Which Is More Important:staying Married Or Getting Married?

Well said my dear, but just ponder for a second. Would you stay married to a man who beats you up at the slightest provocation or none at all?would you for the sake of your children's ''academic'' stay married to someone who would cheat on you when the oppurtuinity presents itself? or would you stay married to a guy who knows nothing about being married,but thinks a woman is a baby making machine?

My dear,one advice for you tonight

do not tolerate anyone treating youvlike garbage simply because you want to stay married for the sake of your kids' education. If the time comes in a marriage for you to move on,then the chapter is closed. You move on with your life and make a meaning out of it.Yes ,it's good to be married,but do not make yourself a slave to anyone for just that reason.  i am married,and happily for that matter.So i'm not saying one should not make sacrifices. Every woman knows when it's time to bail.  When the time comes,you do just that: BAIL

hey vigasimple.i'm so happy to hear this from a guy.  We women would love to stay married,but most times,we need to make smart decisions.  you get me?

But why would someone want to just go through the ceremony and not one to actually stay in the marriage.

Question: Why get married to a man that abuses you?

i strongly believe in staying marriage with the right guy! But i used to be married that was forced by my mother on the ground of two reason:

(1) my parent does not believe in wedlock pregnancy
(2) my mom was very skeptical of how a deaf child (me) raise her own baby ALONE.

My ex-husband was not right one, no matter how hard we tried to make our marriage work through marriage counseling. It does not work! I do not support domestic violence I cannot tolerate! As of result, irreconcible difference/abusive/neglected/abandonment was my finalized divorce! (14 yr now)

Thank u, AJ!

Now, I am very much happiness where I am stand! My mom already regret to pay the price to leave me alone---my own decision, not her! After she saw what kind of man my exhusband is!!!

I do wish to have someone special to share with my love life, but most men cannot handle ONE FLAW, my deafness they saw me ALL THE POTENTIALS and IDEAL WIFE they want. All lame excuses are extra baggage, to another!

I better off remain single until someone fall from the sky to win my heart!!!

AJ stop giving feminist advise and give feminine advise. Women have to realise they are weak and therefore destined to be subjected to continuous abuse from the strong ones.

Yes men are the strong ones and we must obey them. 

Jokes apart, Uspry you made the right decision. No human being deserves to be maltreated and no matter who the abuser is we must not let them continue.

As the wise ones that we are, let's feel no anger because as they say: it's easier said than done.

Make one man come meet me come dey tell this nonsense, na that day he go see kaki nor be leather! 

Well said my sister,but wait a minute,in as much as i don't support any man that batters a woman,i still know that 90% of the reasons why men beat their wife comes from the woman herself.
Most often we talk about this wife battering,we end it up the way the western world talk about 419-one sied.An american is interested in buying the Nigerian owned Refinry in the middle of the night,before Nigerians wake up,at last he found out that he(the intended duper),has been duped.my analogy is that while we msut condem the man for battering his wife,we should also remember to tell the wife to respect the husband,stop nagging,etc.
Sister you also talked about the man sleeping around.i don't support it at all,it's not holy.But you and i know that men are not the only one in it,they do it with married women and single girls,these girls that go out with married men,will definitely marry to cheat their husband.so infidelity in marriage cuts accros board.
Bailing like you said,is not the solution to our family problem,Bailing comes with it's own problem.that is when you will remember you want to spend time with your kids at the same time their father want them.the reason why i raised this issue is not for us to pass bulk,but rather to look inward and find those things that are tearing our family system,not to refer us to the western way(BAIL).
Part of the reason is that a lot of people,girls mostly,marry for the wrong reason.just for the fact that we went out for five years,at which i found out that we are not meant for each other,the girl will want you to marry her,not because she loves you,but because she is 29yrs,and maybe Tope her friend just got married.some because the man lives a flashy life,so they think he has money and want to the enjoy the money.Or the man wanting to marry the girl,because she is working in oil company,or that the father of the girl is one rich man.These are all the wrong reasons,lets marry because we love each other and want to uphold the institution of God.
The truth is that for a marriage to work,the man as well as the woman must believe in the marriage first,then both will work assiduosily to make it a reality.
Another cause of broken home i have found out,comes mostly from the family of the girl in a marriage,maybe because she has like four brothers with large chest,any misunderstanding,she will run to them,and they,in their foolishness,will come to 'WARN' the man.Brother i tell you most solenmly,the day you take side with your sister in a matter she can easily settle with her husband,and made the mistake of going to 'WARN' the man before your sister,you are planting the seed of broken home in your own sisters family.Because at any chance the woman will say to her husband you have started,you know how my brother dealt with you last time,this time will be worse.And girl,only few men can stand this piece of insult.most men will want that heaven to fall that day by beating her.PLEASE DON'T CHICKEN OUT BY BAILING,RATHER,SOLVE THE PROBLEM.

Many people are marrying for the wrong reasons.I think staying married is more  important than getting married. You may have the best wedding party or whether your wedding was featured in ovation magazine,  the question is can you be a wife or husband? Marriage is about giving yourself sacrificially and unconditionally to your spouse, believing in God that its going to work.