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Meldrick (m)
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Iam most impressed with tkb 417. Some of us take things to the extreme. We watch too much home videos and are carried away. He might have said that without having anything at the back of his mind. She should have corrected him or express her anger over the use of his language rather than been unnecessarily hysterical. Does she expect to be taken to the moon filled with roses. She never one marry when age hit her hard hmmmm.she go no say khaki no be leather.
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almondjoy (f)
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as far as im concerned almondjoy is the most intelligent
wisened and well spoken female on nairaland.
AJ i look forward to reading more of your posts.
keep it up
Oh, thank you!  I will try! he he he he he he  |
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D-reloaded (f)
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All these people still crying
The guy has apologized and the couple made up. Move on with your lives and spare us "it''s not African" bullshit.
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tkb417 (m)
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Iam most impressed with ***. Some of us take things to the extreme. We watch too much home videos and are carried away. He might have said that without having anything at the back of his mind. She should have corrected him or express her anger over the use of his language rather than been unnecessarily hysterical. Does she expect to me taken to the moon filled with roses. She never one marry when age hit her hard hmmmm.she go no say khaki no be leather. she doesnt understand things of this life. Most girls are carried away with 'packaging' and later on they will start shouting, "she doesnt love me like before" I'm even amazed at the choice of grammar that our girls are using to label the guy, the action of the guy and even the proposal itself Too much homevideo is beclouding sence of reasoning i tell u. @TOH are u saying we shouldnt say our minds? or how on earth do you think some of us are still crying?  |
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izeek (m)
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so it a crime now that d guy final;ly decided to marry your friend, or where exactly was she hoping the relationship of four years was going to end.
well believe me we have more unromantic guys in nigeria than you know. and i think the guy just finally said what it was the girl has been pestering him for for a while now abi?
if your friend would be truthful to her self, her and her boyfriend must have discussed this marriage issue so i figure he was just re-instating what ever it was they have discussed.
if i was her though, i would accept his proposal afterall alot of other girls here in naija lie about how they are proposed to.
like one once said ' don't you think its time we meet my parents".
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begood1
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Aisha,
tell your friend that i said that
"Men are scarce these days oo"
And if a blind man miss the udara he marched with his legs, no body will give offer him another"
that mine own piece of advice
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cao alvin (m)
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thats nt good
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cao alvin (m)
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thats nt good
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gentlegg (m)
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She should thank heavens that she saw somebody proposing to her. These days that girls/ladies are even proposing to guys with their ass during week-end, month-end and year-end visits to the guy without succeding yet, some roasting through fasting and prayers, incessant night vigils yet no answer.
Monkey said, those wey get yansh no sabi sit down (Ibo proverb)
Though the wordings of the guy's proposal is not good and befitting enough, but the girls response is totally weird, rude and unbecoming of a wife-material. If am the guy, by her response, I will even regret ever proposing to her at all
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D-reloaded (f)
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@TOH are u saying we shouldnt say our minds? or how on earth do you think some of us are still crying? If you werent crying, my comment wouldnt have affected you  seriously, some of these arguements are so ridiculous. "oh nollywood is affecting you 'we are not white people". who bloody cares. If the girl found his words to be offensive, so be it. who are any of you to say she's wrong. she has the right to be offended by whatever, obviously the guy knew he was in the wrong in regards to her so he apologized now everything is fine Just because some people didnt find the sentence demeaning or whatever doesnt mean they are better than those who did. People blaming nollywood and all that garbage, even when it's the done the "african way" of your family meeting hers, does the want to be husband family ever go there saying 'well our son has finally decided to marry your daughter, we will be expecting her bythis and this time", don't even bother lying, you know the words are usually alot sweeter than that. |
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blacklion (m)
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AJ, You don try well well to educate the small girls wey dey yap anyhow for here. Abeg, go rest as them no wan hear sense. Fly wey no wan hear go follow dead bodi enter grave. Shebi all of them na under-18? No wonder dia mouth dey sharp anyhow for nairaland. Make we see weda in real life, by the time they reach 30-plus, weda them go dey front all this front wey them dey front now. One thing I have learnt in life is that the guy or babe who is urging u to 'don't tolerate any nonsense' from your friend/wife/hubby is receiving even bigger bullshit at home from their own friend/spouse. But they will come out in public to encourage you to destroy your own relationship while they stomach all kinds of nonsense in order to keep theirs. The guy is clumsy - perhaps issues with command of English language. But is that a good reason to risk throwing away 4 years of relationship just like that? What if the guy took offence and walked away? Who is the loser? Aisha's friend. But Aisha who is running her mouth here anyhow will prolly swallow even greater nonsense to keep her own relationship. Husband scarce well well for naija - if you like dey dere dey deceive yourself |
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almondjoy (f)
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AJ, You don try well well to educate the small girls wey dey yap anyhow for here. Abeg, go rest as them no wan hear sense. Fly wey no wan hear go follow dead bodi enter grave. Shebi all of them na under-18? No wonder dia mouth dey sharp anyhow for nairaland. Make we see weda in real life, by the time they reach 30-plus, weda them go dey front all this front wey them dey front. One thing I have learnt in life is that the guy or babe who is urging to 'don't tolerate any nonsense' from his/her wife/hubby is receiving even bigger bullshit at home from their own friend/spouse. But they will come out in public to encourage you to destroy your own relationship while they stomach all kinds of nonsense in order to keep theirs. The guy is clumsy - perhaps issues with command of English language. But is that good reason to throw away 4 years of relationship? What if the guy took offence and walked away? Who is the loser? Aisha's friend. But Aisha who is running her mouth here anyhow will prolly swallow even greater nonsense to keep her own relationship. Husband scarce well well for naija - if you like dey dere dey deceive yourself I don talk my own now. No be Nairaland we don dey for here since 2005? Not one single marriage proposal. Let us wait and see! Some posters here are like 3 years older. Next year will make it 4 years!  Let me be watching bible studies! |
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D-reloaded (f)
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um who's under 18? Get over yourself. all these people just yarning nonsense upon nonsense, the guy still ended up begging the girl anyway |
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calyx
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I do not think this guy felt anything less than performing a romantic activity as the time t at which same proposal was made. He may even would have started thinking he had over romantized the proposal when the babe got fussy.
Abi is there a way you expect an okada man and an oxford graduate to have the same notions about the best way to propose to a lady.
What ever girl is concerned should better be guided ooooooooooo
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almondjoy (f)
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um who's under 18?Get over yourself. all these people just yarning nonsense upon nonsense, the guy still ended up begging the girl anyway Many people have only updated their picture profiles but did not change the age. "the guy ended up begging the girl". . . . . . . .or so we where told. I have no reason to believe or doubt what went up or down. . . . we were not there! Let's just wish them well! All we have is a proposal now. Let us get to the altar. . . . . .is what we should be praying for since they both love eachother. |
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D-reloaded (f)
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Na their own problem. There's a 12 yr old on here sef claiming 19 and viceversa, na their own. I'm personally glad that I still look decent for 58 |
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almondjoy (f)
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Na their own problem. There's a 12 yr old on here sef claiming 19 and viceversa, na their own. I'm personally glad that I still look decent for 58 Okaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! I hear you! |
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OLADO (m)
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The guy should have been more romantic, systematic, diplomatic, and more technical in proposing to the lady. To u the lady be more patient and if y no y love the guy go head and marry him what really matas is that he actually loves u. GOOD LUCK.
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janami (f)
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Almond Joy took the words out of my mouth. is he not a naija guy? wetin she dey expect again? Did she not know the guy was not romantic before she started dating him? abegi, d girl too get quick temper. only God knows how much courage the guy had to muster up to propose and then ---- |
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randy (m)
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o girl, i feel for you sha, but from thick and thin na you know am pass
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otokx (m)
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Home videos are at work everywhere.
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ariblaze (m)
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@D-reloaded i have always imagined you intelligent and sparkly so far so i have not had cause to change that opinion  but your post about people crying was a little left winged @people who sent rejoinders why do we always have to spark a gender war at every tee? @post we men are like wild animals, we would try and restrict captivity(marriage) worse than a falcon would so when a man looks at a woman and feels hey' i want to captured by this person we need to give him some credit(agreed his proposal was a little TACKY to say the least) but the lady could just as well have put him straight saying something along the lines i would answer when you get your proposal rightwould that have being a bad reply? or better yet why dint she propose |
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windywendy (f)
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AJ, You don try well well to educate the small girls wey dey yap anyhow for here. Abeg, go rest as them no wan hear sense. Fly wey no wan hear go follow dead bodi enter grave. Shebi all of them na under-18? No wonder dia mouth dey sharp anyhow for nairaland. Make we see weda in real life, by the time they reach 30-plus, weda them go dey front all this front wey them dey front now. One thing I have learnt in life is that the guy or babe who is urging u to 'don't tolerate any nonsense' from your friend/wife/hubby is receiving even bigger bullshit at home from their own friend/spouse. But they will come out in public to encourage you to destroy your own relationship while they stomach all kinds of nonsense in order to keep theirs. The guy is clumsy - perhaps issues with command of English language. But is that a good reason to risk throwing away 4 years of relationship just like that? What if the guy took offence and walked away? Who is the loser? Aisha's friend. But Aisha who is running her mouth here anyhow will prolly swallow even greater nonsense to keep her own relationship. Husband scarce well well for naija - if you like dey dere dey deceive yourself Abeg leave that matter. Husband scarce ko, husband scarce ni . Of course I don't agree with the girl's reaction, but let's leave that matter for a moment. Why would a guy come and say "i've finally decided to marry you"? That would totally freak me out. Does he think he's doing me a favor or what? And if that's his thinking, then I better run for my dear life. What woman wants to marry a man who thinks he's doing her a favor by marrying her? Is that same man going to be the father of her kids? or the same one she's going to be spending the rest of her life with? God forbid bad thing! A lot of the responses i've seen here seem to suggest that the woman should count herself lucky that a man is proposing. Is that anything serious? Just as he's looking for a woman that meet his ideals of a good wife, she's also looking for a man that'll meet her ideals of a good husband. I don't suscribe to using scare tactics (such as "better accept now otherwise you'll become an old maid") to con people into doing something as serious as getting into a marriage relationship. That's silly. What happens after the wedding? Then one day he'll get up and say "i've finally decided we move to the village". Then after the kids come, it'll be "i've finally decided that this one should study criminal justice or that one should become a mechanic". Then what next? "i've finally decided bla bla bla" Who wants to live with a husband like that  OMG, just thinking about it is giving me a headache already OK let me get serious. If I were in the girls shoes, considering that the relationship has been going on for 4years, I would first put that statement in the context of the guy's behavior. If hitherto he's been a control freak, this statement would definitely be the last straw that'll shatter the camel's back. I'll be out of that relationship in a hurry. If I consider that it's just a matter of tactlessness on the guy's part, then we'll certainly be having a discussion. I'll certainly want to know what had been going through his mind -- was he having doubts, or struggling with the idea of marriage? I certainly wouldn't want to tie the knot with someone who's having second thoughts. It's better to give him time to make up his mind. Conversely I certainly wouldn't want to marry someone I'm having second thoughts about either and I'll take all the time I need to make up my mind too. To all you guys who like to deceive people into believing that men are scarce, abeg shut it for now. That statement is the oldest trick most gullible folks have used to try and get a cheap commitment out a of woman they desperately want to marry. It doesn't work -- at least not for those women who know what they want in a husband. So let's hear word abeg. "i've finally decided to marry you"  who says that??? chei, sounds really wierd walahi. |
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D-reloaded (f)
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Abeg leave that matter. Husband scarce ko, husband scarce ni . Of course I don't agree with the girl's reaction, but To all you guys who like to deceive people into believing that men are scarce, abeg shut it for now. That statement is the oldest trick most gullible folks have used to try and get a cheap commitment out a woman they desperately want to marry. It doesn't work -- at least not for those women who know what they want in a husband. So let's hear word abeg. Lmao thank you o wendy Dont know who they think they are fooling with that "husband is scarce" garbage. Maybe in their village they are scarce. Awon olodo. That nonsense doesnt work on sane people which is why some of them are foaming at the mouth |
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windywendy (f)
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@post we men are like wild animals, we would try and restrict captivity(marriage) worse than a falcon would so when a man looks at a woman and feels hey' i want to captured by this person we need to give him some credit(agreed his proposal was a little TACKY to say the least) but the lady could just as well have put him straight saying something along the lines i would answer when you get your proposal rightwould that have being a bad reply? or better yet why dint she propose I don't understand why the man should be given credit for proposing. He's trying to get something he wants and should therefore do what needs to be done in order to achieve the objective. That's common sense. He might as well put some finesse into it na. Abi is that too much to ask? It's not like he'll just marry the woman by force na. The proposal is a necessary step in the process, so he might as well get it right. Credit for what again? |
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The Sly
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some Naija girls too dey form!. . .
Some dey say them no like make person dey ''beat around the bush''
Now this one dey yarn dust say the proposal no dey romantic. . Romantic ko. .Australiasoft ni. .
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blacklion (m)
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some Naija girls too dey form!. . .
Some dey say them no like make person dey ''beat around the bush''
Now this one dey yarn dust say the proposal no dey romantic. . Romantic ko. .Australiasoft ni. .
You dey mind them? All of them na under-age na im die mouth dey sharp here. Make we see when them reach 35 and no husband. |
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windywendy (f)
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Lmao thank you o wendy Dont know who they think they are fooling with that "husband is scarce" garbage. Maybe in their village they are scarce. Awon olodo. That nonsense doesnt work on sane people which is why some of them are foaming at the mouth Abi o. Anyone that feels the need to scare or con another person into marrying them definitely has issues and should be avoided at all cost. I can't even begin to imagine the type of marriage partner that person will make. I no wan think am sef  hiss, hiss |
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D-reloaded (f)
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some of you are embarrassing  |
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windywendy (f)
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You dey mind them? All of them na under-age na im die mouth dey sharp here. Make we see when them reach 35 and no husband.
Abeg forget that matter. Leave the 35 and face ya own. If you like make you go con or scare woman into marrying you. Your eyes go shine well well after the wedding . You think say marriage na play play thing? Go and ask those men who've made that costly mistake and you'll hear nothing but tales of woe. Just make sure the woman that you're about to marry is marrying you because she truly loves you, not because you scared or conned her into marrying you. Na my 2kobo advice be that. |
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ariblaze (m)
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I don't understand why the man should be given credit for proposing. He's trying to get something he wants and should therefore do what needs to be done in order to achieve the objective. That's common sense. He might as well put some finesse into it na. Abi is that too much to ask? It's not like he'll just marry the woman by force na. The proposal is a necessary step in the process, so he might as well get it right. Credit for what again?
touche' but the girl could have proposed sha |
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