Please Help Me, I Cant Take The Pain Of Anal Sex

i can't tak the pain of the above. My husband keeps forcing it. the pain is excruciating.  I'm afriad at the same time that I won't be able to make him happy.  this has been going on for a while now.  He tried it fully and I screamed in pain andmy baby daughter woke up.  I explained that its too painful that I can't handle it for quite some time now.  what shoudl I do and normally, in naija culture is this method of sexnormal? thanks

have tried that but i cantt take the pain. its too painful and he does not seem to realise that so what can i do

Tell him its too painful, simple!

I can't imagine as a man taking pleasure from something that hurts my wife, if it hurts her, that means it hurts me too!   

I know men can sometimes be insensitive, but if he doesn't realise it hurts you, you better let him know CLEARLY. He cannot elevate anal sex above all else, after all you still have vaginal/oral sex I'm assuming?

If you truly find it painful and can't endure it, tell him and refuse to have anal sex with him, I don't think you must do thatyou can simply look at other ways of pleasuring him instead.

Lady,  you are married to a faggot who prefers to drill for excrement residue in your anus while ignoring the naturally lubricated vagina created by God for normal heterosexual intercourse and procreation.

Watch your hubby around other men, for it does not take a sexologist to tell he is as queer as a 3 dollar bill.   Also remember that one of the primary modes of transmission of HIV/AIDS is via anal sex.  Don't let your life get cut short by some closet panzy masquerading as a loving husband.   Set him free to go service his rent boys, before he ruptures your alimentary canal while using you as a substitute back-door buddy.

If you can't do it anyways, then I suggest you sit him down and tell him how you feel. Afterall, you 2 are supposed to be soulmate.
_{i'm out}

hahahahaha

u funny

To add to Amsky's post, the anal passage is very vulnerable to damage, it is NOT self-lubricating like the vagina. Damage / tears combined with traces of faecal matter could cause all manner of health issues, both to the man AND woman. HIV has been linked to anal sex, through ruptured rectums, combined with cross-contamination with faecal discharge. Whilst this has not been proven 100%, why risk the possibility?

Worse still, is the transfer of faecal matter into the vagina, more complications. Leilah, just say NO. If he persists, and forces himself onto you, then it's rape! If there's the risk of him getting anal sex elsewhere, then you have 2 choices - ignore the fact he's playing around, (not wise, don't risk STD's or worse) or get shot of him! Why put yourself through the stress of not knowing where he's been?

Some like anal sex, some don't. I think it's a bad idea, there are plenty of other means of contraceptive, that don't involve hurting loved ones, or participating in disgusting things!

Leilah, glad you're feeling better, and that our responses have been helpful.

It's no laughing matter though - there ARE women out there who do like anal sex, and not all are professional sex workers. So, the possibility of your hubby engaging in anal sex with any of these women is very feasible.

I'm not trying to scare you, just stating facts as they are. You know your hubby better than anyone on here, if his desise for sodomy suddenly stops, consider the reasons why this may be.

Your first concern is your health, and that of your baby daughter. So, please read between the lines.

Dear Leilah,

This is 2008!  Last year, you were on Nairaland with this your Nigerian husband torturing the hell out of you.  This year you have come again.  If you are not happy in this marriage, please LEAVE!!!!

How can you be married to a man that uses you like a piece of thrash?

If anal sex is not your thing, why do you bend your arse like a pet duck to have a pe-nis or  any other object inserted  into your anal cavity you do not like for that matter?

Please, this is 2008!  Take control of your life!  Must you be in this marriage?  All you have done all along is portray your Nigerian husband as a beast.  I wonder what you think you are doing.

You expect sympathy?   Sorry, It is not Naija culture--but a personal preference!  I have NEVER done that! And I will never do it!   SAY WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT?




Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!


_{By their anuses you shall smell them!}

Militia, was that you, using our "regular medium"? Sorry I missed you. 

Almond so here is where you have been hiding  out, why the Island one cannot find her therapist , What ah gwarn?

@topic
He is a beast. Next time drug his ass and use a piece of stick and "bull" the goat with it. Give him a taste of his own medicine . On a more serious note, and this is my own theory, It wasn't written anywhere so before you HOly- sanctified people come at me( and you know me too well, I will bite your asses back), I strongly believe that any man who indulges in anal sex with a female is inclined to do likewise with a male, [size=6 pt] ducking the bullets as I leave thread, [/size]

if u can't convince him that it pains u when strafing through the back
if u can't find a way to avoid the pain

thats your biz, what do u want nairalanders to do, if u the wife can't solve your problem?


by the way y does he like it from behind? dnt tell me your P***** is too wide, u beta find a solution else u lose him

ermmmmmmmmmmmm. Well, ONLY to those who bothers the Diva . I am doing good, very busy these days, you know how it goes.

I have been dealing with some rats in games, as soon as I have totally eradicate the nuisances I promise to visit more often, 

but na by force too pratice anal sex, if you can't take it,
let your hubby know.

Leilah,

I have already heard something about your selfish husband somewhere and I think y should leave him too, is better be alone than with bad partner. No one born to suffer and be unhappy.

Let's go to technical part of the issue.

For make anal sex, at first you should wash y ass with a stuff , I don't know the name in English, but it look like a privates and have a role and a ball, y press the ball and water go inside. If y have shit it ll be cleaned.
Drink wine and be a lit bit "happy" not drunker
He should start playing with fingers while touch your clit for y get involved with the situation, but as we already know your husband, he wont make it.
I can say is almost impossible make anal sex with black man, if he were japanese would be easier

How about make 419 with him ? Y can put xilocaine in your ass without he realize, it is anestesic, when his privates touch your ass the privates will go down 
Of course y should put a lot of perfurme for he doenst realize the smell of xylocaine.
I don't like your husband, so I wont help him.

More wise advice from Simi!

Leilah, you have options, but I'd be inclined to leave the guy, there are other decent men around, and if you're worried because you've got a child, I wouldn't let that stop you. We live in modern times, there are plenty of men who'd love you, and love your daughter!