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kenykendo (f)
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Pope, it's not uncommon for girls not to be proud of their previous sexual encounters / partners. Everyone has a past, and not all feel comfortable discussing such. What's important is the present and future.
Besides, how many guys truthfully tell their girlfriends, all about their previous sexual partners? Have you told your girlfriend all about yours, and does she deserve to know?
girl, u do me good ooo!!!!
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kenykendo (f)
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hey, u've had a wrong experience but abeg, nt all gals are like your galfrnd. and moreova, before u started goin out wit her didnt u sleep wit any oda girl?  if no den u just hookd up wit d wrong one. anyhow sha, as i said u jst got d wrong girl n believe me there's true love FOR THOSE DAT BELIEVE. take kia ko!   |
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banni
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Listen in modern society chances are unless you go catch them for secondary school they have slept with more then 1 man.
Also once yuou start dating a woman in her 20s or 30s then even 4 is a low estimate.
This is why its important for a couple to discuss past relationships rather then let it come bite them in future.
Problems is most girls will not come clean.Just say it and let the man be mature enough to accept it.Not like he has never done it before(mostly).
When you lie then it gives grounds for the man to lose trust in you.
Also as you can see EX are bad thing to keep around.I said it 10000 times.Thats why phoning and chatting to your Ex is a problem.See here the ex has already painted the girl badly and said not to marry her.
So this is a warning if you keep your ex as a friend be pretty sure you know he will not ruin your relationship.
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adeboo (f)
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The irony of the matter is that the guys that are saying she is a whore probably tried getting with her and she said no.
So u are really putting yourself through unnecessary pain.
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somze (m)
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The irony of the matter is that the guys that are saying she is a whore probably tried getting with her and she said no.
So u are really putting yourself through unnecessary pain.
Oh come on! |
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hollandis
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Dear confused man
what is it about this girl that you like/don't like?
u already know her past ,so what else is bothering you?
a girl who tells you about her past ,is in love(though it doesnt mean she wont still be banging her ass out with others)
A person who bangs the whole town is either a nympho or a prostitute
if she is a nympho take your own share of the national cake
if she is a whore ,use your CD and be serious with her(and give her enough pepper,or else she go dey play away game)
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adeboo (f)
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Dear confused man
what is it about this girl that you like/don't like?
u already know her past ,so what else is bothering you?
a girl who tells you about her past ,is in love(though it doesnt mean she wont still be banging her ass out with others)
A person who bangs the whole town is either a nympho or a prostitute
if she is a nympho take your own share of the national cake
if she is a whore ,use your CD and be serious with her(and give her enough pepper,or else she go dey play away game)
Oga o! Oh come on!
But its true now. It happens, its nothing new. |
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somze (m)
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Dear confused man
what is it about this girl that you like/don't like?
u already know her past ,so what else is bothering you?
a girl who tells you about her past ,is in love(though it doesnt mean she wont still be banging her ass out with others)
A person who bangs the whole town is either a nympho or a prostitute
if she is a nympho take your own share of the national cake
if she is a whore ,use your CD and be serious with her(and give her enough pepper,or else she go dey play away game)
Advices don't come any worse . . . But its true now.
It happens, its nothing new.
Lets stick to facts concerning the matter at hand, please |
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babaearly
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stop advising this boy. can't u c from his recent posts he aint even a serious dude?
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D-reloaded (f)
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boring.
this said this and this said that. sounds so juvenile.
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4Him (m)
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For a second i could not figure out who you were dating . . . your friends, your cousins, your girlfriend, her ex-boyfriend. Please be specific so i can leave my own 2cents.
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Siena (m)
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Pope, it's not uncommon for girls not to be proud of their previous sexual encounters / partners. Everyone has a past, and not all feel comfortable discussing such. What's important is the present and future.
Besides, how many guys truthfully tell their girlfriends, all about their previous sexual partners? Have you told your girlfriend all about yours, and does she deserve to know?
girl, u do me good ooo!!!!
Which girl did you good?  |
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otokx (m)
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Personally once your happy with the lady and she does not have any of them HIV, Gono, Syphy, herpes etc feel free to enjoy yourself and forget about her past unless she decides to tell you abi you dey fear say you go underperform previous contestants?
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LadyT (f)
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 Wow first off she looks like shes hopped a few beds so if I was you don't bother asking anymore details its the past leave it there. Unless shes slept with your brother or father don't ask again. Its funny how your cousins can be friends with a so called whore but when she dates their cousin they go crazy!!! Rubbish, If you care about her go for it. What matters is the here and now. If she cheats don't think twice get rid. But don't listen to gossip. Sit her down tell her how serious you are if she wants you as another notch on her bedpost she should piss off. This should serve as a lesson to others who can't stop bed hopping male and female the past does catch up with you. An orgasm lasts a few seconds the shame of sleeping around can last a lifetime. Good luck!  Ps The advice some of the guys are giving is amazing I'm shocked
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pope732901 (m)
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hey, u've had a wrong experience but abeg, nt all gals are like your galfrnd. and moreova, before u started goin out wit her didnt u sleep wit any oda girl? if no den u just hookd up wit d wrong one. anyhow sha, as i said u jst got d wrong girl n believe me there's true love FOR THOSE DAT BELIEVE. take kia ko! This isn't the matter of having a wrong girl, I know she can change only if she wants too. I don't want to force her. Anyways O seun gan. I owe you Saint Moris 1PACK. ================================================================= @Poster
I just suggest you grow up about your relationship. If you love her, you will take her for what she is now and not
what was before you met her even if she has slept with the whole market. If lovers dwelt on their past no one will
be in any meaningful relationship.
How clean are those telling you tales? Do you know?
Akara where you put Dundun and Odukun? lol. Akara thanks so much for your comment. Adupe ================================================================= 1. There is nothing like love.
2. There is something like attraction.
3. Mating and dating is complex and involves many variables - too easy to make a mistake - God must therefore be involved (and no, im not religious - this is just fact).
4. if you are both below age 35, there is a high chance she is just attracted to you for some reason, if she is attracted to another guy at the same time, she will most likely see the guy.
WORD BY SWEET TAI
Obalende where you put Opebi allen and CMS?lol. Funny name Alright, Pastor Obalende. ================================================================= @Pope
Look here bro'. This is 2008 and these girls are not what our mothers used to be. They chop and clean mouth quickly than you can say "caught". It's not so important who she has been with in the past, what is important is that how faithful is she to you now. People change and you might be that possitive change in her life. If you love this girl, show her the difference between you and the other guys she has been with. And if she continues to sleep around after your demonstration of love, i'd say drop her like a bad habit.
Tell your cousins to take it easy, If only sexual encounters are recorded on a woman's forehead you will see that your cousins are no angels either. If every sexual rendezvous are recorded on every woman's forehead, some women will have a head full of ink. A good woman requires luck prayers my friends. Treat her good and she might change her wayward ways.
@bennygee
I don't support your idea of " chop your own". That is very selfish and cruel. When did women became a piece of rag that you use and toss? Would you want one of your sisters' boyfriends to "Chop your own" ? Our mentality has to change as African men, that's why some women thinks we are no better than monkies.
Sweet Tai, Wow was a nice comment. I will buy Okin biscuit later. or probably a Bra Size 36  ================================================================= @ Pope
Is this problem mainly about race or because she slept with some guy who confirmed it?
If she is still interested get married and forget about it.
Right now she did confirmed what you heard, I trust that you are still interested in the relationship. Which is why you have to present the puzzling question in this forum.
Here is how it works; the determinant is the lady and not you since you can't take your mind off the past. If she still wants you and you feel you won't judge her based on her past acts go ahead with the relationship.
I believe if you don't want to hurt your partner; you can protect them from your past.
She knew you would be hurt and decided not to let you know.
Only few people can absorb it and be silent about it.
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You said, people around calls her a whore.
You should know, that only few people stand in a relationship without sex.
Having sex with different guys in the past is absolutely different from if she does the same during your relationship.
Though, we are humans knowing that your lover have had sex with someone else will definitely make you feel bad.
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Nazzy, yes I am still interested in the relationship, I love the girl soo much. She is the only one that sees me while I'm invisible to others. ================================================================= Holy pope, I will advise you to jettison the past and face the future. What is your relationship like at present? and since you started dating? how do you see your girlfriend as a person? these are questions you should be asking. As for your "cousins" let him who has no sin, cast the first stone.
I will try to forget the past so I can dream of tomorrow. ================================================================= For a second i could not figure out who you were dating . . . your friends, your cousins, your girlfriend, her ex-boyfriend. Please be specific so i can leave my own 2cents.
4him, I never thought I wrote my story in French or Spanish. It was written in pure English, but if you don't seem to understand it, I will advise you to kindly go back to School. Thanks. ================================================================= Dear confused man
what is it about this girl that you like/don't like?
u already know her past ,so what else is bothering you?
a girl who tells you about her past ,is in love(though it doesnt mean she wont still be banging her ass out with others)
A person who bangs the whole town is either a nympho or a prostitute
if she is a nympho take your own share of the national cake
if she is a whore ,use your CD and be serious with her(and give her enough pepper,or else she go dey play away game)
Thanks for your advise brother, I think I should always use like 4 condoms at once. Thanks ================================================================= |
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ada_one (f)
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@pope You should follow your heart and stop listening to everyone else around her. Be yourself and if you love her, give it a chance. You may be the very guy that influences change in her life. And also, if you KNOW that YOUR past is not-so-great, well, maybe both of you can start over together and remove judgement, Now if you are going to consider marriage at some point, then the two of you might want to have a serious talk, |
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D-reloaded (f)
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I think I should always use like 4 condoms at once .or you can both go for STD tests and get it over with. some people are way too naive and young in the mind to be in a reationship |
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Ifeniyi22 (m)
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@ poster You said people call her whore. WHORE!!!!! Did they mention to you that she used to or still has sex in exchange for money? Have you had sex with this woman, if yes and you decide to leave her, what moral justification do u have to judge or grudge her. Look at this scenario from her angle, she has met, dated and slept with 4 men or more.Its all in the past. What should really get you all worked up should be if she still sleeps with any of the old lovers or new ones which is worse.How many women have you slept with till date. Probably a whole lot more than 4. Even if u haven't slept with any woman till date, is it really fair to blame her for things that she did before she meet you I know most men want virgins or the closest thing to that as far as their wives as concerned but the truth is that as long as men keep sowing their wild oats about the land, it gets much harder for us to find virgins.Lets not be hypocrites. Please forgive her if you love her and move ahead with your lives if she makes you happy.Good women are hard to come by. |
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Akinagirl (f)
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agreed, d reloaded.
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buzzgonz (m)
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I second that !
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hollandis
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Thanks for your advise brother, I think I should always use like 4 condoms at once.
Thanks
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You are welcome 4 condoms ke? why the 4? Are you scared this girl might be carrying a veneral disease? Any ways using four is more susceptible to tearing than using one With Ruff Rider you are sure of a real safe sex I still maintain- Take your own share of the national cake@akina girl @buzz gonz what are you seconding and firsting,that pope should gofor std test or that he is too naive?  |
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nwando
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This whole tale sounds so under 17.
I remember them days.
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pssword
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@poster You wrote: My cousin’s boyfriend, who is one my best friends would also talk about her saying that she has been with a black guys and messed with a lot of other guys. Then she ended up telling me she had also slept with a black guy that I can’t stand. I can't quite understand if the real problem is that your girl slept with black guys. If not why highlight the black guy bit, do I sniff racial undertones!!?? |
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ogb5 (m)
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Thanks for your advise brother, I think I should always use like 4 condoms at once.
Thanks
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Young man get serious. If a girl says she has slept with 4 guys, most likely she has slept with 8. they downplay it for obvious reasons. If a guy says he has slept with 4 babes, must likely he has slept with 2, they overcount to show that "they can" (thank god I have only had 1, so divide that by 2) So get ready for more revelations from your babe in the future, if you can't take it, better stop now. don't add to her number of ex, the next man may also use it against her. Also note that being in previous 4 relationships does not translate in being a whore, with time you will know the real reason why they call her a whore. babes have a way of knowing each others secret. What will you do when more revelations come out, ask yourself that. If you don't love her enough to overlook her pass, using 4 CD at once will not help any of you. If you don't trust her enough, leave her, there are other guys who will appreciate her for what she is. |
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dee02 (m)
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@bennygee-correct response what pisses me off nowadays is just the lies girls cook up-kai too much! our society is full of moral decay we men too have our own problems-(we should keep our cock in our trousers and stop sweet-mouthing girls, especially the ones with praying mantis or cockroach brainssome girls were born whores while some were pressured so cock action is standard! any good woman outhere should resist all temptation to get tossed around like salads it is now common, u meet a girl, by the time u do d background check on her-one of your close guys has fucked and come on her face in a very humiliating way how person go fit marry wit all this?if women no cave in easily, guys sef go respect them a lot, @poster- it would take u a lifetime to find a woman who has not had a spontaneous sexual past honestly unless u come back life after this, maybe u have played a lot of women too who knows, but take it on the chin and move ahead wit the girl if u love her even your cousins that u love so much may have worked the streets of Allen Avenue or kuramo Beach at Odd hours, who knows! |
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D-reloaded (f)
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ogb5.
Exactly.
Obviously the poster is underaged.
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adeboo (f)
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@bennygee-correct response
what pisses me off nowadays is just the lies girls cook up-kai too much!
our society is full of moral decay
we men too have our own problems-(we should keep our cock in our trousers and stop sweet-mouthing girls, especially the ones with praying mantis brains
some girls were born whores while some were pressured
any good woman outhere should resist all temptation to get tossed around like salads
it is now common, u meet a girl, by the time u do d background check on her-one of your close guys has fucked and come on her face in a very humiliating way
how person go fit marry wit all this?if women no cave in easily, guys sef go respect them a lot,
@lot of womposter-it would take u a lifetime to find a woman who has not had a spontaneous sexual past, maybe u have played a en too who knows, but take it on the chin and move ahead wit the girl if u love her,
Praying mantis brain? resist temptation? I don't understand these statements. Ok so u saying if u are dating a girl, how long would u expect her to play hard to get so as not to be thought of as a cheapie? The last highligted statement is so true (although i don't know where the rest of the sentence went) - whatever u do to your fellow woman being shall be done back to u. |
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kadafi (m)
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My cousin’s boyfriend, who is one my best friends would also talk about her saying that she has been with a black guys and messed with a lot of other guys. Why does it matter that she messed with a black guy?are you not a black guy yourself? |
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dee02 (m)
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@sweet tai and benny gee-"on chop and clean mouth"
chop and clean mouth is only easy because most girls have disentegrated morally and their defences collapse like d walls of jericho, no disrespect to any woman in the house that has been good, truth is bitter but i shall say it
if a guy gets aggressive then teach him a lesson and chop his sausage off
if he wants to try and chop quickly and it is not forthcoming, he would bite the dust,
some woman open legs quicker than a barracks gate, if u know how many girls wey don leave door open for Lagos just becoz awon boys dey land from London soon?!kai,
we need to pick ourselves up and stop all this mess mess faka fiki thing, the way women whore them selves around this days is alarming
guys sef don tire them no fit chop again because the ones wey them dey chop never digest
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pope732901 (m)
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ogb5.
Exactly.
Obviously the poster is underaged.
D-reloaded abi ki lon je? Whats your problem? Me posting or sharing my problem doesn't mean I can't handle situations on my own OKAy? I may not show enough seriousness in my response to ppls comment. But deep down in me. I do appreciate them alot. Don't you know you catch more flies with honey than you do with Sh1t? I am sure with this my forum, it has done so many people goodies okay? A lot of people were thanking me on Yahoo Messenger for posting the Blog or Forum, I want us to learn from ourselves. Thats all. So ki oya sho ara e gidi gan O. Ose. Pope |
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top_kin (m)
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I think this pope guy is just a joker and trin 2 make a mockery of us all. Judging frm the comments he's made to other's reply/advise, it's obvious he's made up his mind on what to do even before making this post. His responses are childish & frivolous. I don't think he deserves any pity!!!  |
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D-reloaded (f)
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Arent you the same "pope" that was calling another poster "omo ale" because she was asking about sexual positoons? Who do you think you are fooling. I already disgraced you in that thread, berra don't look for my trouble again. Oniranu.
Only an underaged person would make such a thread. As you can see I'm not the only one who mentioned that
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