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takethat
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please help last night my boyfriend picked my phone and saw a text i intended to send to one of my old friends and i ended up sending it to a guy my man has been suspecting me with , please what do i do i am heartbroken and so is he but i don't know what else to do i have explained and apologised but it doesn't seem to be getting anywhere
please tell me how else i can go about this i don't want to loose me
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desiree (f)
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Keep on apologizing and pray that he reasons with you. Give him some time to chill out and he will come around. Have ever cheated on him??? if the answer to that is yes, then it might take longer for him to come around. Another question, how nasty is nasty here?  |
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Free (f)
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serves you right!!!! lol  please tell me how else i can go about this i don't want to loose me its all bout you eeeh lol you don't want to loose him, maybe u should be careful next time lol  |
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babymine (f)
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Take time and explain to him. I hope he understands.  |
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brasco901 (m)
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please help last night my boyfriend picked my phone and saw a text i intended to send to one of my old friends and i ended up sending it to a guy my man has been suspecting me with , please what do i do i am heartbroken and so is he but i don't know what else to do i have explained and apologised but it doesn't seem to be getting anywhere
please tell me how else i can go about this i don't want to loose me
This is my take on it. If your boyfriend has suspected you being with another guy, why on earth would you even have that other guy's phone number in your phone? And why would you be sending a NASTY text message to an old friend? Is this old friend another guy? If so, then you just played yourself! I think your boyfriend is justified at being heartbroken. You see, perception is just as important as the truth when it comes to those kinds of things. And by that happening you are now percieved as a lying cheater. Now you have created all kind of doubt with him and he's not going to forget that. Nobody's fault but your own! You are just going to have to give it time or let it go. Hope you learn something from this. |
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takethat
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i was only trying to trick an old friend that called me and left a message on my other phone like i was someone else, because he didnt have the number i texted with so i thought he was going to flow with me but i ended up sending it to another number and then BAMM, my man saw it
please this is not a laughing matter please help me
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lilnaomi (f)
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i was only trying to trick an old friend that called me and left a message on my other phone like i was someone else, because he didnt have the number i texted with so i thought he was going to flow with me but i ended up sending it to another number and then BAMM, my man saw it
please this is not a laughing matter please help me
yea i know how that feels. if d result was different, then it might not be so bad. but since d text got sent 2 a guy your man's been suspectin of u messin with, girl it will definitely look bad. my advice is hang in there babes. keep xplaining 2 him, apologise and also if u can get intouch with his friends or somthin, tell them 2 help u explain 2 him. n at this point, best dnt b texting any guy d aint your family member lol. |
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kajad (m)
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This doesn’t sound right. . .  does this man you are being suspected with and your friend have the same name that you will mistakenly send a text to him? |
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beyunce (f)
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it depends on how nasty the text message was.
And the one u are sayin u wanted to send it to an old friend and ended up sending it to a guy.
Haba that one was just too fake. just tell us the truth that u wanted to send it to whoever the guy was and forgot to delete it. so please correct that intended stuff u wrote.
but if he really loves u. he will have to understand, that is if u make him understand well.
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takethat
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no u guys thats exactly what happened
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vichel (m)
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Nope u did not mistakenly send the text to the wrong person, u did intensionally send the text to the guy your boy friend was suspecting u of. what was in it's contents anyway, if it's very explicit, i don't think u would want to send it to a friend u are not involved with. This is the truth, u've just got to come clean to your man and hope that he forgives u instead of telling lame lies  |
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kajad (m)
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@beyunce and vichel You guys are in with me. i don't believe this bull |
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Seun (m)
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If your boyfriend can't accept the explanation, then let him go and find another girlfriend. Your relationship, like the average relationship, is probably doomed anyway. Better sooner than later!
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beyunce (f)
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If your boyfriend can't accept the explanation, then let him go and find another girlfriend. Your relationship, like the average relationship, is probably doomed anyway. Better sooner than later!
Doomed. Haba |
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mide2 (f)
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i'm afraid i don't believe your story as well. If it sounds so fake and untrue to us, i wonder how it will be to your man. (Sending a nasty text wrongly to noone else except the guy your man has being suspecting)J ust tell the truth and hope for the best.
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loma (m)
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Nwoke,
Is there a word like "frankly blunt" - because that describes your post.
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pascal (m)
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I think you need to sort some very important issue with your guy. You will agree that your guy had some thing in mind about your behavior and you have comfired that.
But not with standing only you can clean up this mess as you know him better, Men can behave alike but no two persons are the same. If you do not know the best way to talk to him and he will listen to you then you need to think twice.
If he loves you so much, all you need do is be yourself and talk and talk but always tell him the truth and only the truth, he will surely come down mind you men are more jealous than ladies but we know how best to control ourselves
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hot-angel (f)
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How nasty is this text message?
Explain to him and calm down for him to calm down. Then u can talk things out better
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sexyncool (f)
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she should find another girlfriend or another boyfriend@ nwoke??? , please don't confuse meooo as if the girl swings both ways, anyway, the situation is kindda twisted but i believe if your boyfriend was suspecting u before, thennnnn it will be very hard for him to let it go for real, i wish you the best tho. |
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sexyncool (f)
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little naomiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii/realvicky  girl is that you? holla holla holla!!!!!!!!!! i can't figure out how to reply your own post here so hopefully u read this, this is "ada' from face of festac girl, wonders shall never end.abeg holla. |
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larger_20 (m)
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hmmm i will loose hope, i don't think anything will change me if i were the guy. Its clear, women why are some of you really naughty?
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Badman888 (m)
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just explain him and beg just tell him "its not what it looks like" i guess he would understand |
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IBB Fan (m)
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i agree with larger. takethat, take this  i'll advise you to just carry on with the guy who received your text message "mistakenly". bite me, but your boyfriend will be the stupidest guy to believe whatever you have to say or take you back. |
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2nde (m)
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All you did was to give the guy a good proof for your suspected acts. It depends on the guy, if he's kind of dangerous, he will just tell you its OK and what he will do is inside him. I don't even understand why you would send that nasty message to anybody in the first place.
Sending nasty message to a mere friend is even wrong while you are in a relationship because you would be sending the wrong signal.
It's only God that can save you ladies from some non-chalant and negligence altitude.
My advice, just keep on apologising or even tell his close friend about it to help you convince him but it's not what can be regain like that in just a short period of time. You have to be acting extreemely well now to convince him.
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larger_20 (m)
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When things like this happen, i will favor the strictness of muslim views about women because there is no need for a woman who is married to be a temptation. Same goes to the male too. once you're married unless you're divorce, don't cheat. if u don't like the relationship, get out of it.
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Z4M4eva (f)
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Eh ya !!! Sorry oo !! I hope your boyfriend takes it easy with ya. |
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SIBLI_06 (m)
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@takethat IF you are being truthful with your posts it is obvious your replationship will not work anyway. I'm afraid I tend to agree with others on this thread that there is something not right, and you might be looking for a wayout of your situation that you caused by yourself. Your boyfriend suspected you regarding this guy that you mistakenly sent the sms 2, THERE IS NO SMOKE WITHOUT FIRE. If I was suspected of such and knew I was not doing anything wrong I would leave the relationship anyway. Do you want to be with a guy that does not trust you? ?? Move on girl! |
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babymine (f)
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@ SIBLI Easier said than done. |
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Rhea (m)
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Takethat,
Your boyfriend is pretty pissed (angry) and that's normal. The situation calls for that. You have to explain everything when he cools down. He needs to hear it all. Lay ALL your cards on the table like it is. He wants the truth. Make sure your story has one single version. Dual or multiple versions implies your lying.
And as a lesson; someone on your suspect list does not deserve an sms. Text mesages leave trails. I'm not saying u should cheat on your hearthrob. If u must reach out to those on the barred list, then better a call. Sometimes we need to reach out to EXs to just to say hi. If that must happen, then call them Calling is more expensive, but sms is more intimate. You cannot send an sms by mistake. You must have thought about it over and over before even laying your knuckles on your phone.
Goodluck. You can still salvage the relationship, if your man wasn't looking for a way out in the first place.
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babymine (f)
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@ takethat Don't worry, everything will be fine. |
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twinstaiye (m)
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Serves him right, next time, he wont venture into reading your text messages again. Meanwhile, you yourself don't help matters, you should have deleted such kind of message. I have said it times without number that human will cheat on each other at any slightest opportunity, irrespective of the gender nature. The above case is a pointer to the fact that, both gender can cheat on each other. Having said this, do keep begging your guy, and I hope he listen, afterall, he is only being clever that you have not catch him with such messages too. People should learn to live their life believing that their loved ones will cheat on them rather than believing that, their trusted loved ones will never cheat on them. If your boyfriend had lived with such notions, he would have forgiven you and seeking our opinion would not even have arise.
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