Your Career Or Home: Which Comes First?

Ma dearie Home of because

I would have love to choose my home first, but l need my career too for emotional balance. l tried the wifey role for a while after the birth of my first baby and boy! l almost went banana fiddling with my fingers at home. ln all honesty l think us; today's women can have it all - home, career et al,  if we apply wisdom.  l think we can have the best of the two worlds, its a matter of balancing the pendulum properly- do not shift too much to one side.
So its quite a hard choice for me- so allow me to balance both, howbeit proportionately.

l work 9.30-5.00; and l seldom do official trips. My family comes first for me on the scale of priority. l do my job the best way without getting carried away.  

what is "career"?  money
what is "home"?   children
whats the duty of a man?   make money
whats the duty of a woman?   take care of children

*Have this at the back of your mind " if your mother was a career woman (like you want to be), then you wouldnt have been where you are today

if a woman loves her career, then there is no need getting married.

The question is an unfair one.
It's like asking a woman with 3 kids which will you save first in the case of a housefire.
Both are important and so different that there's no basis for comparison.

My home is where my heart is but without a career,I'll be miserable there.

Hhmm.

This is a very serious issue indeed, don't just jump into conclusions until you find yourself in such situation.

I am referring to those who believe their careers come first. I used to be all ambitious (still am), travel from one place to another.

The experience was fabulous, the freedom and the dough, then I got married and everythin changed. Guys, it's not as easy as you guys think, honestly.

I had to make a sacrifice, and returned home to my family. I have never been happier!

Life is not just about making money, at one point or another you'll sit back and reflect, count your losses and gains, you'll then realise there's more to life.

You might be lucky to still have your loved ones,waiting and willing to have you back, but in most cases, the deed must have been done.

But then, we all have choices. Just that the choice we make today will eventualy determine our happiness/fulfillment tomorrow.

Family first, career second.

The Home & Work goes hand - in - hand with each other if the party involved deem it fit. If your aunt's home is not in good order there is no way the management of the organisation is she is putting in everyything will promote her or commend her for a higher. Because to be a good manager of human resources in an organisation it requires that you manage your home credibly before any other thing.

So please do tell your aunt that the husband still remains the head and takes every decision for success in the home.

@ nedsley, my mum(  - the mums of several of the posters here, I'm sure -) is a working woman - a nurse. i'm pretty much satisfied with where i am today.i certainly was not neglected or 'latchkeyed' when growing up.  next thing you'll be saying is that women need not go to school,  since their 'duty' is 'to take care of chidlren'

that said, i will reiterate what i said before - family comes first. you can switch jobs as many times as you want, but you can only have one family( actually, in these days of multiple divorces, thats not so true  but. . . you get the point)

it would seem that  all you are looking for in a wife is a bearer and nurturer of children.

we are going off topic - if for no other reason ( this is just one of the more practical one's) your wife should have a job as a fallback. in these days of corporate 'right sizing', you can lose your job at anytime. how will you support the family if you have little or no savings and madam is nothing more than 'a nurturer of children'?

The bible has this to say

Pro 31:10  Who can find a woman of virtue? For her value is far above rubies.
Pro 31:11  The heart of her husband trusts safely in her, so that he shall have no need of plunder.
Pro 31:12  She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Pro 31:13  She seeks wool and flax, and works willingly with her hands.
Pro 31:14  She is like the merchants' ships; she brings her food from afar.
Pro 31:15  She also rises while it is still night, and gives food to her household, and a share to her young women.
Pro 31:16  She considers a field, and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
Pro 31:17  She binds her loins with strength, and makes her arms strong.
Pro 31:18  She sees that her merchandise is good; her lamp does not go out by night.
Pro 31:19  She lays her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
Pro 31:20  She stretches out her hand to the poor; yea, she reaches forth her hands to the needy.
Pro 31:21  She is not afraid of the snow for her household; for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
Pro 31:22  She makes herself coverings; her clothing is silk and purple.
Pro 31:23  Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.
Pro 31:24  She makes fine linen and sells it, and delivers girdles to the merchants.
Pro 31:25  Strength and honor are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
Pro 31:26  She opens her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
Pro 31:27  She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Pro 31:28  Her sons rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.
Pro 31:29  Many daughters have done well, but you excel them all.
Pro 31:30  Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears Jehovah, she shall be praised.
Pro 31:31  Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

Mr Oyb

don't task that special brain of urs ok


The woman in prov31 balances her family and work in the best possible way!

Oyb

u surprise me
your mental state seems to be deteriorating

what is a career?
simple question.

answer!

I want to site another example from Proverb 14: 1. "A wise woman builds her home but with her own hands the foolish one pulls her's down". With this i will take HOME first,  God has given women some qualities which men don't have and that is to build/take care of the family. But not withstanding if most women can succeed in building a great home with their career/business, why shouldn't we? Like the VIRTUOUS WOMAN (Prov. 31), she succeeded in both, and peolpe called her bless. Let's make that decision to LEARN how to successfully balance the two instead of insisting on one. I think that is the wisest thing to do.
Thankyou                                                                                                                                          Virtuous A.

I believe every woman should be earning an income even if she only works 2 days a week selling "okirika wake up".
I refuse to ask, beg  or expect  money from my fellow humanbeing  on a regular basis
Or put myself in a position to be at the mercies of anyone.
Not as long as my God given hands and feet are still mobile.

_{that is my personal stand}

Nothing in the whole wide world is as important as
my family.

it is a hard thing to battle with.it is really destroying a lot of families in nigeria now.especially bankers.the passion for the family is being traded for their jobs.the motherhood and fatherhood has change to bankerhood.people really need to take a deep thot about this.it is killing believe mii.and at the end of the day it leaves so many people unhappy and empty even unforfilled.

i can handle both