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nwando
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david it's not that simple.
haven't we all felt at some point we were in love and it turned out not so
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joycee87
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@babes in nairaland
i dey enjoy this topic,my advise be say ,if una find una sef for this situation,i meanif una see person wey una like engaged or not,go for it girl,engagement ring no give anybabe right over a guy
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4Him (m)
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OK let me come out and say it. I was engaged to someone else before I met Mr Nwando  The other man is happily married today and so am I it just wasn't meant to be so is life I think i have an idea what kind of "engagement" u're talking about. When we were in college we had all this SU brothers and sisters hiding under the canopy of "we are engaged" to hook each other. 99% of those "engagements" never lasted. That is not my idea of engagement . . . until i am 150% sure i will marry u i will not mention marriage to you AT ALL. At that stage we both are fair game, if i see another chic i like its bye bye. I believe an engagement is not something to be rushed, it needs prayers and extensive consultations from your friends, family, her family, your church . . . once that stage is passed nothing else can separate me from that woman. All this "we are engaged" . . . just so as to avoid using the "worldly boyfriend and girlfriend" tag is not it. |
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joycee87
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anyway d matter no concern me,na my elder sis d thing concern,anyway God go help am
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4Him (m)
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david it's not that simple.
haven't we all felt at some point we were in love and it turned out not so
that is true, but we didnt wait until we had promised marriage to the woman to cut and run. That is why im so so sick of all these marriage thingy. . . .i can hardly trust any woman at all due to what i have seen. . . .witnessed & experienced. . . I think what i'ma do at last is to get just a baby girl and thats itlike my friend patrickno marriage. . . .just a baby girl and thats all! Marriage to me. . . . is like a war zonewith all these westernized . .(''smart'' educated '' women). . . .sighs!  My brother, marriage is sweet with the right woman. I aint married yet but i'm looking forward to it with a healthy dose of optimism. There will be problems but with God no mountain is insurmountable. |
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nwando
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marriage is like graduation from college
and engagement is like the 4 years it took to get there.
You must finish the requirements to be given the diploma
an intent to marry is not the same thing as marriage
You can be in college 10 years,publish papers sef but without that diploma you can't site that college as your school of graduation
same with marriage
you can be engaged 4 years but until you have that contract,you are not married.
That's why just living with a woman is not considered marriage
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jennykadry (f)
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@nwando
no wonder u stood on your ground in this argument,same thing happened to me my dear,engaged to someone else and ,married another,and everybody is living fine
@joycee87
tell your sis if she truly loves this guy,and d guy feels same,there is no harm in trial,he might be her rightful husband,and i must confess,the guy is truthful enough to have told her d truth that he is engaged,i think he is inlove wt her too,LET THE WILL OF GOD BE DONE
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4Him (m)
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Nwando, na there me and you go differ.
Engagement should not be the 4yrs it takes to graduate from college.
Christians have bastardised engagement . . . because we don't want to sound like the world, because we don't want to call it dating and the other partner a girlfriend, we pretend that we are "engaged".
This is where it starts for me . . .
- a relationship - can last till marriage or until either one or both of the parties realise that they are not meant for each other. At this stage there is no firm commitment. You are basically just testing the waters.
- Engagement - At this stage i have finally decided to commit to you and you to me. There is no going back from here. I don't believe in all these engagement lasting as long as methuselah's age. Highest 6 months u shld be married.
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The Sly
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My brother, marriage is sweet with the right woman. I aint married yet but i'm looking forward to it with a healthy dose of optimism.
There will be problems but with God no mountain is insurmountable. I know that marriage is very sweet with the right woman!. . but my point is that the right woman is very hard to find. . But i believe with timeerrthing is going to be alrightwith God all things are possiblethats 1 thing for sure! Thanks very much for your kind words. . . . . . . . . God bless u '' hippopotamusly''  |
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nwando
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do you guys know some men may not even tell the woman that they're engaged until things have gone far in that case,we have a man who have fallen out of love with the other woman. call it unfair,but he intended to marry her and now he intends no longer @nwando
no wonder u stood on your ground in this argument,same thing happened to me my dear,engaged to someone else and ,married another,and everybody is living fine
@joycee87
tell your sis if she truly loves this guy,and d guy feels same,there is no harm in trial,he might be her rightful husband,and i must confess,the guy is truthful enough to have told her d truth that he is engaged,i think he is inlove wt her too,LET THE WILL OF GOD BE DONE
This is very very common. And I thank God I met my hubby because I was already looking to flee the other relationship. |
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4Him (m)
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I know that marriage is very sweet with the right woman!. . but my point is that the right woman is very hard to find. . But i believe with timeerrthing is going to be alrightwith God all things are possiblethats 1 thing for sure! Thanks very much for your kind words. . . . . . . . . God bless u '' hippopotamusly'' thanks  A good woman isnt hard to find, the problem is that most of us don't know exactly what we want (me inclusive). Once we define it the right woman will show up. One other lesson i've learnt . . . there is no perfect woman out there . . . . be ready to take the good with some bad. |
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jennykadry (f)
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marriage is like graduation from college
and engagement is like the 4 years it took to get there.
You must finish the requirements to be given the diploma
an intent to marry is not the same thing as marriage
You can be in college 10 years,publish papers sef but without that diploma you can't site that college as your school of graduation
same with marriage
you can be engaged 4 years but until you have that contract,you are not married.
That's why just living with a woman is not considered marriage
@nwando
you're very right,keep it up,men mr nwando is d luckiest man on earth to have u,you're one intelligent woman
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nwando
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Nwando, na there me and you go differ.
Engagement should not be the 4yrs it takes to graduate from college.
Christians have bastardised engagement . . . because we don't want to sound like the world, because we don't want to call it dating and the other partner a girlfriend, we pretend that we are "engaged".
This is where it starts for me . . .
- a relationship - can last till marriage or until either one or both of the parties realise that they are not meant for each other. At this stage there is no firm commitment. You are basically just testing the waters.
- Engagement - At this stage i have finally decided to commit to you and you to me. There is no going back from here. I don't believe in all these engagement lasting as long as methuselah's age. Highest 6 months u shld be married.
I don't mean the 4 years literally haba david!!!! I too believe in short engagements That's the only way to avoid "chopping" |
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The Sly
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One other lesson i've learnt . . . there is no perfect woman out there . . . . be ready to take the good with some bad. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! God dey sha. . . . . . How i wish i was Mr Nwando |
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jennykadry (f)
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@4him
i quite agree wt u,marriage is really sweet when you're wt d right person
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nwando
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@nwando
you're very right,keep it up,men mr nwando is d luckiest man on earth to have u,you're one intelligent woman
I wish he could read this ROFL thanks for the compliments |
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jennykadry (f)
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@sly
i feel u sly,true true mr nwando lucky no be small,no worry sly u own go come
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nwando
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Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! God dey sha. . . . . . How i wish i was Mr Nwando ROFL. when the hormones rage,you'll wish you were sly again |
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nwando
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let me ask,what is considered engagement.
at what point is a couple considered engaged in your opinion ?
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The Sly
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@sly
i feel u sly,true true mr nwando lucky no be small,no worry sly u own go come
Amen oooo Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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stillwater (f)
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In my opinion do not engage me if you are still having doubt, period
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jennykadry (f)
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let me see if i can ansa that nwando,i believe engagement comes wt a ring,u know when the man proposes to a woman and says WILL You MARRY ME,and gives her a ring,and then wedding and traditional marriages preparations kicks off
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nwando
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let me see if i can ansa that nwando,i believe engagement comes wt a ring,u know when the man proposes to a woman and says WILL You MARRY ME,and gives her a ring,and then wedding and traditional marriages preparations kicks off
so if there's no ring,it's not yet an engagement |
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jennykadry (f)
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@sly
so iraq people sabi talk Amen,na wao,i think say war don collect una christian brain finish
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jennykadry (f)
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@nwando
yes ooo,i believe so,engagement no be for only mouth,the guy gotta make it a little official wt a ring
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nwando
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In my opinion do not engage me if you are still having doubt, period
Most individuals would do just that ie get engaged believing this is the right one but then things can happen down the line and they say "i don't " before saying their "I do" |
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LadyT (f)
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I agree with Osisi to the fullest. Every relationship has its up and downs. Disagreements can cause people to question the relationship. No one is always 100% that the relationship will work. Its hard work a constant battle,
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jennykadry (f)
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@nwando
make i ask,u no get problem when u wan switch over ,i mean to mr nwando,i had a tough time in mine,because we were both engaged when we met,it was a very tough battle for me,i mean handling the other woman,she was a lion then,but one thing i know is when u meet d right person,that person and the love he has for u ,will be your battle axe,the guy and the love the he has for d girl will fight for d girl,and d girl will just hold her peace,that is when u know u have met your missing rib
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stillwater (f)
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@ nwando Yes things can happen, like maybe the guy is a serial killer or wife beater  , to make me change my mind about the engagement but I won't be dating another guy behind his back and he shouldn't be dating another either  . OK we don hear ma! sharrraaapppp!!!!!! |
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The Sly
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sharrraaapppp!!!!!! Did u miss any joloffff rice today again?  |
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jennykadry (f)
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@still water
ah ah,still water u no dey fear place,na sly u dey tell sharrap,u don forget say sly fit send bomb from iraq wey go blow nigerian finish,i beg i no dey
@sly
i beg tamper justice wt mercy,i never wan die,forgive still water for he knows what he said,no send bomb come naija i beg
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