Pregnancy And Labour Pains

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it hurt,my mother says

whick runaway guy?
is that?

@ Lioness.
The pain is undescribable, thats the word i can use. Its not a pain that makes u cry, it hurts so much that u can't afford to cry, but then again if u do cry, its all good.
About the epidural, not advisable to take due to side effects, but then again, the pain is unbearable, to its understandable if u do take it and worry about side effects later on.
But its an experience, after delivery u would never feel the pain again, but can only imagine it.

@ Lauryn

Can you please tell me what the side effects of epidurals are? because lazy moi, i'm thinking of getting one when the time comes.

@Cabali
This is real womanhood here! Scary huh? You get to hold your nice baby boy but wifey has to make him fit!!!
K, I'm going to go pop an Aspirin after thinking of it. Go call your mom & show love.

That's my man.

Someone said no two pregnancies and labours are the same, but for me they were quite similar.

My 2 pregnancies were both straigh forward, no morning sickness, no cravings , I could cook and eat without any problems, did put on weight even thought I didn't pig out but lost the weight within 6 weeks of having the babies without trying but I believe my tummy went down because of only breasfeeding.

The first time I tried not to go to the hospital too early, as a first time mom I didn't want to be sent back, but my friend who is medical doctor decided to check how far dilated I was and she was surprised I was 6cm and still at home, we decided to head off to the hospital at this stage because we knew we couldn't be sent back, my husband was too excited and I just wanted to get the baby out, my bags were already packed because baby was  ten days late already, basically labour started around 12am and had the baby before 7am in the morning. I asked for epidural but was told I was too far gone so had him with gas and air, couldn't push because they gave me pethidine which made me sleepy and didn't do anything for me for the pain, vowed never to go there again .
Anyway I was sleeping when I was meant to push and tore really badly.

Second time by the time I got to the hospital I was 8cm gone so too late for epidural again, turned down pethidine and really concentrated so as not to tear like first time. Baby came within an hour or two and no tear.
I was more  in control the second time because I believe I was prepared , I didn't want another tear , (for me that was the worst thing that happened to me ). I pushed only when I was told to and stopped once I was told to stop, not like the first time that I just wanted the baby out to get over the whole thing.

The two times they had to break my waters, don't know why and it stang like mad

The pain was bad but the second time was not too bad, I am grateful to God that everytime I contracted my cervix was opening up and my pain was not in vain as it happens unfortunately to some ladies.

Also I always prayed for short labours , I believe that my faith has to be bigger for a pain free labour which does happen for others. I know 2 ladies who had pain free labours.
Maybe if I am having a third one I might start believing God for that but I know we have stopped.

Child birth is definately a wonderful thing, my husband was in the position to appreciate it more than myself because he saw everything as they were unfolding according to him the greatest moment was when he saw the head, he is also also always the firt to grab the babies and come and see the way he starts to decree blessings on his boys, I am sure the doctors and nurses have seen all sorts, he will be speaking in tongues and praying in English and yoruba because at that stage I am always too weak to pray except for the second time that I was only able to pray in tongue as I was pushing.

jus because u hav a baby yung dnt make u a bad mother it aint da end of the world!