Heal-a-heart.

Hi guys,

Got ya mails.

Thanks a millions. You guys reinforce my belief in the peculiar specie called The Nigerian.

I'm cool. Doing another poem.

You guys made it happen. Bless Ya!

@seemenow,



happy to see you're getting your life back and i think tis even better now. Big uos to you man. (And thanx for naming the poem o! )

Having just recently gone through a broken marriage which I would gladly have stayed put in, I just want to share a few things with you.
There is no getting over the relationship overnight, never mind what anyone says. You will have moments and difficult days. But learn to take one day at a time. The memories will begin to fade over time and you will begin to live and appreciate things in a new light because you would have undergone some circumcision of some sort. Don't be hard on yourself whatever you did or didn't do. I went through a lot of books on emotional healing and particularly found Joyce Meyer's Beauty for Ashes a real balm. I read through a thousand and one articles on emotional healing and forgiveness; and in those times of my deepest despair, I would cry to God in prayer and those were the times he said the most comforting words to me that I hold on to today and encourage myself with whenever I begin to feel down. Journaling also helped a lot. And I cried a lot too(I'm a woman) and let out much of the pent up anger through that. If I was not a Christian, I know I would have harmed myself because of the sheer intensity of the pain I felt. I had high moments and extremely low ones too when I didn't just want to get out of bed. And thank God for family, and good friends who never stopped calling. Honestly, heartbreak is never pleasant and I would not wish it on my worst enemy; but I have come out on the other side better, stronger and more aware of my humanity and my need for the Almighty. Do I look forward to a better marriage in future? You bet I do. And that is the hope that keeps me going. God is your strength. You will get through, my brother.

@ Lifted one, God will continue to give you strenght. I can't even begin to imagine the pain you felt.
@ MIkiplus, Cava tries bein merci, et vous?

send me your email add or yahoo ID i will send you a mail please. We didnt deserve the penalty, we practically played 10 against 12. Anyay, nothing spoil, the cup stays at OT.
The referee should be publicly folgged.

@miklplus, you can remove your ID, now.

whats up people?
cheers

i agree with u aisha

aisha, shebi i tell u say the thread never die? LOL
Good to have u back seemenow.
cheers

work dey kampe but, the thing the take stlye they hook me oooooooo

My Guy, How are u doing? I can see u are great now and its good to know. Hope work isnt too killing? your number hasnt been going, u own MTN? LOL
Aisha, that yesterday was just somehow ! i couldnt even eat until after 4pm! Hope you are good? call u later.

You na don hear o, the actor says. action continues ! Ghen ghen !

MY HEAD WAN SCATTER!

Me?

Someone's darling?

Darling! Again? (For me now, the fear of Darlingnity is the beginning of wisdom O!)

Micklplus, one of us go give up his darlingship O! and E no go be me o!

I'm awfully sorry for the 'not available' tone you've been hearing probably since monday. One word: Meetings - you know, the entreprenuer-begging-financiers-who-because-they-hold-the-bucks-detain-entreprenuer-using-marathon-conference room-tactics, kind of stuff.

Hopefully, it 'll all be over by this weekend.

SITUATION REPORT: Am I happy with myself and my progress so far? YES!

Wow!

D-A-R-L-I-N-G!

Aisha of all people!

Aisha of the 1273-and counting post!

Even if na siamese abi cojoined darlingship, No be God!

Good people, while I get ready the madman tale that I promise ya, please allow me to savour this honorary darlingtorate.
 
Like Dube sang: "If it's a dreeeeeeeeeeaam, don't wake me uuuuuuuuuup!"

Wonder where all this pidgin dey come from today. Seriously suspect the buka-like rice I ate in a new eatery with a very queer name, along Akin adeshola.

Abro Mick, nothing do you. Just a little time, we go cancel enough. Capici?  

Am out(to be back).

Ghen ghen! (In case u no grab Mick's Nollywood Stylee)

Don't know what I'd do without you guys.

Love.

Na wa oh, Na so d darling dey sweet somke people, in other not to spark any confsion i take the darling back instead i say My sweethearts.
Waz up u guys, am really enjoying your friendship. Thanks for the nice words.
Seemeno and mikiplus, enjoy you day and the eekend ahead, my sweet Darlings, Bon Weekend

Hi all,

Just said to drop a post that will keep d thread on while I get d promised mad man stuff ready. Went to a friend’s place at the weekend. Boy, was it fun seeing a 28 year funky dad with his 2 kids. Made me wish I were him (had actually planned on doing that this year but …) until his 9 month old son threw up on my shirt.

Mike and Aisha, Sup? You guy’s still da bomb.

@ogreguba.
Oga no worry  I don shine my eye now . Hope u are cool. Thanks for posting.




I hope you guys enjoyed the poem.

Love.

at original poster
I used to look forward to your updates (and occasional flashbacks/history) about your emotional journey. Whats been happening with you, hope you're good though. When you can drop a post ok. Cheers

Hi good people,

Sorry for keeping mum this long. I'd been a little distracted by stuff.

Somehow, I’m inspired to make this post because of some people who this thread had given me the privilege of sharing their friendship. If I’ll equate the outpouring of love (yes, Love) that I’d gotten from folks, I'd tell you, good people, that we Nigerians have an amazing capacity for showing kindness. Quite a number of you sent me an IM, and from there, I’d gotten to speak with quite a number, and from then started forming what by God's grace, I believe will be lifelong bonds of friendship.

I have been deeply touched and changed by the wonderful kindness from hitherto total strangers, most of who still remain faceless. If there is one unforgettable lesson, I believe that I will walk away with, from here; it will be that a voice can inspire much more emotions than a face possibly can.

Your voices did.

Work pressure had made it almost impossible for me to get the earlier stuff I’d promised you folks but after speaking with one of the contributors to this thread last night, I’d  hurriedly put together a poem which I hope you will find as much pleasure in as I had when I was writing it.

Enjoy.

YOU SHOWED ME
You showed me
When pain threatened my peace
and my heart was filled with hurt

when my neighbours couldn’t see
my sorrow, you saw
the colors of my tears

after she left a void
in a heart filled for four years
and my labors held no solace
nor my house proved a refuge

I was sinking
I was drowning

I questioned my ability to
Hold on to something good
Again, until my fingers
And my keyboard gave me
A three word visa to nairaland:
HEAL-A-HEART!

In online vocab, it was “A new thread”
But in reality, an amazing gateway
To an outpouring of anonymous kindness

You showed me
You called me
You held me

With your posts, weaving electronic bonds
Stronger than blood covenants

And when I sank deep
You reached out even deeper
Aiding my revival with unforgettable
Words of hope, empathy, love
And sometimes with bits of scorn

You touched me
You humbled me
You changed me

With each new post, a fresh proof
That pain sometimes holds a better promise

baby4u2, creamdream, kalmebad, TOYOSI20,
 ifyalways, almondjoy, micklplus, Nautillus,
masam, aisha2, chychy,4Him ,Damoche10,
 jibosqie, ogrebuga, firestar, ®~^Sly^~®,bennygee,
dellynash, Bawss, Ogreguba, kayemjay, topside,
sammy901, liftedone, big_bumper

With friends like you
I need no more angels

And if perhaps I see a friend in pain
Ask for help to see him through
Even if I try to shut my mouth
I know my ear will hear my voice in truth:
“Go to NAIRALAND,
There are people there!”

Because you showed me!

I hope you guys enjoyed the poem.

@ Bawass
A lot of waters has passed under the bridge.
But I promise to keep you posted.

The film still dey unfold.

Ghen ghen!

Love ya all.