Her Mum Is Pushing It.

maybe some of you remember me posting sometime back about my pregnant girlfriend.
well maybe i should start by saying that we finally decided to get married and settle down.
well all  seems to be going well really except for the fact that her mother wants a very elaborate wedding , which i am against one becuase of the cost and also the fact that when we made this arrangement we decided it was just gonnna be us and our friends as witness at the registry.
well when i put this forward to the mother at first she disagreed, and when she finally came to terms with it, she put a condition.
that she has to be present and there must be an after party.
my mum has already not to be a there if thats my wish, and that is the same thing i spoke with my wife.
now she seems bent on having her way,  unfortunately am not one to bulge easily.
what do you think is wise.
follow my original idea, or simply pacify the mother for the daughters sake?

the excuse her mums uses is the fact that she is her fav. which i do understand but i ant displease myself to please her.
afterall my folks aiant coming.

Supported. Once u start conceeding, u can't stop half way. stand your grounds bro

You are very sselfish. How can yousay that the mother should not attend the wedding? I don't get it. Was she a bad mother? Did she abuse you? Why would you exclude any parents but invite friends? I guess it your life. Live it any way you like.

@izeek

if d mom comes, den yur life is ruined, why u ask?

she will boss u around slowly and surely and poison her daughters mind toward u, into controlling u, so since yur folks aint coming no one except yur original plan should be there

I think you 've haerd it.
BETTER STAND ON YOUR DECISION.

izeek  i think its basically what u both want.
afterall u will be the one marrying yher and not her mum.
unless u want to have a broken home, then u can actually take the risk.
but believe me am speaking from experience ( divorcee) its going to be hard to manage.
do what you think is right.

stand your ground

Poster,

everyone has spoken, so if u have ears make u listen
but if u don't well, take anytin u see

@ topic
Please permit me to ask what the issue really is here
To have your mother-in-law come for the registry??
Or to have a party after the registry??

If later is d case, guy,stand your ground if u don't have the money to throw for party yet
My prayer has always been not to get a miserable mother in-laws cus they will make your life also miserable
Once allowed,be rest assured they will want to rule your life for the rest of your marriages
A good mother inlaw will take matters and situations of the son-inlaw into cognizance at all times and not the best way it suits her and the daughter

In all i respect men who are never woman wrapper,dancing here and there just to please people even when it doesn't go well with them
It does not go so well with my brother and his mother-inlaw because he did not allow her play the piper and dectects the tune 4 him

But if the issue here is attending the registry,guy u have no reason to deprive her of that,it should be her Joy

well y;all thanks and odnt worry she will def be around for the more serious occassion in august. my wife will be having our son then.

but for the reg tin, i don talk and that is that.