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otolorin (m)
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hey, people. i want to know if any man could do this: get married to his lovey and then start carrying her surname as the new name of the family.
e.g Mr J Smith marries Miss P. Wallace = Mr & Mr Wallace.
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babwilms (m)
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Nonsense, its not done
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otolorin (m)
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i read it in a daily in nig. here.
it happened.
so i was going to hear the forum's opinion about it
i don't support it as well.
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O4real (m)
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Well if the name will help in your social security status then why not. Nothing is imposible . . . or has not happened either. I have a friend who has changed his father name to his mother's just to have a beta SSS in jand because of the recent nigerian who stole hundreds of thousands of pounds from the deputy prime mister office in the UK. He has just travelled to the UK after resigning from GTBank and he is looking 4 a way to beat the agents to it since they have proved negative once your surname spells AM-A-NIGERIAN.
So people do things based on what they are facing.
Sure thing, i will change to her name without looking back if that solves our problems while my children sticks to the protocol.
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Rhodalyn (f)
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that is just really unusual!
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davidylan (m)
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outlandish. The height of irresponsible behaviour. The best i can do is change my surname to my middle name.
Take up my wife's surname? simply ridiculous!
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Seun (m)
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Well, I can do it. Why not? of course, there must be a reason.
And babymine, don't give me that "submission" line. We are not all disciples of Apostle Paul. An enterprising woman is more appealing than a nagging doormat.
Is it love? No, it's just 21st century pragmatism. Male superiority complex is now unfashionable.
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O4real (m)
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Seriously I don't know what is holding you women, abeg u ladies should start making marriage moves jo! Some Asian countries are already into it. Why should it be the guy that will pay the bride price. Let the women too pay groom's price! They should start becoming more responsible as a bread winner. |
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uche1 (m)
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yaa nothing is impossible, things like this do happen but as for me, i wont do it take up my wifes family name
if you are from the easthen part of the county you will understand what it means to abandon your fathers name
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bolex (m)
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maybe in her family they are only gals so the guy decides to help them carry their family name on it's LOVE but am not sure if I can do it it's not something I can;t do though  |
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Rottweiler (m)
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The way some people interprete the word LOVE is really sickening. There are certain laid down standards in life that help in establishing a society. When we start tampering with these standards then we are destroying the very frabic of the society. One day, some people are going to ask their husbands to get pregnant for them.
There are some certain things I will never do if it's a requirement to prove my love. Too me it's like the devil tempting Jesus by asking him to jump if he's truly the son of God. It was pure temptation. The devil himself knew that Jesus is the true son of God.
Any day my wife begins to doubt my love and ask me to fulfil certain conditions in order to prove it, I WILL NOT DO IT.
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prince_onx
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if the love reach say him go give up him last name and take up the wife's, he might as well carry the pregnancy! bullshit!
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prince_onx
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Good talk Rottweiler! I been no even read your post before posting mine!
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bolex (m)
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The way some people interprete the word LOVE is really sickening. There are certain laid down standards in life that help in establishing a society. When we start tampering with these standards then we are destroying the very frabic of the society. One day, some people are going to ask their husbands to get pregnant for them.
There are some certain things I will never do if it's a requirement to prove my love. Too me it's like the devil tempting Jesus by asking him to jump if he's truly the son of God. It was pure temptation. The devil himself knew that Jesus is the true son of God.
Any day my wife begins to doubt my love and ask me to fulfil certain conditions in order to prove it, I WILL NOT DO IT.
good point rott I officially invite you to all ma threads make sure you drop a note , no matter how small the amount of words are you just intelligent boi |
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emmie4j (m)
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The day she is able to get me pregnant, I will change my last name,  |
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otolorin (m)
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its hard though for a man. @O4real Well if the name will help in your social security status then why not. Nothing is imposible . . . or has not happened either. I have a friend who has changed his father name to his mother's just to have a beta SSS in jand because of the recent nigerian who stole hundreds of thousands of pounds from the deputy prime mister office in the UK. He has just travelled to the UK after resigning from GTBank and he is looking 4 a way to beat the agents to it since they have proved negative once your surname spells AM-A-NIGERIAN.
So people do things based on what they are facing.
Sure thing, i will change to her name without looking back if that solves our problems while my children sticks to the protocol.
one day u might have to be the next jacob to your siblings, if forfeiting your birthright would solve ur problems. no hard feelin, bro am just sayin its not that easy. |
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babymine (f)
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@ Nwoke Submission in the sense that the man marries the woman and not the other way round. You don't have to be the disciple of Apostle Paul to know that!! |
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kenshin (m)
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totally absurd!!!!!!!!!  |
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Rhea (m)
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A man gives up his surname for his wife's  After all, the world is changing at a breathtaking rate  So, let's add these to the list then: - women propose to men - men start bearing kids (not forgetting the breast feeding part) - women start paying groom price |
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furlee (m)
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It all depends on the culture of the land. In some remote cultures in India, Nepal and Ghana, a woman marries a man and the woman has to pay bride price. In such case the man has to bear the name of the woman. In our country nigeria this is not the norm. However, my candid opinion is that a submissive wife should be able to forgo her maiden name and totally commit herself to her crown (her husband). On a lighter side, I quote from Psalms 45:10 "Hearken, O daughter, and consider, and incline thine ear; forget also thine own people, and thy father's house;" |
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zarah (f)
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Yeah right!!! but it didnt say forget thine fathers's namewhat's in a name anyway? although it's gross for a man to take up his wife's name, i don't see what all the fuss is about. i am thankful am not required by any law to change my name. |
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Christino (m)
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Definitely, not love. The world is rotating, women want to be on top (u know what i mean?), they want to be the president they fight for sex equality, they want to do all the sport that men do (except that one?). They want to boss their man around nowadays and above all they want to marry like two three men and put them in the same house and give the kids their own surnames and that ain't going to happen @ least not in our lifetime. They even want their kids to call them DADDY  This ain't love, its madness, @ worst, keep your individual surnames, what about the kids? let them choose! Pronto!
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IAH (f)
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What is the meaning of that? It's not love, it's rubbish!
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kimba (m)
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@otolarin
it would have been nice for you to give us a gist of the surrounding circumstances that would warrang the man giving up his surnname for his wife.
In maternal societies, such happens. In Ghana for example, I heard that children bear the surnname of their mother, because of some ancient history behind the woman as the head of the family.
hey, where are the Ghananians on this forum, please give us more of the gist.
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Ashiwaju (m)
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it can't fit happen! which kain love be dt, even though i reason with those that say for economical circumstances they can change it but for moi, oh economical o, ko ekonomikal oo, aint changing my name to my wife's cus men, we never can tell how far u ll go with ur name ooo, if obj had changed his name to Abebe, boya by now, he would be working in the creeks.
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SamCharles (m)
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TUFIAKWA! I SAY TUFIAKWA!! What kind of love will make a man take his wife's name even if she hold I'm "mumu" remote control button, it wont work. Kai! This beats imagination man! |
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ope_emi (m)
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Well to tell u the truth, any man that does such a thing definitely doesn't know what he his doing. Any woman that accept such a proposal has <something> to with it, because its simply abnormal for a man to do such a thing. So if u fall into this category, u need deliverance MAN.  |
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