temper.this is nothing to get worked up over.we all have different opinions on different issues.that should not be a problem at all.d-reloaded i can see you are a very strong willed woman-now that good.

ehmmm richyblack shapey and her hubby moved more rhythimically than you can imagine o . i saw them sharing a long kiss in the sitting room .only goodness knows what that long sensual kiss led to behind closed doors.i'm scared for the poor bed.by the time i left this morning,they were still in bed.work will resume on wednesday for both of them.so baby making all the way

i'm still waiting for a suggestion on how to get my £850 back.nobody is saying anything.i need suggestions or else,you'll all contribute handsomely to offset that debt

If you have some evidence you loaned her the money, you can file a suit in small claims court. Court fee should be less than £100.

@ richyblack

£100 is too much for me right now.how can i spend a whole £100.i asked her and she  told me to meet the ''dogs'' that slammed her with a restraining order to give me the money.i guess it's finally going to be a bad debt.the horrible thing is that she used my credit card to purchase things worth £850.that's how the problem started o.now i'm paying off the debt.

i'll rather use the £100 in offsetting the credit card payment.

that girl na real bad market. see all that money! Ol boy.

is it not me and my kindness.even her brother refused to give her.we went to IKEA together and she said she forgot her wallet and needed to buy stuff for her boyfriends new place.she asked me to kindly add her shopping and pay for it,with a promise to payback that month end.i reminded her it was my credit card.i don't know the devil that pushed me into going out with that credit card.i got shopping worth about £100.she now blasted the leftover £850.this was since july 2007.till date,i've been begging for the money like a begger.i have started paying back,but it's paining me sooooooooooooo much.ah-ah.how can anyone spend someone else's hard earned cash like that.i'll smack her o.please warn her  

Since she's moronic enough to spend someone else's 850 pounds on her boyfriend's place, why wasnt she living in said boyfriend's place instead of disrupting their marriage? Oloshi

What were her excuses for not paying before this whole mother in law situation happemed, amsky?

@EveryBody


Shhhh, keep quiet shapey and her hubby are riding the roller coaster. THEY ARE MAKING A BABY!


@Richyblack

You know what bro'? I had the same suspicions but let's just pretend they are real characters. Shapey might be the same as amsky.

@RichyBlack

Normally,when I come to a thread.I read the first post and the last posts.I haven't been following this thread and thus wouldn't know whether Shapey/Amsky are ingenious fabulists,quite frankly,I don't care.

Because these stories are often made up,I don't really have interests in these sort of threads. 

richyblack,just seen dr.duke's post.you may want to read it too.

sweet t you also think shapey and i teamed up or what?  okay you think i am both 'characters'? it would have been funny it were'nt sad.i work okay.i have two kids to care for as well as my husband and my career. what this means is that i may not have all the time you think i do to think or conjure up 'dramas' in my head simply for your 'entertainment' on this site.

i can't even begin to imagine what's so out of this world in this that people will begin to think it was thought up simply for entertainment.or is the fact that the couple came back together so difficult to comprehend or what? i myself have been through some rough times and for the first time,i shared it with people here,and got suggestions which saved the day.so why is this simply for your amusement richyblack?

i'm still waiting to hear from you richyblack .i feel bad because i introduced my cousin to nairaland,and when the burden was getting too much for her to bear,i said to her to getit out here and hear the views of people who do not know her and vice versa.only for this whole thing to be put to ridicule like this by someone who thinks i'll leave my job as a med assistance to give him pleasure on a website such as this.

people go through worse experiences in their marriages and thereaftersort out their differences.my mother has had a very horrible experience,so horrible that if i share that experience here,i'll outrightly be called a blatant liar.but she stuck with my father till this day-infact let's not go down that road.

enjoy the rest of your evening.