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O4real (m)
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@spikedcylinder If a man marries more than one wife,its called POLYGAMY.
If a woman marries more than one husband,its called POLYANDRY and it is practiced in countries like Sri-Lanka and some parts of India.
  Hope u have been reading the thread, the definitions have been settled already. Futhermore your def of a man with more than one wife is wrong. Just check earlier post. |
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kellorah (f)
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when a man cheats, he can go back to his wife but when a woman cheats, that's the end of the marriage.this is a fact!
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saintchux (m)
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It is going to be difficult for a man to trully forgive a wife caught in adultery. It is man nature. Just see your girl friend with a nother guy discussing, you may be tempted to fire the girl not to talk of your wife. It is very very difficult situation.
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Cleofel (f)
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the wife wouldnt have cheated if he really loved her husband so i think the man should understand and 4give her and send her away because he has to leave the past behind and the past also includes her.
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Zahymaka (m)
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the wife wouldnt have cheated if he really loved her husband so i think the man should understand and 4give her and send her away because he has to leave the past behind and the past also includes her.
I've got a question for you Cleofel. If it happens to be the man cheating -- as is often the case -- do you also advocate her leaving? |
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Cleofel (f)
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i would go or send the man away because he wouldnt have cheated on me if he really loved n cared 4 me,it will be very difficult 4 me to forget him because i loved him so i would prefer being friends with him.very simple
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Zahymaka (m)
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Thank you very mcuh. I was thinking you were one of those who thought men have it in their nature to cheat and are thus permitted.
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Cleofel (f)
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WHAT I THINK IS THAT WE R ALL THE SAME,WOMEN CAN ALSO DO WHAT MEN CAN DO,THEY CAN EVEN DO WORST.
BY THE WAY,You R WELCOME
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BigSis (f)
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I think a woman seeking the sexual pleasure from another man is too much for their fragile male ego to take. Their entire manhood is in their ability to please. If the woman had to seek satisfaction outside of the relationship, then something must be terribly wrong with them.
There are many reasons when seek other lovers. One reason is that the man doesn't take her sexual needs into consideration. Another, I heard of often is he is emotionally distant. Women are emotional and mental. If you have my mind, my body is yours. You stimulate woman sexually, mentally.
In short, most men can't stand the thought that another man was banging his wife silly and she crazy with pleasure. This is why it is hard.
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Oracle (m)
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Itz possible but can rarely happen, since the Bible says Infidelity is the only legal right for divorce.
A man may for certain reasons decide to forgive his cheating wife, i've heard of women who forgave their husbands so why can't it be vice versa?
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zebudaya (m)
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I'm too proud to forgive, we might stay together for the kids but officially done. i would never respect or trust her again. I'm done!
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toshmann (m)
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hard man. congi go kill you, i swear  |
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zebudaya (m)
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na lie they get escort service online I pay the chick 200 dollars, staple/superglue condom to my gbola and service am all night or I go Bunny ranch for las vegas if e come to that.
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stormz (m)
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ma sister once sed
when guys cheat,their wifeys 4give them n move on but when wifeys cheat,its hard for d guys to forgive.
lol
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KDK (m)
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I will forgive her but . . . . . I may never have any sexual relationship with her again which is as good as saying the marriage is over hence I will invoke the right of divorce based on grounds of adultery like Jesus permitted.
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KDK (m)
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@FREE
what do you mean by bullshit?
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trendy (f)
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Never!!!!!!!!!!!! i don't advice any man to
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once
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many of you say forgive. Divorce is big step in the wrong direction. forgive and move forward, but don't forget this can strenthen then the marriage.
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adeboo (f)
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Infedelity causes a lot of rifts in a marriage. The feeling of betrayal is very difficult to get over.
If you can forgive your spouse for the wrong theyhave done and try to work at trusing them again, then there isno problem.
However, if you find yourself always thinking the worst and not able to let go then its just not worth staying together. But i feel the couple should try and work it out if they can.
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adeboo (f)
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But the thing is she was caught in adultery, she really didnt confess, she was caught.
Thats another issue - if she is truly sorry then there should be no problem.
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egetz (m)
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it is hard to forgive, but not impossible.
the question is on what foundation was the marriage based? if based on love, then it is very very hard, if based on society standing sake, it is impossible, if based on greed, expected inheritance and all those funny things that drive some unthinking young men around, then forgiveness is immediate. in fact, the sleeping around thing is taken for granted.
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Zandra1 (f)
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Zahymaka I indeed like your comment. At least there are people out there that believes that cheating is not in the nature of men and should not be permitted. God forbid that it happens to me but I always said that if my husband cheats on me that i will sleep with his bestfriend on our matrimonial bed and make sure he sees me before divorcing him. But all the same its not good so God forbid it. Someone said men have sex with no emotion attatched and women do it with their soul. Its arrant nonsense. Do u think unfaithful women that have multiple partners have emotions with the people they sleep with and still sleep around? Sex is sex and I believe that whats good for one is good for another. If u don't want your patner to cheat then don't. If u cheat and catch them cheating u have to forgive them. If u are not a cheat, u can also forgive them or divorce them. Like I said before, unlike the popular belief that cheating is in the nature of men , its actually not. Its stupidity and lack of self control that causes it. An also because they are married to people that will rather have Mrs or Mr in their name even if they as individuals are maltreated to the extent of being set on fire. If u sign a prenup that when u cheat that your partner will take all u have and have the choice "of setting u on fire" then cheating will be far from your heart. You will have to learn self control forcefully. All humans can cheat if they want to it just takes the grace of God to control it. Always remember the Golden Rule.
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nossycheek (f)
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@Rhodalyn
Are a male or female?
Cos You said " I won't forgive her"
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missparker
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you can forgive but you can possisbly not forget.you forgive to always remember we are all humans but to be on the fair side if a woman can a should also.it is suppose to be reprocal if don't you are pushing her outside the more.watch it.
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Jaguar1 (m)
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@all, let me simply say what I know: there's a price on the woman's head, ever wondered why the man does the wooing, pays the bride price and actually does the taking? Little wonder then, the Bible told the man to love his wife and lay down his life if necessary just as Christ did for the church and purchase it hence we (the church) should henceforth not live unto ourselves but unto Him that gave his life for us. The significance of this is that the man has purchased the woman ( not as a property to owned and maltreated) but to some extent in spiritual terms. The woman is his pride even his honour, it is therfore better to imagine what you would have done to his ego. If you read Prov: 6, you will see the curse that is heaped on the man that sleeps with another's wife. I am a christian and must talk about forgiveness but some things are better not started at all. The man should never cheat granted but cheating on the part of the woman does not equal the man's cheating. You mat argue that but just imagine that your mum was caught in adultery, imagine the shame it will bring to the family. Now turn the tide and place your dad in that position, you may not cry too much about it, some mught even say:men, dad is a bad guy . I am man and would not say that I will forgive or not but my partner must also be reminded that I have a choice to divorce if the unthinkable happens. She can do same because I don't envisage myself cheating for any reason, I did rather walk away. Easier said than done but if you check you will know that am no kid and I mean everything I say. |
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kachi_face (m)
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Sex means different things to the two sexes, for men, sex comes from the head - you see, wish, act and think later, but for women, the reverse is the case.
I cannot forgive a woman who is caught in adultery because women don't just pull their skirts up and have sex, they don't just have sex and think later. Men can pull their pants down in seconds, and think about their actions aterwards, not women.
If my woman is banging out there, I don't think I'm going to be cool with that. Sure means i've lost my place in her life, trust me - I'd take out the trash and keep going, no looking back!
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Seun (m)
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I don't think a man who "just has sex and thinks later" - like a rabbit - is worth having as a husband.
So whether you are a man or a woman, there is no excuse for cheating. Let's drop the double standard.
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iyken (m)
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I guess the question is clear enough-Can a Husband Forgive wife caught in the act? Lets not loose focus.
For me,things will fall apart,- the centre can no longer hold.
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mekoyo (m)
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Yes. He can and He should be able.
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baile204
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I have experienced this, However, we were not married, merely in an extremely serious relationship, I must say, this was by far one of the hardest things that I have ever encountered, I hurt, I was angered, felt helpless, and needed guidance, Off the bat, I was in no way going to forgive her for that act, because cheating is the ONE act to me that stands as the most extreme case of betrayal, I cut her out of my life all together, Then I tried to forgive her, but I wanted to have nothing to do with her still, She sees it as wrong of me, So to this day I do not talk to her, but occasionally she will contact me with some childish greeting, or attempt at a conversation, I am scarred for life because of this, or until the RIGHT ONE comes to heal my heart, When dealing with this, faith is a must, My beliefs helped me tremendously through my situation as I'm still coping, But to answer the question, a husband should be able to forgive his wife for adultery, but that is all, she will ultimately be judged in front of The Almighty,
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pmdaboh (f)
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I would say an average man cannot forgive a wife's adultery. A man's pride is a strong force to reckon with. Women have been forgiving men their adulterous affairs for years, and ironically, it seems to be expected of them to do so. But how often do you hear of a man forgiving his adulterous wife of her affair? Should a man forgive a wife that has committed adultery, I say "yes", for according to the word if we do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will our heavenly father forgive us our trespasses. But in reality, sins like that can and are forgiven but not forgotten. It is in remembering that thing that will make a man not want to touch or be near his adulterous wife every again!
I personally do not know one man that has forgiven his wife for an adulterous affair or remained with her afterwards.
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