Advantages Of Polygamy?

A person who is not financially okay is not allowed to practice polygamy in Islam. Many of the people who do, don't follow the rules and that is why you don't see the benefits. you need to also understand that it is not compulsory.

Imagine a situation where a Man's wife is not available to Him as a result of child birth or menstruation, He can easily go to his other wife(if he has got one) and wouldn't have any course to go outside thereby reducing his tendency of contracting diseases,prevent unwanted pregnancy, leading to no cause for abortion and thereby solving several social problems.

Many well educated and well bred women are 2nd/3rd4th/5th wives so anyone who says only illiterates and never do wells practice it should think again. They are also from both mainstream religious backgrounds.

It is about what everyone believes is good for him/her as an individual. BTW, we should be clamouring for individual freedom and liberty. So if someone decides to go into polygamy, they'll live with the consequences- positive or negative.

I'm sure there are advantages to it and there are disadvantages just like there are to every other thing and practice.

@ "Jezebel," "Hot Pant," HotFunmi,
@ "Olosi," +osisi (or whatever ignobly damned your name is),
@ other Anti-Great One ignoramuses and Christian Hypocrites on Nairaland forum,

Take note, for your own good.



 
"The Great Book verses are misquoted, to present that The Great Religion allows marrying unlimited number of women at the same time, but this is not true.


Modern non-Great Ones have always thought of polygamy as a "cruel liberty" given to Great Ones by their holy book. I think many people are under an incorrect impression that the The Great Book allows a man to marry more than one woman, with no stated requirements. It actually imposes certain restrictions and states the requirements which a man should meet to before marrying more than one woman quite clearly.

I would first like to make clear in the mind of readers the definition of word Polygamy, so that we are on the same page. Polygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one spouse. Polygamy can be of two types. One is Polygyny where a man marries more than one woman, and the other is polyandry, where a woman marries more than one man. In The Great Religion, limited Polygyny is permitted; whereas Polyandry is completely prohibited. Excerpt from Dr. Zakir Naiks research

Moreover, other religions allow Polygyny as well. Hindu religious scriptures tell that many Hindu avatars had several wives, for example, Krishna and King Dashrat had multiple wives. In Judaism it is said Abraham had three wives and Solomon had a hundred wives. Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah (960 C.E. to 1030 C.E.) was the person who was against Polygyny, and even then Jews continued to marry more than one woman until 1950s when the Act of Chief Rabbinate of Israel was extended to place a ban on marrying more than one wife.

The Great Religion is a religion famous for allowing Polygyny. Some people have gone so far as to identify Polygyny as a specifically Great One practice. As mentioned above this belief is incorrect. In fact, Polygyny is actually mentioned in the Jewish and Christian portions of the Bible! Abraham, Jacob, Moses, David, and Solomon practiced it, among others. It is specifically legislated in Deuteronomy 21:18-17. Jesus mentions the wedding of a man with ten wives, without any condemnation in the Gospel of Matthew 25:1-13, while Paul places restrictions on Polygyny only for priests and bishops, as indicated in 1 Timothy 3:12.

The famous Christian thinker, Augustine of Hippo (354-430 CE), commented that Polygyny had recently been banned among Christians because it was not a Roman custom and Christianity was now thought to be the official religion of the Roman Empire. A later Christian thinker and reformer, Martin Luther (1483-1546), advocated for Polygyny on the grounds that what was lawful in the Bible should be acceptable to Christians.

A growing number of Christians today are calling for a return to the fundemental religion established by the Bible, which includes Polygyny.  Web pages supporting this belief are:

http://truthbearer.org/ http://www.polygamy.net/ http://www.polygamy.com/Practical/From-A-Woman-Place.htm http://www.polygamy.com/Reviews/Polygamy-Reconsidered.htm http://www.polygamy.com/Practical/Ultimate.htm http://www.christianpolygamy.com/ 

Personally, I am in favor of Christians who are willing to restore their religion to the original form. Buddhism, in this case, is silent and no condemning of Polygyny can be seen. On the contrary, one could also conclude that this silence means no Polygyny should be allowed, but this couldnt be true because history tells us that many Buddhists married more than one woman during some times in history.

From above, it is proven that none of the scriptures restricted Polygyny but in The Great Religion,  The Great Book is the only book on the face of the earth which recommends marrying only one woman at a time.  The only verse in The Great Book about quantification of wives is this: Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one. [Al-The Great Book 4:3].  Far too often I have seen this verse quoted by non-Great One brothers, who quote only the first part of the scripture, and leaving off the piece admonishing those who cannot deal fairly with all his wives to have but one.  The Great Book, in later verses, clarifies this point as well: Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women,  [The Great Book 4:129]"

Source: http://www.thecheers.org/article_507_Polygamy-in-The Great Religion.html

I LOVE @AYINBA1 -- she is a truly committed soldier of Islam. More grease to her elbows (Amin).

Yet, you refused to learn. Why must it be about The Great Religion and the Great Ones? Seriously, you need reading glasses -- your religion and those of others support marrying multiple women. Only The Great Religion forbids this habit. It is clearly delineated in the esteemed Qur'an. God knows that it's not humanly possible to love multiple women (wives in this instance) equally, so He ordains it that we should marry one. Jews, Christians, Buddhists, Hinduists all glorify polygyny, but you and other sick Christians chose to ignore that and only attributed the practise to the Great Ones. Abraham, David, and others all practised polygyny, and who knew what your "lord and savior," Jesus, would have done had he lived longer than his 33 years on this earth. Maybe Jesus would have practised polygyny also had he not been cut down in his prime. Just maybe.

Yes dear.
The second,3rd and 4th wives are usually  gold diggers and the first wife is a victim of a randy man with a restless abunna

You make it sound like the average man is a he goat unable to control his sexual urges.
Could this be why some mus-lims especially shittes contract temporary marriages akin to prostitution from city to city
since it sounds OK to call these other women wives?
Please spare us.

and when there are no wives around to offload on  do you turn on the housegirls or the little girl hawking banana?

nwando,

i think we are agreed that where a man marries a woman with the vow of her being the only wife for life, it is wrong for him to marry more wives and wrong for other women to accept to be his junior wives.

now how about a man who married the first wife under native law and custom and so never made any vow or commitment to her either while they were dating or during the native law and custom ceremony that she will be the only wife. Is it wrong for him to marry more wives in future?

What if he always made it clear that he can stay with only one woman and will most likely marry more wives in future? Since the woman went ahead to marry him knowing his intention, can she complain after that he is a polygamist?

i hope you know that many people in nigeria are still formally married even though they have separated years ago and no more live together for a very long time. Maybe the man does not want to legally divorce the wife so that in future their kids will not be mocked as coming from a broken home. Now assuming the man takes another wife under native law and custom, is he now a polygamist even though he has not co-habited with the first/legal wife for many years?

don't mind these men.
at this rate,you young girls should do ya research well well before saying "I do" to any Nigerian men
The way some of them reason is scary.

so one must go to a Church to marry and exchange vows in order to be faithful to his true wife?


doesn't marriage in itself mean a commitment to the wife?
Most of these first wives stuck in these community marriages would have flatly said no sir,if they knew there'll be co wives to follow
I believe the men ought to say their intentions at the very beginning
something like

Honey,there'll be other wives later o after I marry you finish

that way she can choose to marry you or wave you goodbye.
Don't spring it on her after she's had 4 kids, her mammaries are touching her knees and her Ikebe are the size of Mount Everest
when she's basically stuck with you
Being a female ,I'm pretty sure most will kick you to the curb if they know what the intentions are.

michelin,

do u know that there are women lawyers, doctors, accountants, bankers, permanent secretaries etc who are second or third wives to their husband? do you know that many of these women married their husbands long after they finished schooling and were already established in their professions/careers?

even if such a law as you propose is enacted, there will ALWAYS be women willing to be second wives. the law will only deter the gold diggers who married the polyamous men solely for their money. but it won't deter women who have their own means but just want a husband to call their own - along with half-a-dozen other women - and be father to their kids.

mind you, the educated, professional 3rd wife will surely see to it that oga writes a will and builds a house for her in his lifetime

between, its already the law in nigeria that if a man dies without a will, some of his assets e.g. retirement benefits, insurance etc will go to the folks named as next-of-kin. many polygamous men listed their first wives as their NOK when they were beginning their working careers and still had only one wife but never remembered to change it after they married more wives

like Simibrazil pointed out when she was here, make all of them practice menage a trois, or menage a million, for inside bedroom.

ie no need for sex by appointment. Just have the frigging sex at the same time, with all the wives "working" on the husband.

And the 'menage a billion' will soon turn to 'menage a heart attack' one day for you.

eat egusi, edi ka ikong, efo riro, ogbono and nsala soup ALL at the same time?

e no go sweet laik that. na nsala today, egusi tomorrow, 

variety is the spice of life but all at the same time na extreme greediness

all na the same thing.

The man here pays the piper, thats his right to dictate the tune
we do not need to curse to pass across our message


Marriage should be beyond who gets what. If you manage to get the above done, then men will decide to have their will done to correct that. A woman will chose to be 2nd or 3rd wife after seeing the mans will that she is taken care of in case he kicks the bucket.


Education does not have any thing to do with it, like was rightly said above. African culture allows it, Islam gives a go ahead if the man can deal fairly with them.

Somebody said poverty will be reduced by 20% if the law says no to polygamy. I don't think so o
One man one wife for 50k salary will be better than one man and many wives on 50k. Don't you think that we will better distribution of wealth, with polygamy

Speculations are that we have more female to men, if all the males have paired up what will happen to the remaining women?, we might probably have increased criminal activities and unrest among the female folk. The rate of divorce will also go up because those unmarried once will do all possible to remove the married once from their homes
But with polygamy, wealth is better distributed and every one is carried along

If your dad was truly educated like you claim he wouldnt think that sleeping with other women would grant him the holy "male child" considering the Y chromosome comes from men.