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World Miss University Nigeria Educational Peace Emissary Award Contest is a United Nations (UN) and International Association of University President’s (IAUP) approach of solving problems associated with youths around the world, particularly those in tertiary institution. WMUN, a celebration of beauty and intellects, strives to spread the message of love and peace by annually appointing a public service delegation of outstanding female university undergraduates with high moral reputation, excellent character and natural beauty & fitness from all around the world and as such it has a close knit relationship, with all that strives to enhance the status of women and propagate a high degree of social development,
The contest also aims at creating an opportunity for humankind to reflect upon world peace and promote global unity irrespective of race, gender, social status e.t.c, and as a result it challenges areas that work against youth development activities, such as Poverty and Economic hardships, Environmental degradation & Pollution, Improper etiquette and Dress Code, Disease outbreaks, Discrimination & Disparity, Campus Cultism, Cultural disintegration, Drug Abuse, Ethnic and Ideological Conflicts etc,
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Siena (m)
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Huh? So, the wife should leave good employment that feeds herself and her children, pays the rent and other bills, solely because her unemployed husband says she should??  And, upon getting back to Nigeria, do what?? I know nothing about why the husband isn't working, anyone can become unemployed, but 5 years? What's happening here? Is he making himself unemployable?  I feel for him, his pride must have taken a battering, but he can't salvage his pride by requesting his wife, and children to return home, and share hardship! That's definitely not the way to go. He's not thinking rationally, he's thinking more of himself, his first thoughts should be for his wife and children, and he should be channelling his energies into solving his financial predicament, rather than "chasing the visa". A visa without any sort of financial backing is the proverbial Pie In The Sky.  If I were in his shoes, I'd be putting my family first, much as it'd be hard. To my wife and children, I'll ALWAYS put myself LAST. No way would I expect them to come join me in hardship, that's really selfish, I find it hard to imagine ANY man would give his wife such an ultimatum, if he loved her that much? As for those saying, "money isn't everything", that's partially true. But it does make life a damn sight easier, as I'm sure the husband has found out. If I was the wife, I'd stay put with the kids, and let the husband look into diverting his energies where'll they'll do the best good. Not chasing ever receding visas, and giving unfair ultimatums. |
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algood (f)
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i have read all the post, this is a very critical decision to make, three people are involved, yourself, the husband and the children.
the people that should come first are the kids, there future.
Naija isnt has bad as we taught for the average people.
Coming back to Nigeria and not coming back doesnt really solve your problem.
First and foremost i think your husband need to work on himself and his ego.
Try look for a job at least something to keep u guys going pending the time u find your root.
Am happy that u have your papers, try and make sure that the kids has papers, think of a trade or a handskill job u can do in niga.with time things will sort itself out.
for the sake of the kids , your marriage is very important, try and take a break go home with the kid, have fun with your man, u guys should plan and reason together, i think sacrificing for the kids worth it.
don't give up on working on his papers, who knows things can turn around and your husband too should forget about travelling and get something doing.
i have a similar case with you , but its the other way round.
my husband was in the state studying while i was in 9ga.
i was doing pretty good as a structural engineer, i have to pay all the bills, our son school fees, the house rent, even my inlaws, i take care of my mother in laws too .
i send money to him too, when i got my visa to come here, i wanted to be visiting but when i got here, my husband no way i got to stay with him,
its really frustrating i must confess, living a different live , mincing spending because of bills, we can't even send money home.
i was face with two option
1. is either i stay
2. i go back to my job and forget about marriage.
well its men ego ,they always want to feel in control.
well decide to stay because of my kids and there future.
with time things will sort itself.
am back to book, reading for gre to enable me enroll for my masters.
life is all about time, there is time for everything.i have seen people going back home and they make it better than here.
i will love you to go home on visit (have it at the back of your mind its either u are staying or coming back) if your kids are citizens or have papers make it more easier for there own future.they can go back and school.
the most important things of all is to pray for open heaven and pray for your husband to secure ajob.
your prayer and presence and good sex can change things in your favour
mark my word
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Dalby (m)
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All these are unfortuate, but if my husband were ever in this position I will not discard him just like that. I will just keep doing my part till we find a way out. At least work on the marriage till I see no hope. People go through worse things in life and still survive. What if the man became sick and could not work for life? Or if the reverse where the case? Would she like to be treated in the same manner? This woman does not even want to compromise. Which woman has not seen "unemployement" side of a spouse? 99% of women have seen this side because no condition is permanent. I encourage men to work and keep their families together. Women should do the same so when one person is down, the other can at least pick up the pieces and glue them back for a short while or for however long.
For people like you, I recomend you go and watch "The Pursuit of Happiness" starring Will Smith. I learned a very huge lesson from that movie! I finally saw your movie, and I am still wondering the relationship here  In the movie, all I saw was a man without a means of survival with a child he had to feed. That film just showed why a man must never be without a job. The wife in the movie had a job and it was this bad. If the woman in the post comes back to Nigeria, with the man without a job, you will have 2 jobless adults with mouths to feed Will Smith took the bulls by the horn and finally made it, there are also a countless number that take that road and still have nothing to show for it In life, no body gives a damn, you take it and whatever dart life throws at you after that, you take it knowing that it was the result of the choice you made. Will Smith's wife left him in the film, who would blame her, she had endured his stories so much. You know if she had stayed, he probably might not have had the drive or motivation to succeed. Every thing that happens to a man happens for a reason, and that which does not kill you makes you stronger  In life you really never know, thats why we are humans and not GOD. |
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cyriluzo (m)
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If the husband had sacrificed financially to make it possible for his wife to travel, with the sure hope that he would be joining her soon, then am sure this man is a very responsible and he does love his family.
Its also very possible his present unemployment status is as a result of his refusal to take permanent employment with the hope he would be joining his wife soon.
I feel this woman will be happy coming back home. Remove her husband what she makes will still not be able to sustain her and her family, except for the pride of being in yankee
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big_bumper (f)
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. . . I feel for him, his pride must have taken a battering, but he can't salvage his pride by requesting his wife, and children to return home, and share hardship! That's definitely not the way to go. He's not thinking rationally, he's thinking more of himself, his first thoughts should be for his wife and children, and he should be channelling his energies into solving his financial predicament, rather than "chasing the visa". A visa without any sort of financial backing is the proverbial Pie In The Sky. . . . I find it hard to imagine ANY man would give his wife such an ultimatum, if he loved her that much? WORD.  This accolade extends to Blacklion too for his input overleaf. @ poster Don't be put off by people giving you advices you don't want to hear, there is always at least two sides to every situation in life, its what makes the world tick. ~ My two-cents for you would be to plead with your husband to give you at least two extra months, work your arse off (I would advice that you diligently seek a full-time job with tons of overtime). ~ Put a substantial amount of money on the side for rainy days so that if you don't get a job back home straightaway, your children would not go hungry ( Keep this money a secret from him, you have sacrificed enough to stoke his ego and pride, by dropping everything to return to him at such short notice. ~ As a test, send the kids home about two/three weeks before you join them, if your hubby requests for money for their upkeep, then you know that you are going to be in for a very rough ride back home, once the money you bring runs out. ~ Return home to your rightful place beside your hubby. ~ And finally, explore means of leaving the country without it having a detrimental effect on your ability to retain your potential loooooong residency status. |
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big_bumper (f)
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i have read all the post, this is a very critical decision to make, three people are involved, yourself, the husband and the children.
yourself+your husband+your children=three people indeed. Na true you talk,  , the situation is really critical  It's all good though, algood. . . . First and foremost i think your husband need to work on himself and his ego.
. . . i was face with two option
1. is either i stay
2. i go back to my job and forget about marriage.
well its men ego ,they always want to feel in control.
well decide to stay because of my kids and there future.
with time things will sort itself.
am back to book, reading for gre to enable me enroll for my masters.
life is all about time, there is time for everything.i have seen people going back home and they make it better than here. . .
the most important things of all is to pray for open heaven and pray for your husband to secure ajob.
Good words. your prayer and presence and good sex can change things in your favour
mark my word
Easy tiger, a lot of us on this forum are barely in our teens o.  |
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big_bumper (f)
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Bad belle,watin Rotimi do you ?Good job in ISP company ? Bollocks Oya you too zip it There is no bad belle in the poster at all. The poor lady was being burned at the stake for having the audacity to seek greener pasture for her and her family, hence her expressing her distaste for her fellow Nigerians, questioning the decision to appoint Rotimi Adebari as a Mayor in Ireland, someone whom they deemed of such lowly statue of an asylum seeker/illegal immigrant. |
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algood (f)
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Good words. Easy tiger, a lot of us on this forum are barely in our teens o. Abeg no vex oh |
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big_bumper (f)
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This is a serious topic. . .
Is that so? And there was me thinking I was posting in the jokes board. |
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algood (f)
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Is that so? And there was me thinking I was posting in the jokes board. get serious, what advice are u giving the woman |
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D-reloaded (f)
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were you blind to her original post?
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big_bumper (f)
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I finally saw your movie, and I am still wondering the relationship here . . . Will Smith's wife left him in the film, . . . na wah o, you are still wondering, why don't you take the advice of the gentleman below  There is really no need to take panadol (pain killers) for another man's headache |
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big_bumper (f)
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get serious,
what advice are u giving the woman
were you blind to her original post?
pardon, are you guys (i mean ladies o, before you come and bite off my head) both talking in code to each other? |
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D-reloaded (f)
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lol no. I just think it's funny that sjhe's asking for you to keep on topic when your post is right there.
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big_bumper (f)
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@ d-loaded now I geddit o jare, na the lethal combination of  and those itsekiri esirághwá bushpigs, dey make my liver shake o. |
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algood (f)
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@ d-loaded now I geddit o jare, na the lethal combination of and those itsekiri esirághwá bushpigs, dey make my liver shake o. wetin itsekiri do oh,interested |
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big_bumper (f)
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Hmmn, the ómóto's égborhá coven Ha, I no fit talk o, I no even fit mention that name, ask d-loaded, na she get the balls to bell the cat o. |
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big_bumper (f)
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Nah seriously, it's just that we cry a lot about racism but you need to see tribalism that occurs on this forum, and in Nigeria in general. We are our own's worst enemy.
It's so funny sometimes when people ask what tribe you are from before they reply to your post or before they allow you to respond to their posts peacefully.
As if we as a nation, don't have enough problems as it is.
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algood (f)
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yeah i quite agree and at the same time disa gree, i believe a change is coming when we will all see ourselves as one, no matter who we are or what we believe, Different does not mean deffiecient. i don't become rev, wright or wrong be that oh, its every where, we have racisim and tribal problem, but i think blacks generally have a very big problem, we are always after our downfall. why is it so. |
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big_bumper (f)
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me sef i tire, its always one problem after another. If its not tribalism, its one black country thinking they are superior to other blacks, I seriously hope for that change to happen.
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algood (f)
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God will help us oh.
want to step out .
later
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t00 cUTE (f)
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this one get as him be
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JoyceAgim (f)
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na wa ooooooo.i no understand this one.this one pass me.
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