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hiltino
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Iv been in a rltship for five years now, @ the outset i dint realy apprecite my girl because she dint have the looks i wanted ( i mean she's not so beautiful ) but shes ben faithful and realy nice and commited because she loves me very much and believes we have a future together.
It was only until recently that i realy began to appreciate her when i stopped looking only on mere appearance for inner beauty.
I don't want to breakl her heart because she's made a lot of sacrifices as other guys keep making advances towards her and she dosent fail to tell me. @ the same time iv seen other girls that have got what she lacks.
She's ma first love and am her first love too shes a virgin and uptill now weve not done it because i want sex free relationship wit whoever i'll marry even if the person has done it before. that way i can keep ma wifes pride and respect her more.
she's been ok wit that ever since we started until now and she loves me very very much. even when i cheated on her she forgave me and asked us to move on. i stopped cheating on her for two years now and ever since iv not had any other relatship exept her. She wants me to mrry me because im what she says she needs.
Recently i met a girl that can take her place but i don't know if i should just focus on ma rltionship and forget other girls or just quit ma old rltship and go 4 what i think is the best fo me because any decision i reach now will b for the rest of ma life.
Should i go for beauty and values in a girl am yet to know very well or should i stick to my loving girl that has been faithfull and commited but not so beautiful ( facially only)and work her to ma taste.
because the way u make your bed is the way u'll lay on it
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efuah (f)
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hmmmm, it seems u know the answer to your hard decision already. . . listen to your heart. Beauty fades, but good character. . . hardly fade.
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Nina4eva (f)
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u already answered it your self. The devil u know is far much better than the angel u don't know. Be wise!  |
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kalmebad (f)
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@poster
He who has ears,let me hear
They have spoken
All that glitters are not gold
All my life i have never settled for anytin less from phyiscal attribute and they have yeilded no fruitful result
No one is telling me to look beyound beauty now, as long as the person doesn't look like epe
Let your heart guide u
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squirrel20 (f)
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hmmmm, it seems u know the answer to your hard decision already. . . listen to your heart. Beauty fades, but good character. . . hardly fade.
EXACTLY |
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DOYINDARA (f)
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facial beauty aint everything. why not stick with your not too prety girl, beauty is from within. BE WISE
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oneperson
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is your HEAD still standing on your neck?
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Outstrip
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I think you should let her be. She is too good for you. She deserves better.
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chinda3
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don't marry out of beauty find out who u love most out of this two babes and go for that one
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ibkaye (f)
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That's a bit shallow  But still, follow your heart ehn? Physical beauty isn't everything |
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Chacal (m)
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@ Hiltino,
I can't even see any problem here.
Who says u cannot multi-task?
Keep the 2 of em for a while and decide who makes u happier. . . .
This is no conundrum at all. . . .
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olanajim (m)
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Please don't follow your heart in this matter. It would lead you to temptation. I will rather ask you to use your head gnd not your heart.
Your heart mislead you in the first place and matje you run after unknown beauty. Don't trust it again!
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D-reloaded (f)
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hitino, post your picture.
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danity
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Well since you want a sex-free relationship with whoever you marry, why don't you stay with her?
After all, you've been waiting all this while.
I think you have a big problem being faithful and you're just being tempted.
Follow your heart though.
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Chacal (m)
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[/b]
[b]I'm sorry but that is a very dumb advice u just gave! 
Decide who makes u happier? so when he falls for the two of them, he will co me back here and write another post asking us who he should choose and we readers are here wasting our precious time to go over the same posts? , very stupid advice I tell u!
@ Poster
LOOKS FADE, case dismissed!!! Stupid advice? Must u resort to personal attacks to drive your points home? You need alot to learn. I insist he should keep the 2 of em for a while and decide who makes him happier. It is not possible for a man to LOVE 2 WOMEN EQUALLY. . . . . So, the OP cannot fall for the 2 of em. . . . Capice? |
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D-reloaded (f)
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yea why retort to personal attacks when you can just call people's parents "cunts"  Dude has no right keeping anyone because he had already CHEATED on the first girl and she still forgave his ass. she must be desperate Anyway, Op I'm still waiting for your picture. |
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stillwater (f)
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I think you should let her be. She is too good for you. She deserves better.
I agree !!!!!!!!! |
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Chacal (m)
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@ D-reloaded,
You are missing the point like a free-throw shot!
I don't look for people's trouble but if anyone brings it to ma door-step, i have the right to fight back.
It's called SELF-DEFENCE.
The OP is in a mix and cannot decide on which direction.
His best option is to keep the 2 lasses and see which one benefits him the most.
Who knows, Girl B might be his missing rib for all we know.
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D-reloaded (f)
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you can't fight back without involving people's parents, Jackal. like I do Just saying  Whole missing rib and whatnot is rubbish. He's been dating this girl for too long and he's put her through enough crap for his arse for him to now drop her for siome pretty face. Hopefully she'll get all Lynn Whitfield in a "Thin Love Between Love & Hate" on him if he tries some cheating crap again. |
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Chacal (m)
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@ D-reloaded, Stop acting like a ninny. Are u saying a man should put up with a lady because they have been dating for gazillion years? Blimey. . . . The OP is single which means he is open to OPTIONS. . . . It doesn't work the way you are thinking. Why aren't u with your high school boyfriend till today? Now. . . . . the lad feels he has found someone else that can tingle his spine. He is at a cross-road and needs professional advice. . . . He should keep the 2 lasses and stay with the one that gels with him. Even Martin Luther King had a fling by the side so what is this HOLIER THAN THOU attitude you are preaching here? Don't make me bash your head with a CLAW-HAMMER. |
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Cassiel (f)
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@poster
I beseech you with the mercies of God,leave your first girlfriend for the solid reason that you don't deserve her.Go for the second one you're currently interested in.
Truth is that if you don't break your good girl's heart now,if you end up marrying her,you will still break her heart someday when you see some other fine sister that stirs your juices.If you love this girl,leave her now because its the best thing you can do for her.She deserves way better than you for sure.
Also,the fact that you're with one girl and at the same time considering another that can take her place (quoting you there) says it all.You don't even want to be with this good girl of yours.Perhaps you're bored with her.
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D-reloaded (f)
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didnt date in secondary school. Took my Val's Day presents and went on my way Na only claw hammer? why not ball and chain sef? olodo The whole "let him handle both" thing would make since if he and the present girl were casually dating buit the chick thinks they are exclusive so i fail to see how your advice is faair to her then again, in threads like this do people ever care about what's fair to the girl. Not really so nevermind. |
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chinda3
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@poster
I beseech you with the mercies of God @cassiel this your preaching too much oooo @poster but i agree wt cassiel,its better u leave d poor girl now ooo,broken relationship is better than broken marriage,God bless u wt woman u say u no want,leave her for d rightful person to come her way i beg,stop blocking her way.u don't deserve an angel,because that girl is an angel,find your destiny elsewhere and leave her alone |
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Ajebota (f)
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Just curious, y is your relationship with this girl sex-free when you have cheated with other girls? Or is your definition of cheating different? No disrespect just a little at sea on this one,
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Chacal (m)
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@ D-reloaded,
You didn't date in your high school? Tell that to the birds!!!!!!!!!!
The chic THINKS THEY ARE EXCLUSIVE does not mean they are exclusive.
At the end of the day, they are NOT married so this geezer is still open to options.
Let him see things from both sides of the coin and decide which one is okay for him.
@ Cassiel,
I disagree with u.
Y'all women can be self-centred.
The OP has got one or two issues with Girl A. . . . .He thinks the girl is not bonz enough for him.
This is a problem he should deal with before marriage.
If he doesn't. . . . .the ugly-headed hydra might come back to haunt the geezer.
He is better off cheating now that he is SINGLE than when he is MARRIED and children are involved.
I will kill 20 people to save 5 million people. . . . .Geddit?
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Ajebota (f)
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My previous question was for the poster
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D-reloaded (f)
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and why is that hard to believe?  Just curious, y is your relationship with this girl sex-free when you have cheated with other girls? Or is your definition of cheating different? No disrespect just a little at sea on this one,
He's a bloody hypocrite like the rest of them with their "I can't marry someone i've slept with" logic. |
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stillwater (f)
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@ Cassiel,
I disagree with u.
Y'all women can be self-centred.
The OP has got one or two issues with Girl A. . . . .He thinks the girl is not bonz enough for him.
This is a problem he should deal with before marriage.
If he doesn't. . . . .the ugly-headed hydra might come back to haunt the geezer.
He is better off cheating now that he is SINGLE than when he is MARRIED and children are involved.
I will kill 20 people to save 5 million people. . . . .Geddit?
This was not addressed to me but I just can't help it. This not a matter of being self centered. The poster is a self proclaimed cheater who claims he has repented and his girlfriend forgave him. However I don't see why he still keeps this girl while his eyes are still roving around looking for another. It is obvious he doesn't love this girl he says is not facially beautiful. The vibe I got from his post was that he holds outward appearance in great esteem. If he's going to date two girls at a time, please save her from another emotional stabbing (remember he cheated) and let her get on with her life. |
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chinda3
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This was not addressed to me but I just can't help it. Cheesy
This not a matter of being self centered. The poster is a self proclaimed cheater who claims he has repented and his girlfriend forgave him. However I don't see why he still keeps this girl while his eyes are still roving around looking for another. It is obvious he doesn't love this girl he says is not facially beautiful. The vibe I got from his post was that he holds outward appearance in great esteem. If he's going to date two girls at a time, please save her from another emotional stabbing (remember he cheated) and let her get on with her life @still water thats right girl |
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Cassiel (f)
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@Chac I'm saying the same thing,only without the cheating part.He should leave this good girl alone and go do his exploration and soul-searching.She's forgiven him for cheating twice already.Its just evil putting her through it a third time.Haba.She's got feelings too,for crying out loud.The world is not about males only.He should tell her about this second girl,tell her he needs time to sort himself out.If she's willing to wait for him,then that's a different matter.If she decides to end it there,even better for her.But my point is he should not cheat on her a third time. Honestly if he does,may his privates wither up like a dry stick instantly. @chinda3 lol The guy needs more than preaching o.What kind of man is he anyway? |
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