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Renike (f)
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err, itz not the norm, but i guess  , never seen one before and i don't think it has anything to do with submission! |
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dominobaby (f)
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Jst like ROTT said, love is being interpreted as so many unlikely things. People do stupid unthinkable things saying its love. Na wa!
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dominobaby (f)
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Jst like ROTT said, love is being interpreted as so many unlikely things. People do stupid unthinkable things saying its love. Na wa!
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babymine (f)
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Yeah, people do stupid things for love sometimes.  |
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thelma2 (f)
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not Done! Definately Not In Nigeria!
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lekjan (m)
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God forbid bad thing.
Honestly that will be very STUPID for a man to do such a thing.
And for the woman to let his Husband change his surname for
one reason or the other will be too bad.
I will and can never do that.
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Ndipe (m)
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Not only is it abnormal, but it is not Biblical either. The woman ought to remember that the Man is the head of the household
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otolorin (m)
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i sincerely hope n pray it doesnt happen, even if na curse.
u no what?, i tried readin the story through in d dailies but couldnt phantom d reasoon d man could be so "love-blinded" to such extent.
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O4real (m)
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@otolorin its hard though for a man.
@O4real
Quote from: O4real on May 02, 2006, 01:31 PM
Well if the name will help in your social security status then why not. Nothing is imposible . . . or has not happened either. I have a friend who has changed his father name to his mother's just to have a beta SSS in jand because of the recent nigerian who stole hundreds of thousands of pounds from the deputy prime mister office in the UK. He has just travelled to the UK after resigning from GTBank and he is looking 4 a way to beat the agents to it since they have proved negative once your surname spells AM-A-NIGERIAN.
So people do things based on what they are facing.
Sure thing, i will change to her name without looking back if that solves our problems while my children sticks to the protocol.
one day u might have to be the next jacob to your siblings, if forfeiting your birthright would solve your problems.
no hard feelin, bro am just sayin its not that easy.
Can you be more explicit because you seems to be bleeting. No hard feelin 2, bro, just sayin its not that easy to ovastand you. |
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DaHitler (m)
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Good luck justifying the reason you gave up your last name to your family.
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osteen (m)
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Well i always think there is no big deal to what happens in this world, but giving up your name is not too logical to me.
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Motee (f)
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Definately such a thing cannot happen among the AFRICAN COUNTRIES.
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sammyjl (f)
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Everything that a woman does in the marriage is considered wrong, like this topic. Anyways now adays, one can keep his/her surname.
I wouldn't want to change my surname like that, may be add to it and delete if it aint working out.
u never know, anything can go wrong and for all u know, u'll b stuck wit that surname.
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Ameena (f)
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What kind of love would that be? Dat's d height of stupidity esp in a country like Nigeria. Thankyou
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iice (f)
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Everything that a woman does in the marriage is considered wrong, like this topic. Anyways now adays, one can keep his/her surname.
I wouldn't want to change my surname like that, may be add to it and delete if it aint working out.
u never know, anything can go wrong and for all u know, u'll b stuck wit that surname.
For real o lol |
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harvey (m)
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i wonder wetin the woman give me chop wey go make me change my surname for hers.then i be outcast.people contribute to this ya all that is familiar with our home videos.Olu Jacobs married to joke silva.what is that?why did she refuse to be jocobs.guy una go allow that shit?after all the cash wey i pay for her head?
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ire-funke (f)
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BOLEX
aBI WHAT IS THAT YR NAME .I SAW W-E-N---------------------
FOR CLICKING ON A LINK ON YOUR PAGE.I HAVE PROMISED NOT TO CLICK ON ANY LINK AGAIN .
THANK You, IT WAS A HECTIC FUN
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Nite Angel (m)
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Well I’ve seen it happen; don’t ask me if the guy is African or not. The guy adopted his wife’s surname because he felt the name sounded better than his and since he loved her he did not feel that would reduce his manhood sorry manliness. The unfortunate part is, when they divorced the guy really wanted to retain the name but… Why did I say unfortunate? Aren’t women always caught between dropping or retaining the surname when something goes wrong?
A number of us preach the Bible and believe in it but go back and read there’s no place where a woman or man had to take on the others’ surname. No “Eve Adam” and no “Abraham Sarah”. I guess it’s a tradition that makes ownership tick and men believe they should own (but not be owned by) women.
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Nia
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I know people who have done it and I am surprised at the level of sexists drivel that we as Africans still perpetuate. If a man wants to give up his name for his wife, that's his business. It's not necessarily about love but respect and equality, something that seems to be missing when our society talk about women. We seem to enjoy perpetuating the one-sided inequalities that plaque women in our society. No one person's name is more important than the other and any man comfortable enough in his own skin to defy the laws society has constructed will get their share of respect from me. So no, if women can give up their name, there's nothing wrong with men giving up their name too, so long as both partners have these same progressive mentality and they're not at opposite ends on the issue.
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pash (m)
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Babwilms did u call it Nonsense, as 4 me i don't no what to call it maybe madness. for what money or extra life.
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bunmii (f)
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that just totally wrong, either they add both of their surname together or the wife should use her husband name
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nikynike (f)
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The woman should be submissive therefore she has no right to do such thing.
In this Country no man can do it.Even the blind.
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Perle (f)
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well its a normal thing in Germany.
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Creamish (f)
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Sounds funny to me, does it rily happen?  |
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daprince
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I begin to wonder how Seun reasons! Seun, what the heck are u talking about?
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Ndipe (m)
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The way some people interprete the word LOVE is really sickening. There are certain laid down standards in life that help in establishing a society. When we start tampering with these standards then we are destroying the very frabic of the society. One day, some people are going to ask their husbands to get pregnant for them.
There are some certain things I will never do if it's a requirement to prove my love. Too me it's like the devil tempting Jesus by asking him to jump if he's truly the son of God. It was pure temptation. The devil himself knew that Jesus is the true son of God.
Any day my wife begins to doubt my love and ask me to fulfil certain conditions in order to prove it, I WILL NOT DO IT.
Ndipe's comment
@Rotweiller, you can't even compare the temptation of Jesus Christ by satan with a woman's insistence that a man should change his name to her last name. Vastly different, and not worth comparing. True, we live in a paternalistic society, but this trend of adopting both names is not uncommon nowadays in the USA. Of course, I don't endorse it, it is an anomaly.
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Everbright (f)
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I know a man who was forcing his son in-law to be to change his name to his own name But a night to the wedding,the young man threatened to call off the wedding if the condition still stands The fater in-law tot it was only a threat but the young man meant business The next day the wedding was off |
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Ronke 2811 (f)
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ORISHIRISHI, WETIN WE NO GO SEE FOR THIS WORLD
THE BIBLE SAYS A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FAMILY, CLEAVE UNTO HIS WIFE AND THEY SHALL BECOME ONE NOT VICE VERSA.
THE DAY THIS BEGING TO HAPPEN I WILL CONSIDER IT AT THE EIGHT WONDERS OF THE EARTH.
IT IS ABSOLUTELY CRAZY FOR ANY GUY TO TAKE THAT OPTION, BUT YOU KNOW SOME GUYS EYE DEY CHOOK FOR MONEY.
BUT THE DAY MY BROTHERS DO THIS UNGODLY ACT, I WILL PERSONALLY DISOWNED THEM
SHEKINAH
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Nite Angel (m)
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Ronke 2811.
You quoted a Bible verse but your comment did not substantiate your quote. The Bible asked the man to leave and cleave; how come the world we live in today ask women to leave and cleave not just to the man but his name (even if it is Sangogbemi) and his ideology (even if it is whimsical)?
Ndipe, Pash,
Did Jesus Christ not give up His name, personality etc for love? How come we now believe some things are unheard of in the name of love?
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swiftycool (m)
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I think is the sickest thing to be done,  advisable for wussies |
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Ndipe (m)
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It is not sick,@swiftycool, but an abberation from our culture for a man to take on his wife's last name.
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