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aisha2 (f)
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Let me clarify some issues, My friend is 23. has a masters and has a six figure job. I can't vouch for anyone but from what i know about her, she has not presured him into making the proposal. They met in US, He was doing his masters, hile she was pursuing her first degree. She is one of the most laid back person you would ever meet. She was angry with him because she was not in anyway bothered about getting married, she was just interested in taking the relationship as it comes, so she felt hurt that he sounded as if she was begging for it and he was doing her a favor.
However, she realised that she over reacted and he realised he was worng to have blurted that kind of proposal out.
She said to thank you all for your responses, Said she ould have posted herself but she is a popular Nairalander and if she posted, someone might guess who she really is.
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Radiant (f)
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I think this story was made up. No guy would say such a thing.
Where d'u live? Debo, I hear u  |
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The Sly
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Let me clarify some issues, My friend is 23. has a masters and has a six figure job. I can't vouch for anyone but from what i know about her, she has not presured him into making the proposal. They met in US, He was doing his masters, hile she was pursuing her first degree. She is one of the most laid back person you would ever meet. She was angry with him because she was not in anyway bothered about getting married, she was just interested in taking the relationship as it comes, so she felt hurt that he sounded as if she was begging for it and he was doing her a favor.
Now i understand better!!!. . . . but then its all good. Wish 'em Good luck. . .  |
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jintujinta (m)
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Hmmm, are you sure you ar not the one? Anyway, what does it matter if we all know who is involved. What matters is that they found love. May they live happily ever after.   |
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Radiant (f)
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Said she ould have posted herself but she is a popular Nairalander and if she posted, someone might guess who she really is.
Tell her Radiant says hi Guys, let's leave this couple. Things are good now |
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yemivictor (m)
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Hmmm . . . i can see almondjoy is just raking up one lover after the other with each post!
AJ, abeg talk true o! 
You sure say you never sneak come naija come collect black soap for agenebode wey you dey take baff for nevada!?
Abi na wetin con be all this converts you're making out of your sworn enemies ke!?
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yodiyokun (f)
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I no no say windy wendy dey come this side. I couldnt resist clicking this thread from the front page.
Its absolutely hilarious - " I have finally decided to marry you" In my hey days, If one guy come tell me that kind thing - He go hear am ooooo.
Anyway sha I was lucky not to have met such a proposal.
Honestly, we can't make comments because we really don't understand the kind of relationship they have had for 4 years and the mentality of the two people involved.
For instance in my situation, I did not get proposal - it was someting like when are we coming to meet your people na? It was just a logical conclusion to a friednship and relationship. chikena.
But I no be romantic person - never was. Though I appreciate small tokens here and there but I simply for the life of me can't get why a girl will swoon over been proposed to over the radio or in the very public glare of everybody. This na private matter ke!.
For me that will embarrass me and put me off. My kind of girl is get to the koko of the matter, but do it with some tact, sincerity and respect.
I did my husband a favour and he did me a favour as well - na mutual respect na. and we have two cute boys to show for it. And I am loving every minute of it.
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yemivictor (m)
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Hmmm . . . i can see almondjoy is just raking up one lover after the other with each post!
AJ, abeg talk true o!
You sure say you never sneak come naija come collect black soap for agenebode wey you dey take baff for nevada!?
Abi na wetin con be all this converts you're making out of your sworn enemies ke!?
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tpia
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@ aisha's explanation. No wonder. The guy must also be one of those yabbing Nairalanders or internet commandos like dalby and Blacklion. na them dey front pass, but put them in a serious situation and watch them fumble like nobody's business. Na socializing problem o. See what happens when you refuse to learn from your interactions on the web. Or interactions in general. People will complain about everything- English is not our mother tongue, women are too forward, etc etc. Instead of them to learn from the world around them, na so so yab them go dey yab, only to fall flat on their faces at critical moments. @ blacklion and dalby- na una sef una dey explain o. You're not talking to me at all. I don't give a flying fig for anything you might have to say. In fact, say more. |
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Radiant (f)
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No wonder. The guy must also be one of those yabbing Nairalanders or internet commandos like dalby and Blacklion.
na them dey front pass, but put them in a serious situation and watch them fumble like nobody's business.
People will complain about everything- English is not our mother tongue, women are too forward, etc etc. Instead of them to learn from the world around them, na so so yab them go dey yab, only to fall flat on their faces at critical moments.
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Radiant (f)
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For instance in my situation, I did not get proposal - it was someting like when are we coming to meet your people na?
Different strokes. . . |
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debosky (m)
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@ tpia your own sef don dey too muchoya tell me which one of them wey you like pass make I give am lessons to brush up I go arrange d guy well well you go think say him be brad pitt  make we get a second proposal for hia - aisha's friend don settle her own, na your turn now oh! @ yodiyokun I like your style jare - mutual consideration is the keyimagine going to buy roses and things for one bush Oshogbo girl, she no go even appreciate am! Just gather the right aso oke and lace with gele and tell her 'my wife this is for the traditional wedding' and na carry go be that. |
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D-reloaded (f)
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tbk, I suggest you stop crying @ d-reloaded - same applies to you. this website is called nairaland and its a Nigerian website. I will use pidgin or Queen's English as and when I see fit. If you don't understand pidgin English at all or any longer, sorry too bad for you. Make an effort to learn the Nigerian lingo if you want to be with naija people. Dude, be quiet. I wasnt raised with your garbage pidgin English. It's either English or Yoruba. If you can't speak to me in either of the two then once again, don't refer to me at all. It's not by force that you pose a response to me, don't have time to figure out incomprehensible "English". |
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D-reloaded (f)
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This thread is so yesterday. Why is getting so big? Show is over. Couple made up. Everyone go home.
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segzi cres (m)
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the man is a dumba ass but the woman is dummer.
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Radiant (f)
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Everyone go home.
You must be kidding. Forgotten the land you're in? How was your night Sweetie?  imagine going to buy roses and things for one bush Oshogbo girl, she no go even appreciate am!
You should know what your girl would appreciate.Why would you buy flowers for someone who is surrounded by shrubs? |
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D-reloaded (f)
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It was fine jare finally called, tell you later tonight You should know what your girl would appreciate.Why would you buy flowers for someone who is surrounded by shrubs? Please drum it into their ears |
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Radiant (f)
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Aight. I'm waiting |
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D-reloaded (f)
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are you lacking cable in your house?
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kayowalemi (m)
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he has so many people in his life and decided to choose her as if it is a priviledge he offered her. Please, is he prince charming?
Kayo
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osegwu (m)
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Which is easier to say, I have finally decided to marry you or you win?
Which is more romantic? For the later is exactly how a Nairalander proposed
to his babe some time ago.
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windywendy (f)
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@Windy madam, u think na candlestick we dey talk about? abeggi, commot for here come teach me how to do CICO, them Wanajo and Pumping are waiting You sef, haba on a more serious note, are u saying semantics has got a lot to do with how i propose to my babe can't i propose when im drunk? can't i propose on Okada? who says i can only propose with choice words culled from Mills and boon or some rap lyrics its berra i do it my way. . Windy u know what matters, the rosy life after the proposal, not the 'packaging' of the proposal You sef come here? But bros, this one no be cico or stock matter o, na real life. You cannot want to live with someone as your spouse and at the same time be quick to dismiss anything that suggests that you need to learn to communicate with him/her in the language that they understand. It don't work that way o  .So yes, communication (if that's what you're referring to as semantics) does have everything to do with it. Who says you can't propose when you're drunk or on an okada Sure you can! As long as that's what gets the wheels of the woman in question spinning then you're good to go and will have no problems at all. If on the other hand you get someone who thinks that's crass then na yawa be that o, and you'll wind up having problems continually -- at least until you wisen up and learn to speak in the language that she understands. (And if you don't like to speak in the language that she understands, then commot quick quick and go and find the person who's only willing to understand the language that you're only willing to speak ) You're absolutely right, what matters is the rosy life after the proposal, but the truth is that there can be no rosy life until both parties learn to communicate in the language that the other party understands and appreciates. So if the woman is put off by that type of proposal, the sensible thing for the guy to do would be to reverse, rewind and replay -- this time in a language that she can identify and be pleased with. The packaging does matter -- at least until she becomes an expert mind reader which by the way is never going to happen! |
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Surprises
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Let me clarify some issues, My friend is 23. has a masters and has a six figure job. I can't vouch for anyone but from what i know about her, she has not presured him into making the proposal. They met in US, He was doing his masters, hile she was pursuing her first degree. She is one of the most laid back person you would ever meet. She was angry with him because she was not in anyway bothered about getting married, she was just interested in taking the relationship as it comes, so she felt hurt that he sounded as if she was begging for it and he was doing her a favor.
However, she realised that she over reacted and he realised he was worng to have blurted that kind of proposal out.
She said to thank you all for your responses, Said she ould have posted herself but she is a popular Nairalander and if she posted, someone might guess who she really is.
aisha2, I have a very different opinion. Now what is it? Both of them are basically proud persons. They both, and she especially missed a very, very good opportunity to let out something even more serious but which may surface later, not minding that they have now kissed it away. You see, when something like this happens it is good to meditate. Your friend missed a golden opportunity. And what is it? From the statement of the proposal, it is easy to glean that the guy undoubtedly have some reservations about your friend and might have been struggling with it. This incident would have afforded your friend to simply say, "Well, I have heard your proposal, but I have this problem about you, I have to say this because we really have to come to reality. Because from the way you coined your proposal, I have this feeling there might be some aspect of my behaviour that you do not so much like. I wish you can share it with me". The guy might open up. Let it be that her reaction would be dependent on what the guy would say. But she has kissed that opportunity away, and surely it will surface again after the marriage ceremony when the chips are down, and the guy might refer to this incident if not loudly, but somewhat "that was why I was a little bit hesitant in going forward in this relationship". Someone has said that a woman makes her man what she wants him to be. Some persons would doubt this, but it is 80% true. When a woman is mild in spirit as encouraged by the Bible, that mildness can melt the man's bones". Men were created differently from women. And when a man is proud, what reminds him of his pride is humility on the part of his spouse, and good men when they realise this they weep inside of them. Pride is a vice, a very great vice. Humility is the key to success in human relationship. Any woman too that tries to be independent will never be a happy person. Forget what she may say, we are talking here about how she feels inside. Soon another opportunity will open for your friend for her to understand the guy properly, and when she wears the humble garment she will get what she wants. Whether or not they have been together for donkey years is immaterial, their actions have simply shown that they are yet to fully understand themselves. Otherwise couples who understand themselves, will make a good evening out of this incident and sleep soundly. Just my thoughts. Regards |
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windywendy (f)
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@yodiyokun, chei I no fit laff! You sef come here? Oya quick quick, back to the stock market forum, let's go figure out which stocks are good for next week's cico list. By the way, what you've said here is very true indeed. |
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windywendy (f)
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aisha2,
I have a very different opinion. Now what is it? Both of them are basically proud persons. They both, and she especially missed a very, very good opportunity to let out something even more serious but which may surface later, not minding that they have now kissed it away. You see, when something like this happens it is good to meditate. Your friend missed a golden opportunity. And what is it? From the statement of the proposal, it is easy to glean that the guy undoubtedly have some reservations about your friend and might have been struggling with it. This incident would have afforded your friend to simply say, "Well, I have heard your proposal, but I have this problem about you, I have to say this because we really have to come to reality. Because from the way you coined your proposal, I have this feeling there might be some aspect of my behaviour that you do not so much like. I wish you can share it with me". The guy might open up. Let it be that her reaction would be dependent on what the guy would say. But she has kissed that opportunity away, and surely it will surface again after the marriage ceremony when the chips are down, and the guy might refer to this incident if not loudly, but somewhat "that was why I was a little bit hesitant in going forward in this relationship".
Someone has said that a woman makes her man what she wants him to be. Some persons would doubt this, but it is 80% true. When a woman is mild in spirit as encouraged by the Bible, that mildness can melt the man's bones". Men were created differently from women. And when a man is proud, what reminds him of his pride is humility on the part of his spouse, and good men when they realise this they weep inside of them. Pride is a vice, a very great vice. Humility is the key to success in human relationship. Any woman too that tries to be independent will never be a happy person. Forget what she may say, we are talking here about how she feels inside.
Soon another opportunity will open for your friend for her to understand the guy properly, and when she wears the humble garment she will get what she wants. Whether or not they have been together for donkey years is immaterial, their actions have simply shown that they are yet to fully understand themselves. Otherwise couples who understand themselves, will make a good evening out of this incident and sleep soundly.
Just my thoughts. Regards
Hmmm, very wise words too! Except that i'm not too keen on believing that a woman makes her man what she wants him to be. But then again when put in context of the fact that people will relate with you based on how you relate with them, that's true as well. But I don't believe, as I've heard on several occassions, that it's a woman's job to tame or train her man. But then again, that's not what you're saying is it? Your observations are very true for the most part! |
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blacklion (m)
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Quote from: tpia on Today at 02:46:52 PM
No wonder. The guy must also be one of those yabbing Nairalanders or internet commandos like dalby and Blacklion.
na them dey front pass, but put them in a serious situation and watch them fumble like nobody's business.
People will complain about everything- English is not our mother tongue, women are too forward, etc etc. Instead of them to learn from the world around them, na so so yab them go dey yab, only to fall flat on their faces at critical moments. See mugu eaglet as e dey front for here! Imagine mumu wey no fit decode diasporan, tax, accountant and poop packer dey make noise hia! Ah go speak any kin English as ah like for u and all your fellow mumu eaglets for here for your own good, leave that smoke that is scorching your brain well alone |
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debosky (m)
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are you lacking cable in your house?
free loaders. @ blacklion just confess to me if you like the girl, all these attacks don pass the topic na? Do I hear another style style proposal in the works? |
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blacklion (m)
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which girl? is tpia a woman?
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