Your Career Or Home: Which Comes First?

lets not create the idea that one as to choose between a home and  career. Its  not in the  case in most times.

Ideally, one would strike a balance between the 2 but there will come a time where one has to give for the other. Then what? For me its really very simple. It is not enough to say I am taking care of my children, I am making sure they are fed and bathed and clothed. The question is what quality of childcare does one want for the kids. We hear so many heart breaking stories of what nannies do to children when they are unsupervised. How about my husband? I have to make time for him as well. I worked in a service company for 10 years. I was proud of my achivements and I had set a standard for myself. Being single I was always available to work crazy hours, including holidays, sundays, whatever. I was totally driven. Then I met my husband, got pregnant and got married (usually the other way round, I know ). I had 2 children in less than 2 years! To say it was a struggle is an understatement. But I was determined to do both and to be the best at both. But my work suffered because I wanted to be a hands-on mum. Taking care of 2 rambunctious toddlers is no mean feat. My health suffered but I clung on. The first year of marriage was truly terrifying. No nanny, a growing pre-tem baby, loads of bottles to wash(i was expressing milk), a long schedule of doctors visits and immunisations, a demanding boss breathing down my neck. I went to work bleary-eyed every morning, looking like a hag. Luckily I could take my baby to the office. My poor hubby was neglected, as you can imagine, no sex. Perish the thought!!! With which power??? When my second baby was one I finally quit. And I have not regretted a second. My mum always told me that a woman MUST be financially independent. Whether she is a banker or a garri seller. So I started a company with a friend, offering research services and consulting. I work from home and have field workers outside. I make more money than my company paid me. I now have a fantastic nanny but I can supervise her. My kids are happy and so is hubby. And so am I. I look great, my home is well cared for and sex is fab!!! LOL. My point here is that at some point you will be forced to choose and family should always come first. But a woman should never be idle nor dependent on her man. And if means me putting a table outside my house and selling tomatoes so I can have my own money and still be available to take good care of my home and family, then that is what I will do.

My HOME FIRST period

Home all the way! Career is second-place because when all is said and done, my children (when & if I have them) cannot get another mother while the employer can get new employees. Besides, I won't joke with Mr. Stranger26,,,he should have no excuse to look at another woman! _{(If it doesn't work, might as well blindfold him )}

Too many homeless people on this thread looking for "a home"!

As trukoment says "there will always be people ready to take over the job once you leave,,they'll even do it better.but who would take over your home?" if it werent for our parents dedication a lot here would nt have the knowledge to respond to such topic, Jobs are temporary work you do to earn a living, but your home is and will be part of you til death, "Whatever left behind good or bad (children) will be seen as you" and thats the home u didnt have or have time for.
Be it merging the too together, or giving up one for the other if u are nt good in multitasking,

Personally, I think it is necessary for the man accomodate the two functions together because its his responsibilty and for a lady, she should really discuss such matters with her man before getting married, figure out what she wants and his opinion about it, because sometimes we men are biased about the idea, and then there is this insecurity of what if he divorce her, or died, stuffs like this

I hope your aunty work things out with her hubby

@ringim nice point
well its sumtin couple to be and intending ones should talk about, theres a phrase like job replacement. one could always get laid off or sumtn at that point where do u go to? home
i feel the home should take more priority, not at the expense of your career though, because a home without some money is in for some serious issues.
its all about wisdom, if the career is taking you "too far" from home, then watch its better to loose a job than loose a family(home)

My home now!  Off for a week and loving it! Next week, the job takes over ma home.  Like that--till death do us three part!