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spicy007 (f)
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@ oluomok, that was a fantastic poem Don't commit when you are not ready.
Don't keep others waiting needlessly.
Go on that trip.
Don't postpone it.
Say those words.
Don't let the moment pass.
Do what you have to, even at society's scorn.
Write poetry.
Love Deeply.
Walk barefoot.
Dance with wild abandon.
Cry at the movies.
Take care of yourself.
Don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except YOU that part really touched me. as for the issue at hand, poster's friend shoul dknow her guy better than that, and i bliv there are more issues surrounding it than the poster is letting on, and it sure sounds like he's been under undue pressure (maybe from his mum or even the poster, who knows) two wrongs don't make a right, and it takes one to make things go right, since your bobo is tactless, u got to be more tactful. , chikena, end of discussion |
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peterbabs (m)
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The manner of proposal is the least of your friend's problems.
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Even if he now says he's sorry about the way he proposed, the underlying thought is a big problem.
That's key! I'd say, it's an orientation. She might never be able to change that. And then, if after 4yrs she's not sure he values her such that she could naturally ignore his choice of words, then that's pathetic. I should think theirs is a secular world. So, make I hol' brake 4 here  |
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SAM MILLA (m)
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I hear many many people condemning the young man for proposing the way he did,
people must understand that every body doesnt reason the same way, the poster said they have been through thick and thin, what does that mean, what if this girl is one of them ladies who mistreat their boy friends and due to the love the boy have for her, he couldnt just let go, we must think here because if the relationship has been so rossy , the boy might not have put it that way, the lady must search her self and see what she has been doing wrong all through the thick and thin,
what i am trying to say here is that if my girlfriend is one of them wicked kinds, my proposal if i even decide to marry her would be less romantic ,
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Scopium (m)
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@ EFOSA VAL
Where did you get that picture from? That one is more than pepper.
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EFOSA VAL (f)
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buahahahahahhahhaha trust me ,he would |
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kojeiwa (m)
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The Proposal is really kind of arrogant of the guy. |
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faa (f)
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I can't stop laughing! God ! you've got all sorts of people in this world. on a serious note, like some of you said, the proposal is just a tip of the iceberg. the man's thinking ain't just right.
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m.i (f)
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"i have finally decided to marry you", is he doing her a favour?! what sort of tactless thing is that?, but she might have just asked him to re-propose, it would have been softer, but mehn, if somebody proposes to me like that? ah ah, its a sign now, that youre no good, even this kind of huge event, he can't take the time out to make it special? so something creative? even if he has never been in his life,
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Akpeno
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Good luck to him, at this rate he'll never get anyone to accept him YEYE!
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laceybric (f)
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The guy needs thorough teaching in Making Romantic Proposal 101. The dude no try at all. What did he think that she was on the shelf waititng till he decided he needed her afterall. Mayb he doesnt appreciate her stay with him, that why he came out with something so poor.  All the same, aisha your friend should tell the guy her feelings about the proposal and tell him to concort sumtin better. If he wants to marry her, she shudnt let him go ooo!girls boku for ground wey never marry. so make she hold on 2 am tite oo  |
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welli (f)
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he actually thinks he is doin d girl a favour.tell him to take a jump out of your life
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laudate
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Some people are just natural born clowns. Just because a guy said "I have finally decided to marry you", the poster took offence to that and told him to shove his proposal up his ass! How ludicrious can some people be. Anyway, i don't blame her. Too much romantic movies have probably influenced her way of life and thinking. Most women just think that a man should just marry them because they have dated for donkey years.
She doesnt even want to know what went through his mind at that moment for him to come to that kind of decision after a long while. Marriage no be beans and he must have heldher in a very high esteem to plan his future with her and get things done properly.
For one she didnt even consider the following before she told him to shove it:
1. His countless female admirers and boyfriend snatchers that he had decided to let go of in favour of the poster
2. Solving the parental problems associated with marriage and culture in favour of the poster
3. Ignoring the advice that some of his randy friends would have given him so as to pursue more girls in favour of poster
4. Deciding to be finally responsible and plan to have children with her and letting go of his wayward ways
5. Planning his financial future that would adequately cater for her
6. Planning towards the wedding which might turn out to be a big hole in his pocket but he is willing to do it for her because he loves her.
And because he proposed in a casual manner, she decided to tell him to shove it because he didnt say it the way "Ramsey Noah would say it to Stephanie Okereke" in one of those nollywood home videos.
Rubbish! If i was the guy, i would take her advice very seriously and move on and probably look for another girl because, from that little statement she made, the marriage would definately head for the rocks because it is so obvious she is a narcassistic, obsessive, demanding and compulsively hormone raged perfectionist. Its either her way or the Highway and he is better off with someone less endowned with such traits.
If he held her in high esteem, he would have taken out time to study the kind of things that make her tick. He would also have taken out time to find out what kind of things would turn her off, and would try to avoid doing those things deliberately. His choice of words makes it look as if she has been begging him to propose to her, or as if he feels he is doing her a favour by finally popping the question, or as if he has shopped round, checking out other girls, hoping to find one better than her, but couldn't suceed, and has now finally chosen to manage her (the girl) the way she is. How would you feel if you propose to a woman, and she turns round to say "I have finally decided to marry you?"  What if you pop the same question to another girl, and instead of giving that dumb answer above, she squeals, jumps into your arms and shouts "YES!! YES!! YESS!! I would love to be your wife!" Now which of these two responses, would you prefer? |
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laudate
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By the way, if he feels he was losing out on his countless female admirers, by proposing to her. . . . .what makes him feel that she too doesn't have countless male admirers checking her out from afar?? Or he doesn't think that she too would not have countless male admirers?  And if the advice of his randy friends meant so much, maybe he should plot the graph of his life based on the advice of his randy friends. When the blind follow the blind, they both end up in a ditch. So the advice of those randy friends are the gospel truth, abi? Wonders shall never end. It just tells me that any guy who takes the advice of his randy friends seriously, does not have a mind of his own! Period. Neither does he know the direction in which his own life is headed. That is why he would be considering the advice of his randy friends, or placing a premium on the fact that such advice may account for something. As for letting go of his wayward ways, ah. . . . .that one is so pathetic. So being wayward in the first place, is a thing of pride, abi?Finally this one takes the cake: "planning towards the wedding which might turn out to be a big hole in his pocket but he is willing to do it for her because he loves her." Before, nko? Is it too much of an effort on his part to plan towards the wedding? If he doesn't plan towards the wedding, who would do the planning for him. . . .his maiguard or the priest conducting the ceremony? Na wa, oh! |
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