Is She Right ?

  she called to tell me she was broke, she has a better job than i do, i sent her a thousand naira with pleads to her to manage it for i know she is worth more than that,but it was all i could get at the time.

   i called to inform her that i 've sent the money and all she could say was:

"u  are sending a thousand naira to a whole me,
 
do u know i sent credit worth of 4 - 5 thousand naira in credit to people?

  i don't think i can continue this way with this  relationship

i got pissed off andhit d roof,calling her bluff.she keep calling me but i ignore her calls


would u have reacted differently if u wrer in my shoes???

@post
no. . she is not right

Na wa oo for ya girl friend or missus, there is no respect there at all and she is not right at all.

relationships should not rely on financial strenght of men. Her behaviour is very wrong.

Dump her ass. She wasn't broke enough.

Imagine: it's like a begger refusing eba like say na him mate dey chop spaghetti!

Well, its the mentality that most girls have that when their man isnt able to provide for their needs when they want, then that shows he doesnt love them.
But thats just a wrong idea to have.

@Poster, u even did your best to get her what u did, so there is no need beating yourself up about anything.  But this is just the one case that u are talking about - u know her the best, if u sit down u could decide whether its a reaction that could have come from external pressures e.g her other friends talking about what their 'men' do for them.

Just dump the money grabbing hussy, stupid cow

 

I don't get it why guys take crap from a bad girlfriend and when they get a good one they don't know how to treat her!

@Lady T

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And you my dear are one heck of an intelligent young lady.

Well, I beg to differ.  This has nothing to do with humilty abeg.  Yeah, the lord loves a cheerful giver--blah blah blah. I have been in both situations and I usually size up the "needy" and know what might help them.  If I am going to fall short of their expectations--I just quietly tell them I do not have.  It is better than disgrace myself with some token that will only add insult to the injury.   I will definitely not be a cheerful recipient and will not take it easy with you at all.

If you do not have money when I ask you please, I would really appreciate a person tells me.  Rather than insult my "broke state" even further--with some miserable sum that reminds me that I made a huge mistake even trusting you with the fact that I was broke. Yes, we should be grateful for whatever we get--my parents were kind enough to teach me that.

My only problem as an adult is that, I have come to realize that some gifts are outright insults.

_{Askin' ma humble self WTF ammmo do with 1000Naira?   Buy akara?}



@poster--I am not blaming you so please do not get me wrong.  I blame the girl who like me might have a job.  But we all go through broke states of life.  Even me, believe it or not.   My only problem with her is that she should not have "troubled" you at all.  She should have gone to "alternative" qualified sources instead of letting this come between both of y'all.  That should teach both of you a very good lesson.  I don't think you are meant for each other at all. You are very correct to dump her.  Please free her abeg!

_{You cannot force water out of a dry rock!} 

Everybody should learn that.

Is she right?--------Heck yes she is!
Are you right?--------Heck yes you are!

I guess 2 rights do not make a wrong.  Nothing to be offended about ma dear!  Just simple human feelings at work here.

Did you send her one thousand because that is what you had or because you felt she earns more than you. If your motive for sending the money was because you felt she earns more than you, then you are wrong, but if thats all you had then she is wrong.

i'd say it's unfair to have us judge based on one single financial transaction between u and your girlfriend.
What's it been like? How much has she given you in question in times past? How often? Is she aware of your financial capablities or otherwise? Fill in these blanks and u'd get more intelligent and forthright replies.

Yes she's right. You were wrong in sending her money in the first place. What nonsense?
Designer begging.

@ AJ

I beg to differ jare. The girl get serious issues. When a friend asks me for money, even if I have a cent, I'll still give it to her. Here is not a matter of disgracing yourself. For goodness sake, this is your girlfriend. She knows your situation. Why she go come dey make unnecessary shakara for am? If na me be the man eh, I go go collect the money for her hand.

By the ways sef who she dey send credits to? Oh boy shine your eyes. She is sending credits worth 5k to her other boyfriends and when she is broke, she expects you to render her the money? Is she crazy? This one fit make me send am my ten x ten palgues.

Na craze dey worry am!

Well, that is why we are all different. Infact, If I were the girl I would not call him after that. How person go give me 1000Naira. What is that? $8-$12? Just tell me you do not have please so I do not bother you. Una dey pay 1000Naira tithes?  So why na me go come receive 1000Naira!--To buy boli and pure water? Or what?   Like you said what does he do with his own money?  Spend on other babes?  Now it is my turn, the money is finished?  Na lie!

Please you guys should face reality.

Rubbish!

@poster
Abeg make you go find 1000Nairaland babe abeg.  Them full for road! Them dey pity you.  Me a no go pity you.  Because all that loving and cooking I do for you all week--you no pity me oooooooooooooooh!

That is why you never put all ya eggs in a broke basket!

I sure would know where to go, definitely not to him! If I wanted to pay some school fees or my mom needed something like medical treatment, na 1000Naira im fit cough out?

Na this kain thing dey make girls follow sugar daddies.  When you expect your guy to deliver--im go come dey make noise.  Come fight me on top?  When a no chop crase.  Abi poster no no say country hard.  If im know why im get babe?  For cheap *****?

Abi a no deliver to you all week?  See wahala!

Anyway a don talk ma own!