Homosexuality/Lesbianism

There are many ways of expressing one's love. Is love with someone of the opposite sex the only valid kind of love? What do you think about love between members of same sex? How do you think about love to the same sex? We want to hear your voice.

For your ref:
- Guys on Guys? Girls on Girls? Oh no! [caution]
- Homosexuality, a Crime or a Choice?

I believe there is a clear distinction between "expressions of love" and "sexual desires"..

Anyone can express love.. and is free to express love in whatever form they wish.. we all know of Parental love, Filial (brotherly/sisterly) love, Platonic love, Spriritual love (agape), etc etc...

However, Homosexuality and Lesbianism transcend this.. It is more of a "Sexual" thing, with the parties involved expressing sexual desire (end result) rather than just mere love..

We shouldn't mix the two, because they're quite different things..

As a Nigerian Gay i believe that as long as Nigerians let ignorance and baseless religion cloud them, people will always be in the dark about Homosexuality in this country. Most Nigerians think being gay is al about sex between two guys. No one considers the emotional aspect of it. And we are so religious that the only books and literature we read are the Bible and Quran ( of course there's nothing wrong in doding this) that we don't bother to read othe scientific research findings on the internet concerning Homosexuality.

And please don't give me that crap about God creating Adam and Eve. Gays are not a third specie. No one is disputing the fact that God ceated a male and a female specie. All we are saying is try to see things from our point of view, because the truth is there is a 50% possibility that your closest friend or brother or sister is gay. We have more pressing issues in this country to start worrying about Gays and Lesbians.

Lets take a look at other countries that have been more understanding towards gays. In Germany the Mayor of Berlin ( the capital) is gay, as well as the mayor of Hamburg, the city with the alrgest sea port in Germany, as well as the head of one of the strongest political parties in Germany. And the last time i checked this country had a far better economy than Nigeria. In fact we don't come anywhere close to them in infastructure or any other thing. My point? Acknowdging and accepting gays will not result to the downgfall of our great country Nigeria. Hlding on to unreasonable and baseless prejudices WILL get us no where.

well said ebumowa  . Homosexuals are just as emotionally attached to their partners as 'straight' people. It really pises me off when people think its al about sex with gays

preachon preacher!

Quote from ebumowa
Ebumowa,

Just read your response,

It really sounded weighted,

But I must disagree with you on one fundamental point/issue,

Homosexuality or Heterosexuality,  is a CHOICE [ no matter what the "scientific bodies" all over the world come up with in their research,

You choose to express and/or manifest your feelings/emotions/desires in any particular manner,  Whether its with a male or female or animal,  its always a matter of choice,  You choose who will be the receipient of your "love",  And the choices made define you,

I have not said that homosexuals can not or do not express love or sexual desire, 

I have not said that love and sexual desire are the sole property of "straight" people,

All I have said is that if it was just a mere case of "expressions of love" it would not be defined as homosexuality, 

But as we both know, this is often not the case,  Homosexual practicioners dont just express their love for their partners of the same sex, but go further to manifest physical attraction and sexual desires for their partners, and choose to act on them, 
That is the CHOICE they have made, 

On the issue of relationships,  with whosoever is your "partner", that is a slippery slope I would not want to get into right now,  [it has the penchance to be come a never ending topic of discussion, with everyone believing firmly in their respective view points,

I'll be bold and ask you this though,  When you made the choice to homosexuality [or lesbianism as is your particular affiliation], what were the factors which made you choose to have a relationship with a female, rather than a male?

Were they driven mainly by physical attraction, or was it more an emotional/psychological thing??

Have you ever had a (meaningful) relationship with a man?? And if yes, what was the end result? And if no, can you then objectively say that a relationship with a male would have been less meaningful or less fulfilling, 

I would be much obliged if you would provide answers to these questions,  It may provide those of us "who clearly dont have a clue" with a bit of insight,

Ciao.