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The Sly
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No. . . .In my own view Its Ok for me to take care of the bills unless shes willing to pay sum of 'em bills voluntarily. . But i would not advocate for that. . . . She can keep her $ and l.emme take care of the bills. . . . She might be helping with the foodsand other little things but as for the major bills. . . . Its mine to settle. . . . .  |
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spoilt (f)
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correct guy.  |
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D-reloaded (f)
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lol correct wetin  like i said they want to do that so a woman wint have a say in the home. Dont believe the hype lmao spoilt, wetin upset the apple cart? you sef , might as well have gotten a prenup |
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bawomolo (m)
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they should split the bills, house chores etc. marriage is a partnership.
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Scopium (m)
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It's okay to split the bills however 50-50 split is a titanic myth. The man should take care of the major bills. Most times the ultimate bill splitter is the earning power. It is often erroneously and hastily concluded in this parts of the world that taking care of the entire family need is the man's onus but that is not embedded in the man's DNA. Some men fool themselves with this misconception thinking it's love and a veritable means to be in control. This sort of control is as effective as chaining a dog with a chain made of bones.
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Blatant
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Blatant, why do you constantly feel the need to respond to my comments? Is it by force  In case you havent noticed, I usually ignore you on purpose as all you ever direct towards me is snide and juvenile comments that frankly I don't care for. I don't refer anything to you so it'd be nice if you could do the same Who the hell said anything about complete independence? Unless you're blind, i believe I made it clear that I believe when it come sto family situations, bills should be split. The same oyb I was agreeing with, I don't see you bothering him. There's a reason some guys want complete control with such things. It's because if they decide to waste the money that should be for the family on something stupid and irrelevant, they can say to their wives "well it's MY money, so you have no right to speak". Bills and such should be split so the marriage is more of a partnership and husband and wife can then make decisions TOGETHER. I know that's such a foreign/"westernized" concept for some control freaks. Seriously leave me be. Thank You. I just hope and pray you end up with someone like you so that you can have the fruits (misery) of your ways. |
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D-reloaded (f)
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*yawns* Thank you.
Back to topic.
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pahtahkee
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@ Nwando,
I am in total support of your stand, however my question is: If it is the woman who earns more, should the bills payment fall more on her side or the man?
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jkpretty (f)
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@ Nwando,
I am in total support of your stand, however my question is: If it is the woman who earns more, should the bills payment fall more on her side or the man?
Whoever earns more spends more. It would work perfectly only if the marriage has a strong foundation. They would personally know how to split the bills. But yes, the bills will have to fall more on the woman. And a responsible man will help in doing more work around the house and less of crossing legs & flipping channels. |
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pahtahkee
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Whoever earns more spends more. It would work perfectly only if the marriage has a strong foundation. They would personally know how to split the bills. But yes, the bills will have to fall more on the woman. And a responsible man will help in doing more work around the house and less of crossing legs & flipping channels.
You are right. Thou hast well said. Would you advocate for couples having a unified account for bill payment thens? |
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jkpretty (f)
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You are right. Thou hast well said. Would you advocate for couples having a unified account for bill payment thens?
That may not be necessary. |
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D-reloaded (f)
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3 accounts.
his personal account
her personal account
Then the joint account for the important stuff like bills.
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nwando
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3 accounts.
his personal account
her personal account
Then the joint account for the important stuff like bills.
a good plan You are right. Thou hast well said. Would you advocate for couples having a unified account for bill payment thens?
It may be more convinient to do so but unnecessary as long as they know who's paying what. Like jkpretty said,once the couple is of one mind with regards to this issue,there should be no problem. The key is in having a plan from the giddy up. |
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nwando
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At every wedding you hear the same advice "marriage has no formula" indeed it doesn't. whatever the couple agrees to and it works for them,that's their formula. A man could want to be 'Mr do it all' ,hey,whatever works. me I don't mind that one I'll have more money to buy shoes and purses  There are women who work and their husbands still give them grocery money. nothing wrong with it if he can afford it. |
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nwando
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No. . . .In my own view Its Ok for me to take care of the bills unless shes willing to pay sum of 'em bills voluntarily. . But i would not advocate for that. . . . She can keep her $ and l.emme take care of the bills. . . . She might be helping with the foodsand other little things but as for the major bills. . . . Its mine to settle. . . . . May she bear you beauutiful kids. Twins sef. |
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4Him (m)
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3 accounts.
his personal account
her personal account
Then the joint account for the important stuff like bills.
Very sensible. |
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Outstrip
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Why should the woman not share the bills. Why would I even refuse to. Tommorrow they will shout for equal opportunities yet you don't even want to pay your own bills.
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bluehorizo (m)
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You don't have to wait for the other before the bill is paid. Do it if you can do it.
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almondjoy (f)
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You don't have to wait for the other before the bill is paid. Do it if you can do it.
Simple and short-------------------------no one really cares how, as long as you do not end up with your family on the streets period! If it gets too much for one person and the other person is "slacking". . . . .then it is time to do something about it. . . . .like have a long talk about the "future"!  |
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omoge (f)
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nwando, rightly said  |
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top_kin (m)
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The man is definity the head and as tradition rightly puts it he's also be the Bread Winner of the family. BUT I believe Bills should be spilt. It may not be a spelt out agreement but it should solely be based on understanding. The economy is too severe for just one person to foot all the bills, definitely not 50/50 but they should split to reduce the burden on each other's shoulder________ that's why they are a COUPLE. One not two.
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nwando
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nwando, rightly said Hmm Omoge happy easter where you go since? |
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omoge (f)
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@ Nwando same to you o my sister, bless you . i dey read sometimes but no chance to post like i want o. work work work make i make money and more classes make i leave here at least next year  then go look for one fakey nwoke lol to split oyinbo bills with |
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nwando
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@ Nwando same to you o my sister, bless you . i dey read sometimes but no chance to post like i want o. work work work make i make money and more classes make i leave here at least next year then go look for one fakey nwoke lol to split oyinbo bills with omoge by God's grace,you'll graduate at record time and Olisa bi n'igwe will send you a correct man with big cash you need to be well taken care of I cancel every suffer suffer slippers wearing man  my sister may the unempolyed, unemployable,bad credit efulefu men not come your way. if you live in San Jose,may they remain in South central LA When you are flying to Houston TX , may they be on a greyhound/Ekene dili chukwu bus bound for Biloxi Mississippi |
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omoge (f)
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ROTFLOL at prayer thank you I love that prayer nwando. amen and amen. slippers wearing Nigeria guys  lol them boku if he wear slipper o, i no ask am, he must pay the bills |
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Zandra1 (f)
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"omoge by God's grace,you'll graduate at record time and Olisa bi n'igwe will send you a correct man with big cash you need to be well taken care of I cancel every suffer suffer slippers wearing man my sister may the unempolyed, unemployable,bad credit efulefu men not come your way. if you live in San Jose,may they remain in South central LA When you are flying to Houston TX , may they be on a greyhound/Ekene dili chukwu bus bound for Biloxi Mississippi " Holding my beautifully shaped ribs and laughing very softly . . . . tihehe . A very funny prayer I must say. @ topic, so far my hubby pays all the bills . I get to keep most of the money am paid for my internship and its been 'fun' doing so . |
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BigSis (f)
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If you want to be respected and be the man of the house, you need to take on the man's responsiblity. Your wife isn't your roommate. You can't call yourself a real man, if you expect the woman to take on your manhood responsibility of being a provider.
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bawomolo (m)
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You can't call yourself a real man, if you expect the woman to take on your manhood responsibility of being a provider. it's hard for women to claim equality if the man is supposed to have such leadership roles. tough economic times leads to dual income households. the gender roles of provider and nuturer are gradually being blured. if women are equal, then why can't they assume equal responsibility. |
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oyb (m)
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If you want to be respected and be the man of the house, you need to take on the man's responsiblity. Your wife isn't your roommate. You can't call yourself a real man, if you expect the woman to take on your manhood responsibility of being a provider.
yes and when i jump , you should answer how high, o master? i fail to see the difference between a grown woman and a child, if a woman is working and expects to 'enjoy/chop' all her income by herself. as kids we may have had some sort of income - from jobs, etc.we didn't share this with our folks - and this was why we had to take orders and all that other ish from them . it is just human nature, as long as your husband is the sole provider, he will do somethings you hate, and you won't be able to say that much because he is the 'man of the house' .the same goes for a situation in which a woman is the sole provider. well i have said before - to each his own. some men want women who they can control - likewise, there are women wh also want men who ca control them |
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Imani (f)
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@ topic,
I think the bills should be shared between both parties, not necessarily equally. Except a couple earns exactly the same, which is rare, the party who earns more should, in theory, take care of most of the bill. Another option is to have a joint account which both parties are to remit an agreed amount into monthly, and which should be controlled by who is more financially responsiblemost times, this is the man, but increasingly, more women are taking charge.
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Arnold1 (m)
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If you want to be respected and be the man of the house, you need to take on the man's responsiblity. Your wife isn't your roommate. You can't call yourself a real man, if you expect the woman to take on your manhood responsibility of being a provider.
Women like you want the man to assume all of the financial responsibilities as head of the household, but would not give him the respect and honor that comes along with it. You want to be "equals" in your relationship without pitching in anything and you wonder why there is a high divorce rate all over the place. The bottom line is this - If you as a woman want to be seen as an equal partner in your marriage; if you want to have a say in decision making in your marriage, then you have to contribute to the marriage (financially). If you want the man to assume 100% responsibility, then be well prepared to worship the ground he walks on. Period. |
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