Are Expensive Funerals Necessary?

I wonder why people spend fortunes on burials. And it's unfortunate that majority of people even the enlightened and poor in the land indulge in it. But I am happy that Anglican communion in my diocese have long banned expensive burials. They did it by making sure burials are done on Fridays instead of weekends so as to attract less people that will expect to eat and drink. Also dead bodies must be buried within two weeks else the Church will not partake in the burial.

As for me I hardly eat or drink at burial ceremonies. I regard it as another time of solemn reflection about life.

to me, i think expensive funeral are not all that necessary. it depends on the individual. But i don't see why spend all that money on someone who is dead but you couldn't lend them $1 when they were alive. If i were to die before my time (God forbid) i just want to be cremated in my back yard, shoot,make life simple. i don't need floweres, or makeup or nice clothing when i'm dead.

These days when somebody dies, the bereaved mourn not only due to the loss but the seeming high cost of burials. You see the family having series of fund raising meetings. They prefer you send money to even attending the burial. We put ourselves in unecessary pressure because we are trying to meet 'standards'. No matter what we spend, the deseased is deseased!

Its funny when you attend funerals and you see people scampering for food/drinks  . Some communities in the Eastern part of our country have banned elaborate ceremonies during burial. One stipulates that if you must 'refresh' attendees, then it must be agege bread! That goes to show how people have suffered concerning high burial costs.

To me, the only time burial could be celebrated is if the deseased is very old - not less than 85 years.

nightnurse

this one you opened funeral thread!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i'm running away from this nurse, don't know her plans

ABSOLUTELY UNNECESSARY- my humble opinion

Burials are moments of grief and its completely different from a wedding or birthday celebration, so i see absolutely no reason why it should be ambiguous, it should be as simple as possible, but today its a joyful moment if there is little cash in the family- you see aswebi girls and what have you, in my opinion its shameful, if only the dead person sees how people celebrate his/her demise and get drunk in the process, no matter what the individual has achieved bottom line is the person is gone.

Unfortunately that culture of funfare in form of Burial is cripping into the North. formally if someone dies in a house, the mebers of that houshold ill not cook for weeks, neigbors, friends and extended family will bring food and other things to make it easier to the bereaved family, but no, for where, when someone dies, people start strolling into the house from morning and expect to be fed breakfast, lunch and dinner there. Some ill even call you and ask you what variety of food and drinks you have forgeting that you are in mourning. The bereaved family will cook from morning till night and ash plates like hell.
The burail proper , you will have to produce suveniors. The only good thing is that no mattter how old the person is the corpse will be buried within a week.
My Father after a burial told me that if he dies, We should dig a whole and bury him in the backyard and tell people that he ran off ith a 21 yr old chick.

Just a waste of moneyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

totally unnecessary
wrap the dead body in a piece of clean cloth, dig a grave (deep enough) and chuck the body in it!
tell everyone the mourning is over and they can all go home, NO RICE, MOI-MOI OR BURUKUTU!

In some eastern part of Nigeria, you must bury your dead-father in a very big way before you'll be allowed to talk, eat or drink in gatherings like meetings etc.

I know of this family(in the eastern part of this country), their dad died and because he was a titled man, they had to bury him 7 times (according to their tradition), 6 good cows and 1 goat were killed because the man had 6 males and 1 female child, so each child of his must do his/her own burial ceremony for their late father and it is mandatory, otherwise, they won't be allowed to partake in any thing the villagers were doing and none of the villagers will attend any of the family's functions (wedding,thankgiving etc).

I call it waste of money, its true they are rich and could all afford such expensive traditional whatever, but they should have used such a huge amount of money to help the poor and needy and damn the villagers with their fucking traditions.

I just wish people could do the right thing at the right time because its annoying some times

I don't think you are a nurse or is that just an ID? Bcos I don't expect a good nurse to have time for this burial problems

I think a large percentage of the house is on one accord here.

From my perspective and for people of my faith,the question does not/should not and must never even arise.Its not for debate/creative criticism. My religion forbids it,its a law and everybody knows.WE DONT CELLEBRATE FUNERAL.
All u owe the dead man is a piece of clothe to cover his nakedness, continous/continual prayers and almsgiving.
His soul is far away, anwering questions in regards his earthly deeds from the two angels , MUNKAR and NAKIR after a visit from the death angel , ASARA'EEL(asarailu as the Yorubas says).

What can only reach him now are prayers,almgiving in his regard and good deeds he has done on earth that people are constantly benefiting from.eg a functioning well/bore hole that people drinks from,a garden of fruit,library people still attend,worship places he built ,things of charity people still enjoys etc.

We were just discussing this late yesterday in my office after loging out(I never knew it will com up here now) and the reaction was just like in this house.

A typical example is the burial MKO Abiola and ABACHA.I wont be surprised if Adenuga(GLO) or say Egbenedion(OKADA) is buried otherwise when their time comes.
Salam-Peace

It's not just waste of money, but resources, time and energy!. Just imagine the money, time and space consumed in the name of burial ceremony in most cases.

Recently, my dad's mum died and i was told all family members, including extended family has to contribute for the grand burial ceremony. Imagine asking me to pay N20k and my younger siblings 15k. I was actually laughing my ass off when i was told, i just told them to add up everything and include it to my mum or dad's bill.

N20k my ass, for a burial ceremony, when the old woman didn't even know wether i am contributing a penny on her behalf.

very unnecessary o. The deceased propably died of neglect by same people at the funeral party. abi

probably true.