Funny Marriage Proposal

"Look beyond HIS words and try to understand that proposing marriage is a scary thing", this is what some people are saying. Okay then, I guess it's safe to say, the poor girl, so overwhelmed by the idea of accepting his marriage proposal (Yeah, contrary to what some people think, the decision does not come easy for women either) blurted the first thing that came into her head (just like the guy when he said I've finally decided to marry you) so he should also look beyond her words and understand that what she really meant to say was  "Thank you, oh thank you for finally deciding to marry me, if you hadn't, come tomorrow morning, they would be dragging my dead body from bar beach"

Aisha2, in my haste to post my thoughts, I forgot to ask you to tell your friend, BRAVO. It's nice to see women who know her self-worth and won't fi ori gbe anything just for the sake of being married. If you don't mind, also tell her man that he is very LUCKY.

I also want to point out that men aren't the enemy here, women ARE there own worst enemies. It is truly the saddest thing.

'I have finally decided to marry you'. This guy it seems is thinking in native language while expressing self in English. Considering the impressive educational credentials of the girl he has dated for 4 years it makes this scenario unlikely.

More likely he is a deep thinking highly introspective individual who has been humiliated by a girl who ought to be appreciative of his committment and devotion to her. Those of you who think they have kissed and made-up forget it because his tolerance level has just been lowered on account of her unbecoming act. Her rope just got shorter and thinner. Some say the guy is proud.Pride is good cause a guy without pride is one without shame. Run from him.

Blacklion, you and AJ have brought home the finer points of should I say peri-marital relationship to some of our dreamy-eyed young and not so young gu rls.

Windywendy always right on the mark with stock choices, but you missed this one by a loooooooong shot.

@Yemivictor

You ought to know that agenebode and Fugar axis produce some of the finest broods in the country. Tall, thin wrist and ankles raging feminine hormones clearly evident, so easy to love them. No wonder many visiting corp members end up getting hitched. Recommending them for all bachelors on nairaland.

u no miss yan, u yan correct correct. naija babe think say once u don dey date am na automatic marriage bi that.

abi ooooo, na 2 much tv dey worry them

Hello,
are sure this story is true?
Please further butress its uthenticity.

@ Re-loaded and other women:

@ Re-loaded and other women: The guy worded the thing in mind he is

doing the woman a favor. Big one sef. Imagine after a divorce, he

loses all he has labored for and if he survives divorce, death takes

him in say 3-4 years' time. Check rate of men dying after marriages.

Young widows everywhere!!! Some married watch other men shag their

wives but thesedays married men are into shagging young spinsters.

Secondly the guy used the

am-dying-tomorrow-leaving-everything-for-you (most of time with

loads) word because the Government, economy and poverty have

crippled his sense of humor and good judgement.

Thirdly, that is what men learn from their Moms. How does your mom

treat your Dad? Be honest here!

Lol the guy funny die.

So na him dey decide when to marry the girl, him no even ask whether the girl won really marry am or whether the girl don ready to marry am. But the girl self mess up for her statement. ask me how?

PwC wetin? na you talk am o, no be me. Besides what are you still doing here? oya quick, go back to stock class na na. We need to figure out the cico stocks for next week.

ok madam, i don run go back class. . .
serious CICO analysis has taken place already.trust a silent reader like me

But Windy, plss o, i'll need your help o, because all the gurus are hoarding stuffs from us
plsss abeg. I hope the gurus wont come and see this.

I don't understand why the guy's way of proposal is still causing this wahala.
especially for the ladies who are overeacting on this issue.
after all this is a decision taken by the guy alone,after taken into consideration
some certain things,"HE FINALY DECIDE TO MARRY THE POOR GIRL''
Or did both of took the decision NO the guy decide on his own

why don't her reject the proposal
Hm,  see shakara.

that guy aint a gentleman at all, i'd expect the lady to have done more than just walking away, maybe pour a hard gin over his face, what does he talk a lady for?, an asset?, some men really needs to grow up.

It's because most of them are retarded wendy, it's not that hard to understand. "not my language, not mu culture", don't know who they fooling with such lame excuses


You are a scary person. How are those frivolous "reasons", who are you to say what is or isnt frivolous to a man or infact to anyone. Just because you don't think they are important doesnt mean you should go around yelling that such are to other people. Control freaks are usually absuive, same for an insensitive person and a cheater can pass on STDs and break up homes, how are any of those "frivolous" reasons? some marriedf men on here have made threads complaining about their wives not "attending to their needs", it's usually your kind that tell them to get a girl on the side. If it were a womn, you'd call it frivolous and tell her to bear with it obviously

Why do you even care? If a woman gets married at 45 or never gets married, how is that any of your business? I really don't understand guys like you that care so much about what other people esp women do with their lives. How is it affecting yours? If they don't want to get married, oit's none of your own, same if they decide to leave a marriage for whatever reason they have, still doesnt affect your life. Deal with your own life instead of sitting and throwing out numbers for when a woman should have done this and that. To think people think "gbegborun-ism" is just a woman thing.

A girl should know how much she is worth and try not to accept anything less.
The guy is insensitive unless the girl doesn't deserve him and he his proposing out of pity for her. I know how much i'm worth and wont accept a man who doesn't appreciate me. Ask your friend to check her attitude

good one. ROFLMAO! 

well. well, well,
different strokes 4 different folks. but which way u really honestly appraise the language n message expressed its certainly deprissing. how can one feel n express that said feeling insulting.

i wouldnt take that if i were a babe, n i'd also advise a friend whose female 2 watch that kind of guy, he's just plain sore. shhhhuuuuuuussss.

he could read up man.

Sorry sir! I didn’t know we were supposed to lose our sense of humor over something as "SERIOUS" as this. The guy’s proposal was a joke, and so were many of the responses that I read. I wouldn’t miss a chance to get a good laugh or engage in light-hearted banter over such haplessness now would I  ? Some of us do like to take life a little less seriously, and the last time I checked, it wasn’t a crime.


Listen, this is not about undesirable culture, it’s about doing what is pleasing to the other person in a relationship. Like you’ve said, common sense is required to take what is good. Anyone who uses the so-called culture as an excuse to be unimaginative and boring in a relationship is not sensible. What’s wrong with expecting a decent proposal, especially if it’s pleasing to the other person in the relationship? Is there anything undesirable about spicing up a relationship by doing things that will please the other party in the relationship? It’s not in the culture, but could potentially spice up the relationship. Why hold on to the so-called culture then? Don't make sense to me at all.

Think of it this way: most people like to add spice (including salt) to food. Bland food never killed anyone, but we all know how a little spice in food could go a long way in exciting the taste buds. Of course one can keep a relationship bland if one wants to, but a little extra spice does go a long way in cementing a couple’s relationship. If he were proposing to another man, then a statement like “I’ve finally decided to marry you” might be received as exceptional. But to a woman it speaks volumes, none of which will elicit the type of response that the guy was hoping to get. No one is saying that the proposal needs to involve anything extra ordinary, it just needs to come out in a way that will be pleasurable to her senses. You just go back for a moment and check out the consistency in the responses of most of the female posters -- most think the proposal is terrible. Why the consistency, especially when it’s not like we all got together in a quick meeting to decide what to post in response to the topic?. The fact is that certain things do matter to a woman, and any man who wants to live blissfully in a relationship with his wife (or wife-to-be) will do well to understand what those things are and pay good attention to them.  Like I said in one of my earlier posts, one can’t continually dismiss as flimsy and irrelevant the things that are important to the other person in a relationship and expect that relationship to be blissful. Tactlessness can be very costly. Abi, after all the supposed agonizing, introspection, and jumping through countless hoops and loops to come to that decision, why spoil the final moments with such tactless delivery that only leaves a sour taste in the woman's mouth? That's not very smart now, is it? 

With regard to the issue of divorces, etc I’m not sure I understand what you’re advocating here. Marriage in my opinion should be a mutually rewarding experience. The covenant on which marriage is based contains vows made by both parties to love, cherish, honor etc etc each other until death do them part. So I’m not sure why you would class serious issues as infidelity, control-freakiness or insensitivity to the other person’s needs as frivolous. I’m shocked and seriously at a loss for words here. If, as you seem to suggest, these things are indeed frivolous, is it then safe to assume that if your wife was an adulteress, a control-freak, and at the same time insensitive to your needs, you would still be FAITHFULLY (and note the emphasis on “faithfully” here) married to her? I’m really curious to know what your answer to this question would be.

As for your references to the ages of women, etc etc., well what can I say? She's 35, she's 40, who cares? Like I implied in one of my earlier responses to Mr. Feminazi, we can't use other people's experiences as an excuse to accept the unacceptable in our own relationships. So she's thrice divorced at 35, does that mean the rest of us should lower our standards when it comes to choosing a marriage partner? There are people who live under the bridge everyday, does that mean the rest of us shouldn't live in aesthetically pleasing and tastefully furnished houses? Again, don't make sense.
 

When you say the guy has been understanding, pleasing and selfless enough to sustain a 4-year relationship, you make it sound like he was doing the lady a favor by doing what basically needs to be done to sustain a relationship. What options did he have? Of course he could have been irresponsible, uncommitted, impatient and selfish but chances are that the relationship would not have lasted more than a few days or weeks at best – at least not if the other party is someone with any amount of self-esteem. He got into the relationship voluntarily, so doing what needs to be done to make it work is the least he could have done.

If it was indeed true that the girl only spent time dreaming while the guy was working hard to sustain the relationship, then the guy must be really obtuse to not have terminated the relationship within the first few months, absolutely mugu-ish to have allowed it to go on for 4years and just plain completely senseless to have proposed marriage. What was he thinking??? Was he that desperate to get married?? Anyway, I don’t believe anyone is all of those things combined, so I suspect that your statement is just an exaggeration. (although I do detect a bit of frustration as well . . .)

I don’t know the couple, so I’m not in a position to tell exactly what was happening during their 4year relationship. But I can safely say that the fact that the guy proposed marriage shows that he believed he had found the ideal marriage partner. You say he should have deferred another 4years? Of course you’re making the BIG assumption that the lady would be waiting around for another 4years right? Perhaps you’re from a generation where things were done very differently, but the truth is that if you’re dating a woman who knows what she wants out of a marriage relationship, she won’t enter into a marriage relationship with you based solely on your own terms, especially not if those terms are unfavorable to her. It has to be a win-win situation for both parties under such circumstances, therefore all that arrogance can be very costly. Did you notice where the original poster said that the lady in question had been through thick and thin with the guy for 4years? Do you think women like that are common, especially when it’s not like she’s desperate to get married or that the guy has loads of money that she’s after? No sensible guy will be quick to lose a woman like that, especially not over something as simple as the way she responded to one of his goof-ball moments. Of course, I wasn’t surprised to read that the guy later went back to set the record straight.

You say the lesson is to keep it natural and simple, and I agree. However simplicity to me means keeping the relationship as stress-free as possible. Part of what that translates to is being tactful – learning how to communicate with the other person in a way that he/she can relate to and appreciate. Tactlessness can be very costly indeed.