How Necessary Are Big Weddings?

I'm not into big weddings.

I want a small one. We can have a big party afterwards but the wedding I want small and private.

True.

Really don't mind a big wedding as long as our account doesn't enter the "reds" because of it. Hey, someone can decide to bankroll it. i believe in miracles.  
c'mmoon pipo it's just one day. that special day of ma life. gotta rock!

A big wedding in nigerian terms may mean inviting 500 to 3000 or more people to your wedding.

In nigeria this means if you think you have 200 people coming , ther may be 500 at the end of it.

A wedding is a ceremony witnessed by a priest a best man and a bridesmaid in the most intimate setting this would ba a small wedding.
If the families of the bride and groom attend fair enough they should. I do not however see the need for a wedding to be held at every vaileble open ground or peremises with 500 to 3000 peolple being present.

If the wedding is known to the families of the couple as well as a few friends.That should be enough and honestly is there any need to show of really.Which i what a nigerian wedding really is.

why not try and keep things nice at your wedding. and a little calm. Music okay but dancer and getting people drunk at a wedding. Also ending up having to worry about paying for the wedding may not seem relative but they can be bothersome. If you spend all you have on a wedding just to entertain people who are not in either family or friends. Many people seem to come just to eat at nigerian weddings and drink of course they mostly arrive just as the food i ready to be served. then come up with ''i couldnt find the place''.

Let us keep a wedding as what it should be a joyous occasion for the couple getting married and not a finnancial dissaster for two people who are getting married.

All this being said i understand the sociological and psychological thought behind having such  large weddings in Nigeria,African Society.
but we could really still try to make a wedding seem normal and within limits of reasoning considering our futures.

NO LARGE OR BIG WEDDINGS ARE NOT REALLY NECESSARY.

Good point.But even if somehow you feel sure its still a waste of money.
We have our own traditional wedding and then church wedding.But also we adopted another English man culture which is the reception.
Unlike the Englishman who a large wedding is 50 people ,ours is 500+ easily.And since we use open venues it means every privates and harry can stroll in and demand food and drink.
Another problem is some girls .They will say how much they love the man and everything and want to make things simple and easy for them and then go tell him he MUST bring 1m naira + for a wedding!

The main focus here should be the MARRIAGE(which is made up of just the two of you)  and not organizing big society weddings which will only last for few hours.

Your CONCERN should be the journey ahead for the two of you and not to please the entire world or trying to make a name.

That is why we have so many broken marriages 2day

Please note:WEDDING IS JUST AN INITIATION INTO MARRIAGE.

not that necessary,the most important thing is that u re married,you been chosen &lawfully wedded whether big or small. it doesn't matter.marriage na marriage.make those wey dey look for big wedding they der oo,they go dey look for big wedding time go pass them and their papa go marry them as second wife.make them no go hussle.make them dey there.