Nigerian Girl Vs Namibian Girl

I'm a Nigerian man in his early 30's and I need help right now: I've got 2 girls in my life.

Meet Girl (A):

Nigerian Girl of 26yrs. Intelligent, quite caring, very good at cooking Nigerian dishes, very sexy looking (though not romantic), but also very stubborn - has very little respect for a guy. I've been on this girls's case for like nearly 2yrs now, pleading with her to date me and let's move on from there. The impression she always gave me was she liked me alot but had reservations because i look and talk like a player. She doesnt believe I could seriously tell her i'm single and expect her to believe me - her perception of me is an intelligent, good looking, hard working young man who doesnt have a problems - and those sort of men can't claim to be single.

Meet Girl (B)

Namibian Girl of 25yrs. Intelligent, extremely caring, very good at cooking Namibian dishes but happy to learn how to cook Nigerian dishes too, not as sexy looking as the Nigerian but extremely romantic, very respectful and always mindful of offending me. I got introduced to her about 2 months ago and we've been in touch since then. She percieves me to be her perfect match and is very keen to date me - all i need to do is ask.

I know some people are wondering where the problem lies - well, the problem is I was going to ask the Namibian girl out but decided to tell the Nigerian girl about it before moving on. I wasnt sure it was the best of decisions to tell her about it but i decided to let her know before she comes up with some accusations - as they normally do nowadays. Her reaction was swift and sleek! All of a sudden she's interested, she says she's always been interested but only wanted to be sure i was for real - now she is convinced i'm for real.
I would gladly date her if i had not met this Namibian, she is exceptionally different from the normal Nigerian girl, she's all i think of and its giving me a funny feeling of guilt when ever i remember the Nigerian one. On the flip side however, it would be really difficult to get my family to accept a foreigner as a potential wife, that is going to take alot of energy.

From your post you seem to have made your choice, so what more advice do you need. go with your heart and not your head.


By the way, why should there still be two girls in your life?

So the girls are now wares you can decide and choose which one you need?

if you have made your decision, what advice do you need again.

Hey,

If u'll follow my advice the Namibian is what you should consider provided she clears the ground from 'stormy waters' before you meet her family which you have not. She could even suprise you. Her family could be nicer than you think. You shouldn't be afraid. Beauty is not everything but what she has to share is the most important. Marry a woman who loves you a 100% not a woman who would make your life miserable if you find yourself wanting.

It is best to witness than to preempt what would happen because of her being a foreigner.

Don't waste time, NAMIBIA I CHOOSE.

Toniaslim how are u?

I'll tell you this one time. . . . . .

Once you switch on  to 'getting a wife mode', u follow your brain(85% of the time) and your heart (15%).

The reverse for getting a babe. 

just my 2 cents as usual 

Oga o.

Why are u seeing wahala now and running after it?
From what u are saying - i would marry the Namibian girl sha, i wont even date her i would marry her straight.

But follow your heart and your common sense.

pick anyone and send the other to me.
Thank u

I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY GUYS STILL WASTE THEIR TIME OVER NIGERIAN CHICKS,

 I WAS AT A GAS STATION DELY FEW WEEKS AGO TO GET A DRINK ACROSS THE STREET FROM A DEALERSHIP WHERE I WENT FOR A SERVICE INSPECTION ON MY CAYENNE;  I SAW THIS NIGERIA GIRL PUMPING GAS, AND I GAVE HER A COMPLIMENT FOR HER OUTFIT,   SHE SAID IM CUTE THOUGH, BUT I'M NOT GIVING You MY NUMBER CAUSE I DON'T DATE MEN WHO TAKE ONLY METRO, I JUST SMILE .
  3 DAYS LATER, I SAW THE SAME GIRL AT A CARWASH, SHE IMMEDIATELY APPROACHED ME WITH A HUG, AND SAID: SHE'S BEEN DREAMING ABOUT ME EVER SINCE.

                  THEY R UGLY, RUDE, FAT AND STUCK-UP. I NEVER DATED ONE BEFORE CAUSE I SEE WHAT MY BUDDIES THAT DATE NIGERIAN GIRLZ GO THROUGH. ON 2 OCCASIONS, I HELP MY BUDDIES DUMP THEIR NIGERIA CHICK AND HOOK THEM UP WITH AN ETHIOPIAN AND UGANDAN GIRLS RESPECTIVELY.
                DUDE, DUMP HER IN A HEART BEAT. GO WITH THE NAMIBIAN CHICK AND SHE WILL TAKE You TO THE HIGHEST MOUNTAIN. AS FOR YOUR FAMILY?, TRUST ME, THEY WILL JOIN THE BAND WAGON ONCE THEY SEE  HOW HAPPY You ARE.

@SOPRANO

because you happened to met a mental one does not give you the right to generalise. If you don't want to associate yourself with naija chicks then it's you choice.

I wonder what you're doing on nairaland by the way. . . . . there a lot of 'Naija chicks' here you know.

Its not a sin to be entirely closed minded but please keep it to yourself and your buddies

At 30 you have to come to nairaland to ask us to make a choice for you ? 
How can we do that? Do we know these girls? 

@ OZIOMATV

    Can READ AT ALL? YOU SHOULD ASK FOR YOUR TUITION RE-EMBURSEMENT.
 
   LACK OF MANHOOD?, THEY CAN'T WITHSTAND MY POUNDING, EVEN YOUR SIS. HAVE YOU EVER SEE A WOMAN'S NUDITY IN LIFE? I DOUBT IT,  ( RYAN SEACREST WANTS YOU) . 
   YOU R THE REASON WHY MEN SHOULD USE CONDOM BEFORE SEX, SO NUTCAKE LIKE You DON'T ROAM THE STREET.
               THEY R TOO UGLY AND BORING  :-\FOR ME, AND WHY WOULD I WASTE MY TIME ON THAT. ( COMPARE TO ETHIOPIAN BEAUTY)
  I DON'T NEED A CAYENNE TO GET A GIRL, THE BEAUTIFUL ONES I MEAN, 
GET CIVILIZED, I MIGHT HOOK You UP WITH 1 OR 2, 
 

In my post i didn't insult you in any way so that didn't give you the right to do that to me.

From the way you have just expressed yourself it clearly shows why you are having such a huge problem with Naija Chicks.

Without even asking you where you go when you're in the UK . . . . .  I ALREADY KNOW. Its such a shame that the babes you expereinced were the peckham and brixton chicks.

Well you know the UK is quite big but why should I be telling you . . . . .  your type of people will never dare cross the border into civilisation.

I have never come in contact with the kind of gyals your talking about. That actually sounds like the your lady friends in the Bronx.

Well Like I said. . . . .  you are close minded. It's an adjective so deal with it.

@ OZIOMA Radio
 
    Well, how can a Human like me trade words with a " DAFT"?, Thanks to INTERPOL nabbing your fellow 419/ Yahoozee gangs, I don't have to worry about you, Its a non-starter.

@ NAJA BAGEL

   Your Home Work:  Google " POTOMAC, MD " and you'll know I don't need to answer your questions concerning your "UK" classism. get real, most people in NGR have better standard of living than you do. Don't worry, Gordon Brown will expell you prety soon, ITS ONLY A MATTER OF TIME.

 Peeps why una dey diss una selves over small thing now? abeg evrybody get their own point of view, lets be matured, aight!

@ OZIOMA RADIO

   WELL, YOU JUST PROVE MY POINT: 419 R INTELIGENT? , STEALING FROM THE INNOCENT HAS NO IOTA OF SAVYNESS IN ANY WAY.  
  TRY AND GO TO HAVARD, GET A LAW DEGREE, THEN YOU MIGHT HAVE GUTS TO TALK.
BUT COME TO THINK OF IT, YOU A 419 PERPETRATOR AND I'M A DEFENSE ATTORNEY, YOU JUST MIGHT NEED MY SERVICES ONCE YOU R LOCKED UP,
  BUT UNFORTUNATELY I DON'T DEFEND MISCREATS YOU STEAL FROM THE INNOCENT,
SO PISS-OFF AND GET A LIFE IN JAIL,

dude, u  really don't expect to get/use the advice u get here?,

at the end of the day.,, u  gotta do what u gotta do

someother poster said something about when u are switching to GET A WIFE MODE,,
follow the dudes advice, there is a lot of diff between  a  g/f  n  a  wife

finally u gotta be really strong if u want to go for the namibian,
because of this cultural diff thingy