Your Fiancee Is Raped 2 Months To Your Wedding And Gets Pregnant

R-Dy, just like you to complicate matters even more! 

Just a thought 

Thank you oooooooooooooooooooooooooh!  That is what this thread is about.  A test of courage, love, resolve, and loyalty.  Nothing to do with religion at all.

I am pro-choice, but I will not abort that baby!  Being a victim of rape does not make me any less of a human being--even if I begged for the rape.  All I need from my fiancee is love and support, not even for the child, but for me.  No one says it is going to be easy.  If he thinks it is difficult, how does he imagine I would be feeling with such a predicament around my neck for the rest of my life? This is going to be a long race till I die.  I have to confront a lot of nightmares and no one says it is going to be easy.  The wedding and the fiancee takes a back seat for now, till we can sort this whole thing out.  That child growing inside me is HALF OF ME!  I cannot imagine giving that half up--just because the other half is as a result of a crime.  If it makes me an outcast--so be it.  Will deal with the "stuff" as it comes along.  If that fiancee loves me--he would just have to accept me with ma package otherwise-----OR------LET'S JUST KISS AND SAY GOODBYE!   Life goes on.


If he can't stand the site of me growing with a "rapist's" baby--too bad.  I will not abort that child.  I will not give it up for adoption!   Where ever he can fit in--fine.  I will not blame him for whatever decisions he chooses to take.  PROCHOICE for me, PROCHOICE for him. Just like if he rapes a housemaid and impregnates a housemaid or anyother lady before or after while we are married--it is ma duty to raise that child unconditionally if the housegirl/mother decides she does not want the child. That love makes a difference in the child's life.  She can come and claim her child in the future when she discovers it is the only one she has in this world--and after she has been dumped by many "fiancees"!

All I am going to face in the future is nothing compared to my taking the life of an innocent child.  If the child turns out to be a curse, so be it.  If a blessing, so be it.  It is a chance I MUST take. I don't think I can have the heart to do it.  If the man cannot hang with me, he is free to go.  If he decides to hang with me--better understand the implications.  His presence in my life should not tempt me to miss the rapist.



If it is ma call in life to be impregnated by 10 rapists or more and be lucky enough to be "fertilized" by them all, Giuness book of records here I come. Abortion does not bother me at all.  I just would only encourage it if the woman or fetus is in danger.  Anything else--not an option.  Life will go on.  Unwanted pregnancy is not a crime--including one from a rapist with 8 heads!

I will wear that badge with honour!  My "PROCHOICE"!

I can only speak for maself.  Every body else---PROCHOICE your matter.  I have taken care of ma end and I feel comfortable with my decisions.

Thread has become redundant.

the woman's choice I think would be between the fiance and the baby. The fiance would most likely call off the wedding if the girl decides to keep the pregnancy.

However, the choices can also depend on the circumstances or location. For example, women have been raped in war zones and kept the babies rather than have an abortion. There was a documentary on Rwanda which showed some of these women. These kids were still loved by their mothers even though they were the product of rape. And many times the kids were all that was left of the women's extended family- everyone else ( parents, siblings, cousins, etc), were all dead.


In any other situation, there'd be a bigger debate, I guess. The woman might just have to choose between her fiance and the baby. Though maybe a lot of women would decide to abort in the confusion of the moment, and also fear of losing their partner.

imo, if the man can't live with what happened, then maybe the union wasnt meant to be and they should both go their separate ways. Even if the woman aborts the pregnancy, what happened will still be a big problem even during the marriage.  A marriage which should be postponed anyway so both parties can recover from the trauma and reevaluate their situation.


In another instance, there was case years ago in the paper where a woman went for IVF treatments and was accidentally inseminated with the wrong sperm. From a white man. The woman was black. So was her husband.  The clinic found out after everything. The woman decided to keep the baby but I don't know her husband's reaction.  I wasnt there o- no way of verifying. I read it in some paper ages ago.

oh, I'm not implying a woman wouldnt want to abort the pregnancy as her own personal decision. I was looking at it from the angle of the woman not wanting to abort the baby if possible.

But many women no doubt would prefer to get rid of it. After all, that's lifelong evidence of the rape. Not to mention the demented rapist. In fact, in some western countries I think most rape victims are given drugs to end/prevent any such pregnancy, as soon as the rape is reported. Doubt if the woman is even asked whether she wants it or not.

Rape isnt the only reason a woman would end a pregnancy- inconvenience, health, annoyance, breaking up with a partner, uncooperative boyfriend,etc are all some of the reasons why pregnancies get terminated.

Would you mind ,just answering the question?

. . . . . . .Redundancy!!!!

abortion is not the key. You can still prevent conception from taking place by rushing her to the hospital.

aint in medical field so can't argue, how is it done?
very serious issue guess i would need serious advise from all angles and find out what my wife-to-be would want to do about it.

Seun reply dey always taya me  DNA to match watin? for naija? abi developed countries?