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nutinikole
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Why exactly are you here!?
Because i can see all forms of advice have been given to you on this thread of yours! isnt it obvious? for all the forms of advice {he called me dearie!!!} bashes eyelashes |
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yemivictor (m)
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isnt it obvious? for all the forms of advice
But dearie 
After all said & done, what exactly are your plans from thereon!? |
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chychy (f)
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@ poster, please tell him d truth.
u may lose him but if he finds out later, it'll hurt much n he'll feel betrayed.
yes, u feel bad about havin lost it 2 a retard, make him understand that u aint proud of it.
if he really does feel d same way, he'll get used 2 it.
Don't lead him on, the consequences will be severe.
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nutinikole
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ok im a bit confused now. . . . . i thought i was sure before but i don't think so now  he never iasked me outright and we never had a seroius discussion about it. . . he just used to say stuff like "see this one holy holy" and stuff like i know u havent had the experience ive had and things like i don't want to rush you or hurt u bla bla i alwyas thought like he was trully convinced. but since nairalands repsonses i tried to ease into it by replying ohh please who told you? did i ever tell you that? even though we are now dating im not looking to jump into bed with him yet. but then i finally made it clear {starting halfway in the conversation} "i don't want to rush things or rush you because . . ." and i said "because what?" he just laughed and said "you know" i replied "i don't know you always assume did i tell you i was a virgin?" he said "ok no you diddnt but i don't assume it one of those things you just know . . i knew from the first time i met you because you wer shy and . . . i interrupted but how do you know that? i never told you that thats the problem with you boys you alwys assume! so because im a "virgin" thats why you havent pounced on me yet? he said ok lets say you are really a virgin it will not still change anything. good because i never told you i was! we both laughed it off. other conversation but can't risk putting that here just incase he comes along to nairaland!1) i think he was just assuming but he really wasnt sure. 2) hes wasnt taking the issue as anything and he isnt really bothered about it. 3)i think hes indifferent. nothing has changed he isnt pressuring me for sex still but he still teases me by calling me "a little kid" or stuff like "you self you havent seen anything yet" i always tease back by you havent seen anything yet either. now that ive made it clear why is he still teasing? is that just some game hes playing or did i misunderstand hes comparison of both our experiences; for him thinking i had no experience at all?he laughed it off does that mean he knew all along or he was just trying to figure out why i hadnt jumped into bed with him yet? |
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nutinikole
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yemi victor my love are you happy now? d reloaded im confused ohh i think hes living in a fantacy!!!!!!!!!!! |
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chychy (f)
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well, u still haven't spelt it out straight.
how about "honey (or whatevr u call him) i never told u i'm a virgin did i? i just want 2 make sure u know that i'm not.
i'll understand if it changes d way u c me, it ain't stuff i'm proud of.
instead of these assumptions and word games.
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yemivictor (m)
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well, u still haven't spelt it out straight.
how about "honey (or whatevr u call him) i never told u i'm a virgin did i? i just want 2 make sure u know that i'm not.
i'll understand if it changes d way u c me, it ain't stuff i'm proud of.
instead of these assumptions and word games.
Abi o!
Come out straight & clean i say!!
No word nor mind games!!! |
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buzzgonz (m)
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Did you just post something |
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D-reloaded (f)
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ok im a bit confused now. . . . . i thought i was sure before but i don't think so now he never iasked me outright and we never had a seroius discussion about it. . . he just used to say stuff like "see this one holy holy" and stuff like i know u havent had the experience ive had and things like i don't want to rush you or hurt u bla bla i alwyas thought like he was trully convinced. but since nairalands repsonses i tried to ease into it by replying ohh please who told you? did i ever tell you that? even though we are now dating im not looking to jump into bed with him yet. but then i finally made it clear {starting halfway in the conversation} "i don't want to rush things or rush you because . . ." and i said "because what?" he just laughed and said "you know" i replied "i don't know you always assume did i tell you i was a virgin?" he said "ok no you diddnt but i don't assume it one of those things you just know . . i knew from the first time i met you because you wer shy and . . . i interrupted but how do you know that? i never told you that thats the problem with you boys you alwys assume! so because im a "virgin" thats why you havent pounced on me yet? he said ok lets say you are really a virgin it will not still change anything. good because i never told you i was! we both laughed it off. other conversation but can't risk putting that here just incase he comes along to nairaland!1) i think he was just assuming but he really wasnt sure. 2) hes wasnt taking the issue as anything and he isnt really bothered about it. 3)i think hes indifferent. nothing has changed he isnt pressuring me for sex still but he still teases me by calling me "a little kid" or stuff like "you self you havent seen anything yet" i always tease back by you havent seen anything yet either. now that ive made it clear why is he still teasing? is that just some game hes playing or did i misunderstand hes comparison of both our experiences; for him thinking i had no experience at all?he laughed it off does that mean he knew all along or he was just trying to figure out why i hadnt jumped into bed with him yet? Lol the whole "when i first met you, you were shy" thing turned me off. Why are people so lame? Same way you have cl;ueless people saying garbage like "well I figured she was a virgin because she knew things virgins wouldnt/should know", i's like they think they all live under some hijab or something. Are they retarded, can they not read or are "special" people who are oblivious to their surrounding, that they can possibly know about the "ancient secret of sex", some people are so bloody clueless, it's ridiculous. anyway in a way you did pretty much tell him, if he's smart he would have figured out just from the way you responded so the teasing could either be him implying that he'll "show you that he's the best you'll ever have', eventually or he's still clueless to your hints. Next time he makes such comments, just straight out tell him, seriously I'm not a virgin, I just don't believe in jumping from bed to bed, I believe in being in a loving and exclusive relationship before getting to that point and see how he reacts, some people jjst need the truth thrown in their faces else they'll cobntinue to live in a bubble. |
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chychy (f)
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@ D-reloaded, well said.
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nutinikole
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ok! ok! ok! well said! COVER ME . . . IM GOING IN! |
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nutinikole
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DIS YEMI VICTOR SELF e don strike me say u be palavar man |
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chychy (f)
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so go do it right girl.
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nutinikole
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niraland o!! i gave it to him just like u said. i said im not a virgin can u imagine he looked at me for a few seconds and laughed! he laughed because he diddnt believe! can you imagine that? d-reloaded now you can see he is living in his own world! lol he asked me why i was lying!! after finally convincing him he just looked at me in the eye and said it doesnt matter. even if i am or im not it doesnt matter. but he still didnt try to jump into bed with me! everyday we do the same thing over and over again he doesnt try anything extra even now he knows im not. what the hell is wrong with him? ?? i have come to the conclusion that on a subconscious level he still thinks im "good"and he doesnt want to "spoil" me. what do yall think? eniway ive done my part and im happy it doesnst matter to him im so happy!!!! |
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D-reloaded (f)
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niraland o!! i gave it to him just like u said. i said im not a virgin can u imagine he looked at me for a few seconds and laughed! he laughed because he diddnt believe! can you imagine that? d-reloaded now you can see he is living in his own world! lol he asked me why i was lying!! after finally convincing him he just looked at me in the eye and said it doesnt matter. even if i am or im not it doesnt matter. but he still didnt try to jump into bed with me! everyday we do the same thing over and over again he doesnt try anything extra even now he knows im not. what the hell is wrong with him? ?? i have come to the conclusion that on a subconscious level he still thinks im "good"and he doesnt want to "spoil" me. what do yall think? eniway ive done my part and im happy it doesnst matter to him im so happy!!!! Well if he doesnt believe you, you can't say you didnt try But what do you mean by 'what is wrong with him", you should be happy that despite it all he hasnt changed. Dont go around looking for stuff to worry about. |
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debosky (m)
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the guy obviously loves youchances are that he has gotten past the point where the virginity or otherwise would be a deciding factor in the relationship. He has seen a lot more in you that he values above the pristine or otherwise state of your genitalia.  Thank goodness there are still men out there to make us proud.  |
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D-reloaded (f)
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Abi o, debo.
Nutikole, you had better thank God that you don't have some immature monkey. Now stop looking for something to be wrong and accept the relationship as is.
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4Him (m)
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niraland o!! i gave it to him just like u said. i said im not a virgin can u imagine he looked at me for a few seconds and laughed! he laughed because he diddnt believe! can you imagine that? d-reloaded now you can see he is living in his own world! lol he asked me why i was lying!! after finally convincing him he just looked at me in the eye and said it doesnt matter. even if i am or im not it doesnt matter. but he still didnt try to jump into bed with me! everyday we do the same thing over and over again he doesnt try anything extra even now he knows im not. what the hell is wrong with him??? i have come to the conclusion that on a subconscious level he still thinks im "good"and he doesnt want to "spoil" me. what do yall think?eniway ive done my part and im happy it doesnst matter to him im so happy!!!! There is nothing wrong with him. Just be grateful that you have a man who sees you as more than a sex object to hump at every available opportunity. Dont throw what you have away simply because u want the fellow to fit your own preconcieved ideas. Good luck. |
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yemivictor (m)
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niraland o!! i gave it to him just like u said. i said im not a virgin can u imagine he looked at me for a few seconds and laughed! he laughed because he diddnt believe! can you imagine that? d-reloaded now you can see he is living in his own world! lol he asked me why i was lying!! after finally convincing him he just looked at me in the eye and said it doesnt matter. even if i am or im not it doesnt matter. but he still didnt try to jump into bed with me! everyday we do the same thing over and over again he doesnt try anything extra even now he knows im not. what the hell is wrong with him? ?? i have come to the conclusion that on a subconscious level he still thinks im "good"and he doesnt want to "spoil" me. what do yall think? eniway ive done my part and im happy it doesnst matter to him im so happy!!!!
What is that same thing you do over and over again!?
Tell me i say!!
You this girl, you don spoil finish!!!
How old you be sef!?  |
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hilz (m)
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my dear, my honest opinion is open up to the guy. he should be mature enof 2 realise that at his age (in question) he should be looking 4 a garl hu truly loves him enof 2 hurt him with da truth  than get a jolly ride on pack of lies wether open between u both or concealed within You!! it's all your choice sha, u do da crime n also da time dear. |
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kalmebad (f)
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@poster
The truth is bitter but will always set u free. let someone love you for who u are and not what you are.
Lying to him is not the best option here, lots of people have spoken wisely here, they are advice of wisdom, heed to them cus the truth has a way of playing back when you least expect it.
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nutinikole
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yemivictor plz oh!!
u think say i nor know nairaland? i go put my age here the next thing before i one comment for another topic them go shoot me down say wetin i know abi? THANKYOU!
Thanks yall. una talk true he is perfect [sub i must really be that special [/sub]
i have to honestly say if not for nairaland i might not have ever said enything which might have caused trouble u never know! u guys can be mean but at least you say what we have to hear.
special thnks to YOU whos reading.
. . . Ha! sighs with relief there goes another successfull post!
leaves to go and do oversabi in other peoples post
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chychy (f)
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good girl.
yeah maybe he thinks u're a good girl n i guess he knows you're good 2.
but u've said it.
congrats.
let him live in his own world if he likes.
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