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Everbright (f)
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It is not sick,@swiftycool, but an abberation from our culture for a man to take on his wife's last name.
Does it mean he can take her first name like Angelina   |
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Hugoboi (m)
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It is a total aberation both cultural and otherwise.I've heard such things being practised within sum ethnic groups but if u ask me,i'd say it is repugnant to everything sanity stands for.
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adeboo (f)
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If you are a Nigerian it will definately be a no no.
In Nija we have too many traditions and customs and any man that does that, brings shame on his family - his father may even disown him.
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angelchi (f)
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4 a real Nigeria man? na lie that one no fit happen.
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swiftycool (m)
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@Ndipe It is not sick,@swiftycool, but an abberation from our culture for a man to take on his wife's last name.
Like i know some highly placed Political Bigwig, a man going by the sur-name "EKAETTE" which means in literal direct translation "FATHER'S MOTHER" or "GRAND MOTHER" and You say that aint Sick, i wonder what can be for a better word SIcKKer!  imagine how his kids would survive the turture in school for such a dumb mistake all in d name of LOVE |
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acidrop (f)
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depend also on the man's background if it is a culture where it dosent matter
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weev (f)
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Happens all the time in Scotland (where I live) & (Ireland, where my father is from) were traditionally the most 'important' families name will be taken.
i.e. A man named McLaughton marrying a women from the Gunn clan would have been expected to and would have wanted to take on the more wealth and powerful clan name .There by giving his children a better start in life. Has to be said though that this is not the reason it goes on now but it is the background.
Quite common now for a young married couple to take on a totally new family name.
If a man marries a women with no brothers and he (the man) has many I think it is a pure act of love to take on her family name so that the family name lives on and does not die. Although I think that it would be very hard for a man to do so in Nigeria, as we are not an open minded nation.
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Blatant
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Happens all the time in Scotland (where I live) & (Ireland, where my father is from) were traditionally the most 'important' families name will be taken.
i.e. A man named McLaughton marrying a women from the Gunn clan would have been expected to and would have wanted to take on the more wealth and powerful clan name .There by giving his children a better start in life. Has to be said though that this is not the reason it goes on now but it is the background.
Quite common now for a young married couple to take on a totally new family name.
If a man marries a women with no brothers and he (the man) has many I think it is a pure act of love to take on her family name so that the family name lives on and does not die. Although I think that it would be very hard for a man to do so in Nigeria, as we are not an open minded nation. I see you're Scottish. Pray, how many men in Scotland do you know who have taken their wives' names? No yarn us tory o |
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AfroAGoGo (f)
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I for one will not be changing my last name - I don't care what my husband does, but I like my current last name and unless my new one would sound better, I'm not changing $hit!
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liquid7
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Firstly i am the sort of guy that if the woman wants to keep her surname its fine by me .However the environment will probably make her uneasy with constant asking why she did this for the rest of her life but its her problem not mine.If she can cope with it then so be it.
However before women start proclaiming that they want their men to change the name espically in nigeria they should first be ready to make other changes .
If you insist the man pays bride price then you have no buisness even asking.
Many Nigerian women are quick at always looking to adopt cultural ties of the western world but when it does not favour them they quickly readopt it.Take white wedding reception for instance.Taken off the white man and when they found out that the woman's family pays for it they quickly reverted it to be the man's problem!
Before i even accept taking a woman name then she needs to take the responsibilies that comes with it.
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Godalone (m)
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I will never drop my surname for anybody.
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big father (m)
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So who is marrying who ? Thats absolutely madness !
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carmelily (f)
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So who is marrying who ?
Maybe they are 'marrying' each other? why should either have to change his/her name, anyway? I will never drop my surname for anybody.
me neither |
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dudu-bobo
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many of you here have no need to change your surnames because it wont be long till you are with another man so it's pointless having to change your surname as you'll have to change again when you marry the next man |
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chiogo (f)
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Na wa ooo. I didn't know Nigerians/Africans on this site could be this stupid. I'm going to kill somebody if i see the word 'submission' again. First of all, some Nigerians have crazy-ass names. I'm not saying they don't know the meaning of their names. They do but sometimes, the names have horrible meanings which sometimes have to do with death(i wonder who come up with such names ). The guy in question probably never liked the meaning of his last name and planned on changing it. Maybe switching to his wife's last name seemed like a better option because in marriage, they say the two people are "one", right?? I don't see anything wrong in that. And all y'all gloating need to chill. where did the bible even say a woman has to answer her husband's name?? |
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$$Rhino
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It is just a name, if the man prefers the wife's name why not?
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