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DE-KING (m)
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Hey guys, I've seen somethings happen in some families and decided to bring this topic up for discussion.
There's no doubt that parents have a favourite child amongst all their children.
You see this favouritism of children of the same parents tends to bring about unhealthy competition in the family but don't you also agree that it would help a sibling to develop his/her ability to probably be loved as much.
I would appreciate your contributions and don't forget to say if you're dad or mom's favourite or both. As for me, I can't really tell if I am but I sure do know my mum don't joke about me and my dad doesn't show if he has any of us as his favourites.
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gina34 (f)
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You are right parent loves one particular child than the other in a family,
in my family i think is my elder brother because they stay up to 8yrs before they had him and he is the first child.
so he is the favorite child in my family though they try as much as
possible to hide it from us the sibling.
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hot-angel (f)
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My dad loves me than every other of my siblings. (I have no siblings  ). I am my dad's favorite. I know some families that have favorite child. My friend was her mom's favorite child (because then, she was the only one...her mom didn't have a child after her). After her 18 birthday her mom gave birth to a boy..my friend totally become her mom's most hated child. Her mom was always picking on her and disliked her so much..that the girl wishes she was dead. that woman scares me. She totally gave all her love to the new born baby..whch in my opinion, is very sad. |
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DE-KING (m)
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That's really sad but the woman shouldn't have done that at least for the fact that the girl for there for her always before the new baby boy.
The woman would create an unnecessary rivalry between the two of them. This is one of the reasons I brought up this topic.
Poor girl, she should let ther mom get into her way of loving her only brother.
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hot-angel (f)
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De-king, this story is worst than sad. her mom was not against her having a boyfriend before the baby..but now her mom collected her phone because she said..she'D be talking to boys with the phone, instead of singing for her baby brother. What a stupid thing to do??
The girl is sick of everything. Her dad is the only one there for her now. And her friends of course. Her stupid boyfriend dumped her..because he couldn't stand a relationship where he can't communicate with her..whenever he wants.
Anyways thanks for the concern..she's kind of getting better, although her mom totally likes that new baby more than her. Even a blind man can See it.
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layi (m)
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Nothing wrong in having a favorite child. but u got to control yourself, otherwise u'll unconsciously neglect the others. don't show d favouritism. Keep them all on the same pedestal
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DE-KING (m)
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@ layi, can you really love one out of your kids and not show it? I doubt it.
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Seun (m)
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It's possible. If you make a conscious attempt to be fair to all your kids, then since they are not the same age, it'll not be possible for them to tell that someone is the favorite child. The truth is that most parents run their mouths so freely when dealing with their children because there's nobody to call them to order - they are like gods in their own kingdom! If you're careful with words it's easy to make each child feel equally loved. And if you can't do that, then have only one child and send her to Covenant University! |
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Hunter (m)
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No doubt in my mind that my parents favour my brother more than me, but it doesn't fuss me in the slightest. I know I can't live up to him anyway, so I don't try.
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layi (m)
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@ layi, can you really love one out of your kids and not show it? I doubt it.
Are they all your kids? U'll love them all. the point here is favoritism. U can show it to him without others feeling cheated. Just don't neglect the others. |
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DE-KING (m)
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@ layi, I sure do understand your point. It's just that in some families no matter how much the parents try to suppress their favoritism for a particular child, the siblings know and this tends to generate a lot of disagreement between them eventhough they are also loved.
I know favoritism in the family cannot be ruled out but parents should be very careful in doing that.
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jese230 (m)
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Yes favourite child ,I have many all my five kids and they all know when to and how to approach me for delibrations concerning them but one of them is smart the second girl konws when to get daady cornered but that does not make her favorite   |
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hot-angel (f)
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Mr. Jese, Five kids? Now that's coolie. Please don't be harsh on them (nigerian fathers are scary).
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layi (m)
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@jese230
U can't use the 'favourite' for all ur kids o.
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WesleyanA (f)
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the favorite one is my youngest sibling. i make sure i discipline (yes) him when my parents aren't around though to make up for it. |
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layi (m)
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@Wesley
Its not his fault now. Agbaya!
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DE-KING (m)
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@wesley, that's not fair. It isn't has fault. . Besides, you're not making up for it either. |
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Latoya (f)
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Most parents term to love some of there kids to others due to smoe reasons like Respect,parents love kids that respect them,some children doen just really care what they say to mum or dad,they just go around saying and doing things that r immoral.Parents love kids that r doing well educationally,y send u to school with my hard earned money and u just come back with all F's,what pride and happiness do u find in that?u will prefare a child that does better in school, a child that helps with house chores,a child that u can talk to,a child that u can always trust. But most of all parents love the Last born most.they think as the last child,they will have to spoil that kid in other to know that he/she is loved. Favouritism in a family is bad especially when it is obvious,it can cause a lot of trouble,it goes as far as breaking the family and causing hatred.
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WesleyanA (f)
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@Wesley
Its not his fault now. Agbaya!
i know it's not his fault but i do what i have to. he's getting spoilt and i have to change that. the last time he got suspended from school, my parent didn't do nothing but yell at him for like 2 min. and when my parents left, i made sure i disciplined him. i only make him pay when he tries to take advantage and get me mad. he's more scared of me than he's scared of my dad. ... someone prove me wrong most of the time the youngest kids are the favorites |
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layi (m)
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@Wes
don't u think He's scared because u r wicked ( to him). Do u think he'll learn that way? When u smack him..he sees 'wickedness' instead of 'correction'. Use another approach o if ur motive is actually what u just said.
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WesleyanA (f)
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no, he doesn't see wickedness trust me. and i'm not wicked to him. i only correct him when he does something worng because my parents don't do that no more  by scared i mean when he does something wrong, he tries to hide it from me not my parents and that should be vice versa. i smack him because i don't want him to grow up to be a bad kid that's supposed to be my parents' job. |
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DE-KING (m)
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@wesley, if that's the reason why you do that, I wouldn't say it's totally wrong but be sure you're not pushing him farther from you than he already is.
I think you could call him, sit him down and talk to him like a big sis.
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eveseh (f)
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when i have kids,i'll love all of them
is not good to pick and choice among ya kids
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mamaput (f)
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I will not say i love one of my kids more but i love them in different ways.
The big girl is my right hand we also talk a lot of adult talk.
The second one is more like just there , She dose not make any trouble and she listens alot . i take time for her to play with her or sing or dance and encourage her in her hobbies.
the last born is a love me by force. right from when she was born .
When they others think i will say no to something they send her.
They think i say yes to her because i love her more , but i only say yes because i know she is very stubborn and dose not take no for an answer when she wants something. She can go on for hours
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dominobaby (f)
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Lol. D way u put ur story made me smild mamaput
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Ndipe (m)
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Was a favorite of my dad as a child, but lost the position to my youngest brother (R.I.P) when he was born. I was perhaps my mom's favorite right from college, till when she died. However, my advice, is this: Avoid playing favoritism, it can destroy the familial bond. The Biblical story of Joseph should serve as a reminder, that his happy ending is perhaps, one of the rare types of sibling reconciliation and forgiveness.
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gentlegg (m)
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My mum seems to hate me a lot when i was young, and she beats me uncountable times that am too scared of my mum presence, because she sees me as the timid, quiet, lazy, unindustrous (because my younger ones use to hawk 4 her those days but shiiit i never try am) one but later change to like me most when she realised that am d most brilliant, morally ok, obedient and homely(domestic) son of her. Infact she so much began to show her favourism that my siblings began 2 verbally acuse her of that, and I began 2 pass through some little hell with my siblings despite being d eldest one. I then began 2 correct the bad impression my sibblings already have, though till 2day my mum still prefer me 2 all of her kids. Though am married with my own kid now, still d woman dey disturb me all d time just 2 come and see her, to the extent that she'll fake that there is an urgent and important thing 2 disccuss with her, but is just 2 see her and her see me & ask me about my baby.
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BABEELOVE (f)
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Favorite child-----sometimes hard to avoid because of "certain circumstances". But you try not to let it show as a wise mom!  |
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