Ten Years Of Relationship But No Marriage

Try not to make it 20 years 

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@ the poster,if he lives in Lagos,run towards Benin Republic
If he's in Abuja,run towards Chad.
If he's in  the Port Harcourt or Aba area run towards Cameroon

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To be sincere, 10 years is a real long wait. i commend your patience, but its high time you get your head straight, are you gona keep waiting this long. if the guy was really that serious about getting married to you, no one would tell him to go find himself a job or start up something. he's not bothered because after all he has a waiting dummy, who is ready to wait another 40years more for him. you have to give him an ultimatum, you can't wait forever, he either gets serious or move on. simple.

Wait till he gets you pregnant and see what it would be?
There would be bills, bills and just bills,
I sincerely do believe that you can't shoulder the responsibilities alone.

wow sis better run because seven years no be guguru ati epa

Haba, you are the main problem of the guy, you stayed on for close to a decade in a relationship with a guy with no visible plans or seriousness for his life, no ambition?
You must have been enjoying one thing in him,  at least if money and ambition no dey, the thing under dey work, and it probably sweets you so much that you don't even bother to hear other suitors out, almost one decade of been available to serve him his dish of pulani, (cunt) makes him feel on top of the world, a king whose queen supplies the food, venue of "sextactivity" (since he has no house) and most of all, free cunt, how on earth could you think he will be ambitious?
My dear, suspend all sexcapades with this distorted fellow (though may be difficult to bear it) tell him seriously and mean it that you wont resume unless he comes out with a definite plan for his life which he is ready to implement and give him a time frame within which to act at the expiration of which you look else where for love with a guy that will be capable to shoulder responsibilities.
Time waits for no one, now is the time to act as you said, keep him on his toes, stop sleeping with him now, if he is not ready to loose you i.e if he loves you as you claim, he will change n get serious.

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true talk jare

please don't run you have to be very patient, because i have experience such situation before but now am  enjoying.  Talk to him and know what he is up to before u run or  u should pray for him and am sure God is going to help

If age is still on your side and you truely love this guy you fit wait but if not my sista make hay fast while the sun still dey shine o, don't wait till the time when you'll need to start praying for toasters to come your way. Think right and act fast.

If you are here for us to give you an excuse to dump your man, think again!

Make up your own damn mind _{and be responsible for your choices}

Nairalanders can't make the best advisers for a relationship that is solely between two consenting adults.

i don't believe  every relationship you have with a girl should automatically lead to marriage.this many ladies fail to understand because i am sleeping with you does not mean i want to take you as my wife.
A girlfriend and a wife are two complete different things.there are some Ladies you meet and you want to take them to bed almost immediately and just have fun and there are some you see and you say to yourself "now this is a wife material" i know many people will disagree with me bu th that is the hard truth.

@faakay
Very good point u made there. Number 1 question, Did he promise to marry you? How defined is your relationship? The mistake a lot of babes make is to hang out with a guy without finding out how far he is willing to go with them. You like the guy and u feel 'oh he smiles at me'(like the M.J.syndrome) but the damn guy will end up never saying the 4 word sentence.

Or it starts with he's just a friend, then it moves on to he's my very good friend and then, la,la,la! The babe is thinking 'he will soon propose,he'll soon propose '^{and keeps on day-dreaming, she wakes up and the years have gone by. It was all a nightmare and an illusion}

Wake up and smell the coffee, girl. He MIGHT never take u to the altar

Plus a guy that does not seem to have a tangible plan 4 his life. Men bad combination u've got there.
I only believe in God's will that is trying to amke a headway of life else, u've got a disaster on hand and don't go pushing it on God.

@onyeka and ODIX.
TRUE TALK AS IT IS!!
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My dear, 10 years of a relationship without a focus is not a joke.I just pray that God will order your steps,your thought to take a right decision, because is easier said than done !

 Baby, what as be keeping you waiting till now about the guy? and on what does your relationship base? please go back to God and ask him who the guy really is to you. He may just be ordinary friend but if he is your divine Husband then u need to join Himin serious prayer to find out if there is any spiritual war against his destiny.

please take this serious and you will be enlighten.

hi guys,i wont lie to you dating experince differs, 4years could be too long for some and maybe too short for some,
long dating has its advantage and has its disadvantages too,but to me i feel the disadvantages surpasses the advantages,
  i dated my former boyfriend for 4 1/2 years and today we are no more,we actually broke up this year,and i have a sister who dated her boyfriend for over 7years and the relationship broke up after  7years,and so many of them like that meanwhile i have a family friend who dated theirselves for close to 10years,from their secondary school days and through out their university days and are married now,it works for some and does not work for others,i have a friend who met the husband just this year and they are married now and she is proving to be having the best man in the world,i don't believe there is enough time or years to understudy a person,people can change at anytime even a marriage of 50years when you ask the two parties involved,they will have stories to tell about their man or woman on the changes in theirselves after some years,i am not trying to be spiritual but i think its just God that handles relationship not human beings,its not our doing i strongly discourage long term relationship now, because it causes so many damages in the life of the female partners,you can hardly find a relationship that does not involve sex after the 1st month of meeting and at a point it leads into unsafe sex and then most times ladies take in and they have to go for d and cs over and over just because the guy is not ready for marriage,still claiming to be studying the lady,well its all bull-shit,sorry for the long story,but its realy sad that at the end of 4years a woman looses out in a relationship and by then she has is 4years older and people who had interest in her during that period and who would have married her have come and gone abeg make i know talk again it only pays for men not for women,our own nyt dey quick come pass man own
 
 
 

we have have disclosed a similar topic and this was my reply to that topic,well my sister i wont lie to you they are so many things we don't see with our ordinary eyes,if you don't leave that relationship you will not realise so many things,i have been a victim before,ask God if the guy is realy for if he is then go ahead but i wont lie to you,i wish i could see you and talk to you seriously and i am sure if we finish talking you will get so many lessons from me,i prayed to God and i wont lie to you someone asked for my heart on the 1st and funny enough we are planning already to get married,yu will think he is th guy i have been dating since that four and half years,abeg woman no get time for their side o,i hope you know that