Thank u all

Daughter of Zion: Go and sin no more,


You have indeed done your part, I salute your courage and resolve. Please do keep it up, it shall indeed be a virtue of great value for you.

If he were for you, he would still stick.

Move on,

Life could really funny sometime, how hard could it be to "hold body". But, I'm with you on this one since he wasn't around when you fell and ate the fruit.

lmao

Do you have any suggestions

don't bother calling him. give him a breathing space. let him think over it.  if he is truly born again and he is sure you are meant for him. he will forgive and forget. he will call u back. and if he doesnt call back forget about him. the two of are not meant for each other. keep on focusing on your future. that is not the end of the world.

and pleseeeeeeeeee don't call him again.

This was not the suggestion I was expecting
A lady said she should have been more tactful with restitution, so I was asking her how she would have done it if she was in the situation

''I'm very disappointed by the fake comments all you men on this site are making. Are you all actually praising this girl for doing wrong? i mean i know no one is perfect but for God sakes, if you were in her fiancee's shoes would you be praising her for comming forward with the confession when it shouldn't have happened to begin with."   


The above statement is the only truthfull statement so far. The guy did not leave her because she had a relationship with another guy in school. He left because she SLEPT WITH THIS GUY EVEN AFTER THEY WERE BACK TOGETHER. I can not blame the guy that much because most guys rarely forget such things in a relationship.

I can forgive anyhting but I still can't picture staying with a woman that I know while I am with her, she slept with another man. If it happened during a break-up, yes I understand, but otherwise no

If it happened during a break up, why did you allow the break up in the first place.

Have you forgotten that she had a 9 month nrelationship with this other guy? You are refusing to understand that there was bonding. he learnt her a shoulder to cry on when you abandoned her.
There is feeling.

I know of a girl who was sleeping with a priest and she repented. Was undergoing deliverance.
She tried to stay away from the priest but some how the priest came back and talked her into sex again. She cried her heart out and that was the end of it.

It happens. It takes a lot of strength to break from an old flame especially when you did not separate because of quarrel.

I am not praising her. But I saying she should be judged fairly.
You have to consider a lot of things here.

Give a her a break please. How sure are you the guy is not cheating? Though men take it that it is normal for them to cheat while their women remain faithful,  RUBBISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSH

You sort of ignored all the other points I made.
what have you to say about being dragged between two people. She is human I think.  She was trying to get back to the old guy, while the new guy clung on her.

(The one she was leaving is the old flame here) get me clear, i know she could say no but how many will survive her condition. Do not rush to say you will because you have not been there. Everyone claims to be a saint until he gets into a trying situation. no one is infallible. When you judge, always judge with reservation.
The situation is not always ideal

Na the guy ego dey worry am. Some guys just can't handle it! Let your conscience bear you witness that you have opened up to him. Leave the rest. If a man wants u notin can keep him away, not even d fact that u have a child. And if he doesn't want u nothing will make him stay-even if you are a virgin.

Come on girl, u mean u were in an undefined relationship for six! whole years? then break up, came back in the 7th and then this?  what were u people doing and discussing all those years?
Haven't u heard that rolling a stone gathers no moss? Well, let it be a learning period 4u since u seem to be young still. Always define where your relationship is going within the first 12mths. let the guy make an official move or take a walk forever.

But get this right inside your skull. never tell a man that another man entered your secret place. Never!!!
You know the emotional pain it puts your man into? let your confession be to the Lord, then go and sin no more.

Well, just let the guy run, believe me, he ain't urs. God just used this to save u much heart break bc the guy could have spent another six years with u, and then tell u one cock and bull story, by then u would have passed your sell by date.

get a grip and get on with your pretty life!

my dear
u're very brave unlike other people i know
u're comfortable now u told him right?
well u probably knew this would happen when you told him,right?
my dear move on,
its his loss,
with your personality,you'll have men running after you,
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Chei! AlmondJoy, you harsh o!

The thing is, you do have some truth in your words, not everyone can handle certain things and I guess when it comes to certain things folk should be on a need to know basis.

But do you know that some things can not remain buried?

However, I think you should allow people to live their life as they please, even if you think it is hypocritical.

LOL! But sister you harsh o! your name should be Truthbeharsh! LOL

MY PERSONAL PERFECT RECIPE. for dealing with after break-up trauma. this is how to get on with your life and prepare for your exams.
1. change environment- go read with friends/classmate instead of locking yourself up in the house claiming to be the indoor type!
2.if u do not believe in tearing pix, pack them all up (pix of him,him/u) into carton,envelop, cellotape them so much that the color of the carton is not seen. give to afriend to keep for u (just be sure u do not keep in the house).
or better still,wet the pictures and place them face to face ie pairing two pix.leave them for air to blur/spoil them out.
3.don't sit alone in quiet places, go hunt-a-fun! dump those gowns, get a pair of jeans and sandals and get your groove on. don't pretend/lie to yourself by going to clubs if you're not the type.my dear fellas are waiting their to feast on your misery.
4.do u have the addresses of those girlfriends who can't sit a second without humour-great! hook up with them now.
5.get involved in school activities more. i hope he's not in your department that u have to see hi everyday.
6.watch some more movies. esp of those dissing girl/boyfriends after splitting.
7. for times like this i keep advicing people to get passionate about something not someone. like football, watching matches can make u think less of break-up. well, for u- dance groups? chess, scrabble.play something that needs your concentration in the game.
8.stay indoors less.even if u don't go out and don't have anywhere to go.sit outside.
9.whenever u are inside, make sure your window blinds aint shut.open them and make sure for a bright room, very airy too.like you're outside. avoid those room shades that make u want to feel rapped up.
10. meet new friend.
11. try doing things u never did before like joing the red cross, or the youth group of your church or area.
12. and lastly, delete his text messages, missed calls, dialled nos, emails,and his numbers from your phone-it will help!
stop crying your eyes out while my guy has started scoutting for his next catch.
hope u consider these seriously. cheers