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babymine (f)
How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« on: April 21, 2006, 01:12 PM »

If you find yourself in a wrong relationship and you don't want to go on because you know deep down in you that there's no future in that relationship, how do you break away especially when you're very fond of your partner and you've spent lots of time together.  How do you let go and move on with your life? How do you cope with the hurt and pain?

Have you been there before? How did you cope? How did you move on?

Please share your tips and experiences.  Grin  Grin  Grin
babymine (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #1 on: April 21, 2006, 04:52 PM »

No tips or experiences?  Huh  Huh

Everyone's so quiet.  Grin  Cheesy  Grin
Seun (m)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #2 on: April 21, 2006, 05:08 PM »

1) Stop sleeping with the boyfriend/girlfriend you want to break up with.
2) Stop visiting him/her.
3) Stop calling him/her.
4) When your (ex) boyfriend/girlfriend complains, explain that you want to end the relationship.
5) Feel miserable and alone for a 4 months, while having several one night stands.
6) Jump into another doomed relationship after the waiting period is over.
7) Continue at step one.

Don't attack me; this is what people people do all the time.  Surely it works for them!
beefblaze (m)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #3 on: April 21, 2006, 06:14 PM »

dta's a good one Nwoke  Smiley
i guess u take it like that Babymine cause it has worked for me once or twice!!!! Tongue Tongue
chinani (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #4 on: April 21, 2006, 09:44 PM »

Shame on you Nwoke! If you don't know, then why make light of her situation?  Angry Babymine, I think people are being quiet b/c no one is an expert when it comes to this. As for myself. I'll meet with the person and tell him that I want to end things & the way I feel. Do not say "You do blah blah blah" instead say "I feel blah blah blah" that way the person will not feel attacked. It sounds as though this man is not a bad person so please be sensitive.

Being sensitive may mean that for a few weeks he will call you and ask "Why?" or ask you back. Be patient and try and explain to him. Remeber: treat others w/ the kindness you want to be shown. After 2-3 wks after the break up, if he's still calling you then you can say "Please don't call. I won't change my mind" and after you've said these words do not speak to him unless you see him on the street. No phone calls please, it'll just confuse the both of you.

It will hurt b/c while distancing yourself from him you'll be loosing a friend. So surround yourself w/ other friends, read more, learn something new (like sewing) or just concentrate on school or whatever. Even if you dump him, your heart will hurt. I say no flings or anything (but then I'm not a fling type of person). When you feel up to it - a few months? - then you can start dating as you wish. But, don't rush into anything! Be wary of rebound relationships!!!

Hope this helps. Best Wishes.
Seun (m)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #5 on: April 21, 2006, 10:55 PM »

Sorry, chinani, but babymine didn't say she's having such a problem!  Cheesy
hayo (m)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #6 on: April 22, 2006, 09:26 AM »


Simple. Once you are sure the relationship is moving nowhere reasonable but doomed; I believe that the only reasonable thing to do is WALK AWAY. It is not that easy especially when sex and other intimate encounters are involved and there is the human nature that keeps hoping that things will change.
But my advice is that before you are exploited to the level where you lose all your integrity and self-worth, save the remaining pride you have and look elsewhere for love. Please look well the next time and stop using the wrong things to judge who the right person is. Beauty and Money are just minor attributes, character and godliness is very important. Cheers.
Coomasie (m)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #7 on: April 22, 2006, 10:23 AM »

Babymine, First step: Be sure that you are tired of the relationship and you will not go begging your partner later. By being sure you are not compatible and that you can find a better partner. He who must come to equity must come with clean hands.

Second Step:: Keep your partner out of your mind and start looking for alternative, even before you let him or her know what u are up to. This prepares you for soft landing.

Third Step: Think about all the bad things he/she has being doing to you and programme your mind that even the ones that looks good are not good after all.

Fourth Step: No mercy. It is a war of psychology

Fifth Step Tell him/her some of the things you feel about him/her. Don't say you are leaving him or her. But let it be obvious through other means.

Sixth Step  Be careful, because if you go to war and you spare your enemy, he might come for you later, and he will not spare you. NO MERCY

Seventh Step Be calm about the whole process

eveseh (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #8 on: April 22, 2006, 11:14 AM »

just tell the person what they are doing u don't like it

if the person doesnt stop and than u can see what to do
Fluffy (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #9 on: April 22, 2006, 11:19 AM »

It's never easy to let go of someone especially if you've been together for a long time and are so used to each other.
That is why so many women stay with abusive partners in relationships that are wrong and believe they will change.

The best thing is to realise that you can never change a person's behaviour or feelings.

                You have to look out for yourself and what's best for you,because if you don't noone else will.

                            No matter how difficult it may be cut yourself loose and move on, there will be other relationships
                                and it's never the end of the world.  Wink


eveseh (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #10 on: April 22, 2006, 11:41 AM »

well that's also true,

love is stupid
babymine (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #11 on: April 22, 2006, 11:56 AM »

@ eve

Is love really stupid?  Huh
eveseh (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #12 on: April 22, 2006, 12:03 PM »

yes it is,it makes you do stupid things,  Grin Grin Grin

it stupid to me
babymine (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #13 on: April 22, 2006, 12:10 PM »

I disagree. Love isn't stupid but it sure can make you do stupid things sometimes.
babymine (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #14 on: April 22, 2006, 12:10 PM »

between, have you ever been in a wrong relationship?
freddie! (m)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #15 on: April 22, 2006, 01:47 PM »

Pray seriously o, because one partner might decide to love you till death!
mukina2 (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #16 on: April 22, 2006, 02:13 PM »

try to let the other know wats for real and you make them understand fully well so it wont hurt too bad
babymine (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #17 on: April 22, 2006, 06:11 PM »

@ Freddie

I don't understand.  Huh
VIVVY
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #18 on: April 22, 2006, 06:44 PM »

babymine,before u break off that relationship,u need to ask yourself a very important question.1,ask yourself if it's what u really want.2,if it cums straight from the heart and not because u frustrated and the last but very important,if u very sure that u don't love him anymore.All these put together,u pray to God because u can't do it all alone because,it would hurt u real bad.it would look like there is no place anymore 4u.keep yourself busy while u on it and have goood friends that would understand u,i say so because u might have mood swings and only real people or friends will take it lightly with u because they know what u going through.after all these,u would come out strong and better and more matured.even ur ex will marvel at these knew change when he hears from friends.BUT don't RUSH INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT FIRST BEEN A FRIEND AND don't INCLUDE SEX WHILE U TRYING TO FORGET THE OTHER. Smiley
eveseh (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #19 on: April 23, 2006, 01:57 AM »

tell the person ya feelings
babymine (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #20 on: April 23, 2006, 02:32 PM »

Hmm. Good tips.  Cheesy
eveseh (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #21 on: April 23, 2006, 02:49 PM »

thaks, Grin Grin Grin
lauryn (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #22 on: April 23, 2006, 03:55 PM »

If u don't feel u have the time to talk about it to the partner,,,,,,,,,,,,,Just Walk Away!
eveseh (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #23 on: April 23, 2006, 04:03 PM »

Quote from: lauryn on April 23, 2006, 03:55 PM
If u don't feel u have the time to talk about it to the partner,,,,,,,,,,,,,Just Walk Away!


i think walking away is bad,just tell the person and let the person
know that u aint into him or her again
lauryn (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #24 on: April 23, 2006, 04:20 PM »

thats what i mean, if the person doesnt want to listen or is not reasoning with u then what?
eveseh (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #25 on: April 23, 2006, 05:02 PM »

yea,if the person doesnt want to listend that's ok athing Grin
freddie! (m)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #26 on: April 23, 2006, 05:06 PM »

@ babymine
what i mean is that some enraged partner might decide to say if he/she can't have you, then none will. He/she goes further to kill the person or maim the person for life!
seunmii (m)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #27 on: April 23, 2006, 05:37 PM »

Babymine,love will not cause anyone to do stupid thing.please.I think we should clarify the meaning of love.To your question,insecurity is what pushes us to do stupid things.
babymine (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #28 on: April 23, 2006, 06:24 PM »

Seun, love makes you do stupid things sometimes. Things you'd ordinarily not do.
babymine (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #29 on: April 23, 2006, 06:26 PM »

But then that's not the topic. How does one break away from a wrong relationship?  Cheesy
Nutter (m)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #30 on: April 23, 2006, 07:30 PM »

Run for the hills and don't (repeat, DO NOT) look back. Remember Lot's wife!

Just kidding Grin

I find the best way is to have a proper sit down with your (ex)partner and let her/him down softly. Anything else will definitely breed animosity.

This is my first post y'all. Good to be here.
Rhodalyn (f)
Re: How Do You Break Away From A Wrong Relationship?
« #31 on: April 23, 2006, 07:31 PM »

wrong relationship as in??
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