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slej (f)
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Why after with a woman for years, a man walks out of the relationship.  |
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babymine (f)
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Probably because he doesn't love her anymore.  |
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thelma2 (f)
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she's probably not what he wants afterall. only that I don't why he has to wait that long.
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babymine (f)
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I wonder why some men can't treat their women right. What took him so long to leave?  |
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xkape (m)
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he has probably felt it wasnt really going anywhere from the beginning but he was trying to be practical and logical. so he tries to make it work in his own silent way. as time goes on he sees more and more that it is a mistake. by this time the girl is totally hooked on the relationship and she thinks all is well. so when he finally decides all his lost, he silently picks up his bags and walks away. the girl is in shock because its all so "sudden"
but its not really sudden, there have been signs all along.
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davidylan (m)
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xcape's analysis is spot on correct.
Most girls fail to read the signs that all is not well (is this a problem of perception?) so they cling unto the relationship making it so hard for the guy to just walk out. So the guy holds on, thinking maybe things will get better until he finds out it will not. most often he's met another girl who has many of the qualities he thinks are lacking in his present girl and he's wondering what he's still doing holding on.
From experience, it can be traumatic to the guy too breaking up with someone he's known for a long time. but somethings just have to be done no matter how painful the might seem.
Girls are highly emotional creatures, they fail to realistically approach issues of romance, they have this romantic notion in their heads and forget there are real issues like money, kids, jobs, lifestyles, atitude, involved in making a relationship work.
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Priscila (f)
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Men will die for women before they bed them and after a woman givbes in for long then he want a new adventure
Ladies! don't give away that gold to unworthy men! Mostly thats what they look for
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Seun (m)
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If a relationship isn't going well, break it so someone else can find you.
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hot-angel (f)
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so many reasons my dear. so many.
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davidylan (m)
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It's a hard sell. Speaking from experience, sure there are times u have the feeling that maybe you made a mistake leaving the former girl but i never ever contemplate going back. If the other girl he went or did not have what he was looking for, simply leave her and wait until another comes his way. i would not advise the former girl to take the ex back, it will be a matter of time before he finds another person and runs away again. highly unlikely that a guy who dumped you earlier would come back and stay put, he might just be using the girl as a stop gap before he eventually finds what he wants and its back to excuses again. |
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slej (f)
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not speaking from experince but i read literature in thye university and i like fictional writing. do not blame me but i love fiction and hearing people's views on my writing.
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Rhodalyn (f)
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he's Sick and tired Of alwayz having to f*k the Same pu**y LOL!
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Busta (f)
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at some point he realised that they were not meant to be or were not right for each  excuse used by most guys. |
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osegwu (m)
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When person don chop belleful
him no go leave food? Abi you want
may guy die of over feeding?
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MP007 (m)
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no sparkle , u gotta have that sparkle, the fire gotta keep burning
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Ms. Lurker (f)
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xcape's analysis is spot on correct.
Most girls fail to read the signs that all is not well (is this a problem of perception?) so they cling unto the relationship making it so hard for the guy to just walk out. So the guy holds on, thinking maybe things will get better until he finds out it will not. most often he's met another girl who has many of the qualities he thinks are lacking in his present girl and he's wondering what he's still doing holding on.
From experience, it can be traumatic to the guy too breaking up with someone he's known for a long time. but somethings just have to be done no matter how painful the might seem.
Girls are highly emotional creatures, they fail to realistically approach issues of romance, they have this romantic notion in their heads and forget there are real issues like money, kids, jobs, lifestyles, atitude, involved in making a relationship work.
Old topic, I know. I think guys want to fall on this "women are too much emotional" bandwagon. The longer you wait, the more it hurts. So why don't you just make your decision, stick to it because if you already know the end result, why prolong it? I can get emotional, yes. But I'm also a straight shooter. I don't see the point of someone being with me when they don't want it because I wouldn't stay with someone I wasn't feeling. |
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babygirlfl
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what is the sign to look out for please? some men do it without any sign anyway
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tngtech (m)
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to me i feel the man is not enjoying the relationship anymore, or probably the relationship is not yielding any progress so he thinks quitting will help matters.
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hilz (m)
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the thing is that once the spark is out of any relationship, it gets boring and suffocating, guys n garls alike don't want boring but garls are more future focused while we guys want da now thing,
I want food (NOW) I want sex (NOW) I want com4t (NOW) I want a change (NOW)
garl, give him something 2 look foward 2 n your guy will become a mumu 4 You. every guy wants 2 believe he has something exciting and adventurous to luk 4wad 2. don't be too relationship concious or you'll scare and bore him, don't see romance as a part of the programme but let it carry meaning 4 You both & do more research on his likes, wants and needs while building yourself in2 a monument of pride for you (first), him (second) and da world.
every man admires and craves an achiever woman (we are just often 2 scared 2 admit this but its gospel truth)
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ifyalways (f)
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If a relationship isn't going well, break it so someone else can find you.
lol. some things are not just meant to be, . . .thats lyfe.if it aint working,painful and as sad as it might be,the best is to let go,move on and hope for the best. |
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morenike09 (f)
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@post
there's no more spice or fire in the relationship
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PERVERT9
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if the man,s "thing" is not loooooooooooooong enough for the relationship,the man has no choice than to opt out and look for a short term relationship shoe get size
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Gamine (f)
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If you never want to see a man again, say, 'I love you, I want to marry you. I want to have children, ' - they leave skid marks.
-- Rita Rudner
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babyjoy (f)
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out of experience am really scared of men but i really need love,i want to have a man who will love me for who i am and not what i am
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Moyola (f)
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@ topic because hez had enough!!  |
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tope2000 (f)
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He has finished wit her since she has already given him the best years of her life. There is nothing left anymore.
Typical men
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adexway (m)
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What if the man entered the realationship with the wrong motive? The only thing that has been consistent or constant in life is changes. If the woman changes over time, the man get bored of being used to the same thing. Not actually ideal. but it happens. Knowing the what you need in a realationship could also be very helpful. And differentiating between fantancy and reality is important. She might not be more than dreams, a wishful dream for that matter. Be head leveled getting into any realationship.  |
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topup
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the thing is that once the spark is out of any relationship, it gets boring and suffocating, guys n garls alike don't want boring but garls are more future focused while we guys want da now thing,
I want food (NOW) I want sex (NOW) I want com4t (NOW) I want a change (NOW)
garl, give him something 2 look foward 2 n your guy will become a mumu 4 You. every guy wants 2 believe he has something exciting and adventurous to luk 4wad 2. don't be too relationship concious or you'll scare and bore him, don't see romance as a part of the programme but let it carry meaning 4 You both & do more research on his likes, wants and needs while building yourself in2 a monument of pride for you (first), him (second) and da world.
every man admires and craves an achiever woman (we are just often 2 scared 2 admit this but its gospel truth)
I think that the above is a great summary for a short relationship, that wasn't expected to last but has. If anybody approaches a serious relationship, looking for 'da now thing' it probably isn't going to work. That's what happened to me.
You see, in a long relationship, the man has probably gotten used to you being a part of his life, that he keeps going on with it, and if he finds noone else at the time that he could see himself with, then you temporarily are the best he thinks he can get - 'til she turns up. Familiarity for some ties them to the relationship, instead of love. Another thing to consider is whether the relationship is only just routine, you're both so used to it that there's no fun in it. I personally think, that thinking about how long a couple have been going out, isn't helpful, because at times more emphasis is placed on the number of years rather than how strong/genuine the love you have between each other. Guys are more patient than we give them credit for, I think their minds work faster than we think, though men often say women are too quick as in 'we're thinking about marriage, 2 months into the relationship' but the thing is men are a lot more faster, they went through the wedding phase, when they were professing their everlasting love for you. But are now in the divorce stage, when the spark has gone, and because we're only still in the 'everything's going great phase' we fail to notice this. The more serious relationships a guy has, I think increases the time he can endure in relationships and increases his patience, that's if the girl ticks his boxes for a potential wife. |
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topup
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What if the man entered the realationship with the wrong motive? The only thing that has been consistent or constant in life is changes. If the woman changes over time, the man get bored of being used to the same thing. Not actually ideal. but it happens. Knowing the what you need in a realationship could also be very helpful. And differentiating between fantancy and reality is important. She might not be more than dreams, a wishful dream for that matter. Be head leveled getting into any realationship.
Most people don't start to understand what they truly need in a relationship until they've been through quite a few, in the meantime, breaking hearts and having theirs broken. I have a very strong opinion though is that the idea which most young single guys have about 'sex being a necessity' disappears, as they realise that it's one of the worst things you can base a decisions for a successful relationship on, later in life, they start the search for something deeper, which is harder,
I pray God gives us all somebody to love who loves us. 
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proo212 (m)
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I think that the above is a great summary for a short relationship, that wasn't expected to last but has. If anybody approaches a serious relationship, looking for 'da now thing' it probably isn't going to work. That's what happened to me.
You see, in a long relationship, the man has probably gotten used to you being a part of his life, that he keeps going on with it, and if he finds noone else at the time that he could see himself with, then you temporarily are the best he thinks he can get - 'til she turns up. Familiarity for some ties them to the relationship, instead of love. Another thing to consider is whether the relationship is only just routine, you're both so used to it that there's no fun in it. I personally think, that thinking about how long a couple have been going out, isn't helpful, because at times more emphasis is placed on the number of years rather than how strong/genuine the love you have between each other. Guys are more patient than we give them credit for, I think their minds work faster than we think, though men often say women are too quick as in 'we're thinking about marriage, 2 months into the relationship' but the thing is men are a lot more faster, they went through the wedding phase, when they were professing their everlasting love for you. But are now in the divorce stage, when the spark has gone, and because we're only still in the 'everything's going great phase' we fail to notice this. The more serious relationships a guy has, I think increases the time he can endure in relationships and increases his patience, that's if the girl ticks his boxes for a potential wife.
Topup, this is one of the best posts I have read from you (given what you're going through). Both sexes stay because the other person is familiar. Both sexes also leave when they feel they have had enough. This is not a guy thing, like some of our sisters will have us believe. (he's got what he wants or given the best years of her life) It depends on who can exist endure the most. Some people are content to cheat, whilst some will leave. Some will exist and be happy with it because they are getting laid regularly and no one else will look at them twice. What I would fault is why did he stay that long?? What works for one couple will not work for the other couples. Some will say the grass is definitely not greener. It's not black or white |
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