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Gettolove (m)
No Pregnancy No Marriage, How Neccessary
« on: February 19, 2008, 12:05 PM »

My cousin told me that her fiancy insist they will only get married if she is pregnant before their marriage. I did not know what advise to give her.

Why are guys giving this conditions
almondjoy (f)
Re: No Pregnancy No Marriage, How Neccessary
« #1 on: February 19, 2008, 12:46 PM »

Let them toss a coin and stick to the winning side! Kiss Only because the guy might insist and the lady might refuse with her "born again" crap!
Gettolove (m)
Re: No Pregnancy No Marriage, How Neccessary
« #2 on: February 19, 2008, 03:33 PM »

coin? Shocked
almondjoy (f)
Re: No Pregnancy No Marriage, How Neccessary
« #3 on: February 19, 2008, 03:40 PM »

Quote from: Gettolove on February 19, 2008, 03:33 PM
coin? Shocked

Why are you surprised?  You know this is going to cause a lot of problems between both of them. So the easiest thing is to toss a coin for the final decision if they cannot come to an agreement. Simple!
odiaseo (m)
Re: No Pregnancy No Marriage, How Neccessary
« #4 on: February 20, 2008, 12:37 PM »

This article may be worth reading : Is it OK to get pregnant before marriage?
efuah (f)
Re: No Pregnancy No Marriage, How Neccessary
« #5 on: February 20, 2008, 02:13 PM »

AJ, u never stop cracking me up! Grin Grin Grin

@poster, why? is he doubting the lady's fertility? Undecided
almondjoy (f)
Re: No Pregnancy No Marriage, How Neccessary
« #6 on: February 20, 2008, 02:19 PM »

Quote from: efuah on February 20, 2008, 02:13 PM
AJ, u never stop cracking me up! Grin Grin Grin

@poster, why? is he doubting the lady's fertility? Undecided

Sorry darling sis-in law. Grin Infact every problem that cannot be solved in my household to avoid any jugular vein-popping arguments, we just use a coin and solve the marrrrer.  No partiality.  That is the hand of God working there. Tongue

Just toss a coin a say! Grin 
Gettolove (m)
Re: No Pregnancy No Marriage, How Neccessary
« #7 on: February 20, 2008, 02:44 PM »

may be
ifyalways (f)
Re: No Pregnancy No Marriage, How Neccessary
« #8 on: February 20, 2008, 04:49 PM »

@topic,if the girl has been chopping without protection before marriage then pregnancy before marriage shouldnt be a problem to her.  Cheesy

on a serious note,why should the guy insist on her pregnancy before marriage?
has the girl had abortions for him at the past?
what happens if she gets pregnant and the guy decides to back out or sees another reason why he can't marry her?
is the guy infertile?
there are so many unanswered questions there  Undecided
The Sly
Re: No Pregnancy No Marriage, How Neccessary
« #9 on: February 20, 2008, 05:02 PM »

well maybe one of his friend/relatives has had an unfruitful marriage and he doent want to get himself into the same mess. . . .  Cool

the only advise u can give her is to ''do it''  if she's ready for it  Cool

its different strokes for diff. folks. . . thats how the dude wants it and if she's not cool with that idea, there is nothin' stopping her from leaving this dude, it aint by force, its by choice  Cool
victorian (f)
Re: No Pregnancy No Marriage, How Neccessary
« #10 on: May 28, 2008, 12:22 AM »

@ poster, i concur to what your friend is saying about pregnancy before marriage. ok, take a look at young married couples in churches these days hoping to become pregnant , with days , weeks and even months of prayer sessions from their Pastors, believeing that someday their wives will become pregnant and bear children.
Its sad to note , that couples waiting to get pregnant are increasing daily and to make matters worse, when they are married , the wife would have to  bear the brunt of inlaws insinuating that she had misused her body when she was single thats why she can't conceive Angry.   The pressure both parties go through after getting married like a year later, is something to think about.
 Your friend is trying to avoid such pressures and worries, and i feel he is not going to change is mind about her if she gets pregnant before marriage. All, she had to do, is insist on engagement first, then leave the rest to God, who provides for one.
  As for me, i will definitly get pregnant even up to 3months before marriage and my fiance wont leave me Smiley,  That my view.
chika98
Re: No Pregnancy No Marriage, How Neccessary
« #11 on: May 28, 2008, 02:34 AM »

When will people realise that marriage is a union btwn two people who love each other dearly and children are blessings from God. A marriage shouldn't be based around kids. Tufiaaaa
I really don't have any advice to give.
Xiomarra
Re: No Pregnancy No Marriage, How Neccessary
« #12 on: May 28, 2008, 05:20 AM »

Fine with me.  Everyone is entitle to his or her own requirements for "a happy life"! Off to the next customer.  I really have no teeth for rotten meat at all! Cool
Outstrip
Re: No Pregnancy No Marriage, How Neccessary
« #13 on: May 29, 2008, 08:23 PM »

Then do not marry him. That is not what marriage is about. He's already assuming that if they have any infertility problems then it is her fault. SHe does not need that. Save yourself a life of hell and do not marry him
ayomifull (f)
Re: No Pregnancy No Marriage, How Neccessary
« #14 on: May 30, 2008, 03:47 PM »

There are two reasons why a guy would insist on the fiancee to get pregnant before wedding.
1 The guy has been sleeping with this fiancee for soooooooooo long and she never missed her flow.
2 The fiancee has 'flushed' a good no of time and the guy is afraid she has flushed all the kids in her.

If the first one is the case definitely the guy would be worried especially if he wasnt the first person to taste the forbiden friut.

If the second is the case then the guy is being selfish because they both agreed to such evil deed.

Either way let her oblige the guy since they have been eating the fruit outside marriage, if they have been commiting furnication why not get pregnant afterall no one sin is greater than the other.
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