Funny Marriage Proposal

i doubt this was the first time her boyfriend has reacted in such a way.   COMMUNICATION is the key. she knows what kind of dude she has but complains when he makes a snide comment?? i don't see what's so cruel about the comment by the way. maybe he should have been nicer but it's not a big deal.

Very hard rock.  No sentiments for ma matter at all.  She has been with this guy for this long and at the 99th hour she is horrified that she is dealing with "crude oil"   Now is time to "refine" and sell at an inflationary rate of $200 per barrel she just voided the whole contract.  I am not that cursed!  Haba!   Even if I don't accept it in good faith, this is not the time.  You can imagine how the guy felt after the insult.  The guy was just being himself, but she was just being a mischievious ingrate period!


Plenty of experience I say. Leave all this one we are doing on Nairaland I say.   If the guy will even listen to her. For all you know he set a trap for her.


Okay now.  Let me remind you that it is not "African Culture" to propose.  Other places are still using "abduction" methods in Africa. Kidnapping from village to village.   Kai! Laff wan kill me abeg! Too much of oyinbo influence is not good.  She should be lucky she was not sold to the highest bidder. The things women worry about.

At least the dude tried.  Took her to lunch, which should count for something.  For all we know, this is a trap to be enjoyed by another babe now.  Who loses?   She just showed her color like that?

That was a cheap provocation.  I hope she is forgiven.

Gosh, you've killed me here with laughter.

but na wa for the guy sha. .  .

can you imagine him saying (the first time they got down ) i have finally decided to . . .(fill in blank) you

From the responses of some men, I get to believe that some men feel its a favour to marry a woman. My friend is a very confident and somewhat independent woman, she knows what she wants and will never settle for anything less. I simply think its stupid for someone to feel he is doing her or any woman a favor by marrying her, and for once Almondjoy, i disagree with you, Women can be their true selves and still get married, she and the guy have been together for a long time and are real to each other, The guy called me and has been asking me to talk to her, he said he was sorry that, he planned a better way to say it but it all came out wrong, he knows she is a jewel thats why he asked her to marry him.
ANy woman who will pretend to accept rudeness from any man because she wants to get married is not a good person because she is either a pretender or does not have any self esteem.
Anyway to cut long story short, they have kissed and made up with so many am sorrys, she said she felt she deserved better and the guy said he was truly sorry, that he was so nervous, it came out wrong.
Me I believ its better to be yourself and know hat you ant.

Thanks for bringing out that angle.  Frankly, I think that would have been extremely romantic to me. My kind of language definitely I am not really cut out for all those pleasantries.  Just get down to the nitty gritty of it all.



The point is that she has been with this guy for a while now and could definitely communicate better.  Good thing they have made up.  Who says he cannot come back 5 years into the marriage to say. . . . I want you out of ma house and I am bringing in another wife?  Will she not handle her business?  Nothing wrong with being an independent woman and men do not do women any favors by proposing marriages to them.  She was just as rude as he was period! Why she go back now?  She for vex well well.   She should have dumped him for the uncouth chap he was and let her see if another woman will not grab him. I am all for independent female and such but not for trivialities like this.  I am glad the guy had the humility to come back. . . . some would have just shut the door in her face.  A risk too great for someone you have been with this long.  Oh Please!

The good thing here is that they have both learned to communicate for the better.  That is what marriage is all about. . . . . refining crude oil.  We wish them well!

@aisha
Even if the guy took her to the carribean just to propose,It doesnt still add anything to the marriage.whay matters is the sustenability of the marriage.but the guy is not romantic oh .I must just confess. .But If you analyse his statement well,I will say he said his mind.yes,because before you want to hook up with someone,you must have thought about it,before making a decision.So I would say the guy was point blank,he fired straight   .but I also feel he is not tactful.he was just too forward.Or maybe he is not a man of so many words.why beat about the bush whereas you can just sum it up in these few words"Ive finally decided to marry you".

Couldn’t have said it better myself, that’s my candid opinion

"Its a Man's world, Women are just attaches"              

the girl is lucky the guy decided to ask state for her hand in marriage,
back in da days, na her papa and mama go just carry her go the bobo house on da day of wedding,
o pari, case closed.
 

After 2 years of dating, probably with prayer and fasting,
 u now reach the point of granting request u come vex, on top wetin???
English? na our mama tongue???
Abeg jo, she ain't ready yet,
Coach call you to warm up, u dey tell am say he no talk am well,
u go warm bench tire,
make sho go siddon on top bench
person wey get jersey go soon enter pitch begin play her role
 

Thank you Seun, you are a reasonable man, because something is done and is wrong doesnot mean we should acept it because thats the way it is.
Anyway, the guy explained that he was just confused and what he planned to say came out wrong, I have knon him and when she told me, i was suprised because he is a gentleman.
I am trying to understand some peoples mentality as regards to marriage,
@Olulu, Marriage is not a game of football, it is a relationship built on respect, there areno coaches or players, there are just people tryig to make it together as one, its team work, no one is doing the other a favor. Besides If any coach has it in mind that he is doing a good player a favor by fielding him, then he should be ready to loose his Valuable players, bad players may stay because they know that taht is the best they can get, but a good player ho knows his worth will treat the coach with respect and expect same.

efua has also falling in love with tommy,
so
tommy over to u act fast now.

Anyway the guy might be short of expresion.

which one be the girl own self, she no sabi post except to beg her friend make post for her(looks like she self no fit express herself), though that one  no mean say make the bobo begin throw some kin' proposition, maybe himself no hear english, kaji ko?

Please tell your friend na naija we dey o, we no be oyinbo! Our men are africans to the core, only few of them go out of their ways to do it western way. Also forget what we read in novels and watch in nollywood where Ramsey noah will go down on his kneels with a ring, looking straight into genevieve's eyes and says baby can you marry me? that kind is very rear in real life. She should just accept it like that and may jokingly scold him that he should have put it in a better way that wont seems like he is doing her a favor. Up till now i still can't understand why nigerian men are not romantic

Aisha 2, no vex some of us fellas aren't good at expressing love - if u know what i mean.

one of my friends jokes that the only endearment he has ever been able to come up with for his madam is - my diamond of inestimable value.

i guess maybe it was a case of nerves/choking - a lot of us have said stupider things at job interviews ( which is sort of what a proposal is - an application for lifetime employment)



abeg, don't scare off the guys who are looking to tie the knot with all the finacial implications.

fOOTBALL = MARRIAGE
Y?  simple
TEAMWORK= eleven 2 players,  
Respect = e.g. if Evra rude to Fergie boy 1st, he go die for bench, forget him talent or skill
Attacker = Husband
Goal keeper= Wife
Goal = Belly
Defender= Condoms

 

but serious now,
 a coach can afford to bench a good player
 at the expense of playing a bad player.
because
Attitude counts for sumtin,
and when place side by side with talent or skills,
Attitude will always shine through,
 and will over shadow the talent or skills.

if d woman has the wrong attitude, i will bench her,
no matter the amount of talent (beauty and brains),
 and/or skills (bedmatics flavor, ask almondjoy  ) she has got.

Gimme a player like Garuba Lawal ,
no skills, no talent,, but very submissive