Thank u all

I'm very disappointed by the fake comments all you men on this site are making. Are you all actually praising this girl for doing wrong? i mean i know no one is perfect but for God sakes, if you were in her fiancee's shoes would you be praising her for comming forward with the confession when it shouldn't have happened to begin with.   


shaking my head in disappointment

How would u like to find out. NOW or AFTER You R MARRIED?
If u find out now and still married her then u can sleep well knowing there's no secret between 2 of u. _{u have been able to deal with her past}
But if u found out later by any means You would have felt that she tricked u into marrying her n d marriage would be doomed because trust is gone.

Dont think like a guy, yes what she did was wrong, but she was WOMAN enough to confess it. my bro is confession not saying am sorry n it would not happen again? and yes it hurts but like they say he that is without sin let him cast the first stone. your guy no confess oooo

na who talk say the person wey him wan go meet na virgin or no go cheat on am, invariable you're saying she for keep quite then marry am. d crime wey u say she commit na confession no be say she cheat on am because if she no confess them 4 marry. Come to think of it hmmmmmmm this guy no b born again,  he just don get reason to go test another one. na me tulk am

why do most of us think forgiveness is in the hands of men!?

if you realize your mistake, and you turn on God to forgive you, do you need the forgiveness of a man to consummate the act?

there are other ways to show an act of  bravery, you should have kept your mouth shut, since you have made a pact with God that such wont happen again,

making such a risky move is risky, lol,

anyways, in our environment, a typical naija guy wont accept you back when you tell him about such sexcapades,

The situation is pitiable. I like to look at it from two angles. First, you confessed because you wanted to have a conscience void of offence. This is praiseworthy. You couldn't have kept it because guilt would hunt you ever. So your conscience is free. You have to move on then. Be assured that you have done the right thing. If he is for you, he would eventually come back. But leave him alone with the note that you are truly sorry and you still love him very much. God will definitely reward your faithfulness.

On the side of the guy, i consider him blameless in the present circumstance for the decision he took. I believe that he loved you, and during this period, he must have abstained from such a thing with other ladies. Your action therefore was a betrayal to him. Not all men can stand the thought that someone went in between their wives. I think this guy is such.(I know you are not married yet, but he might have held you in that esteem).  Anyway, you should keep moving. Goodluck, and remember:  ",  whosoever confesses and forsakes his sins shall have mercy'.' May you find mercy.   

yu have expressed love in it purest form if he loves you he should consider what you did as the best.

Be Strong despite a broken relationship.

Hi loved one,

I assure u, urs is not the first relationship to break. When it happens, sometime there are good excuses attached to them. What would u ve done if there was no such issue like u need to confess anything, I mean u did everything just perfectly for the relationship to work, then eventually d guy calls it up.

Now, learn this when a relationship breaks or it is about to break be " Selfish " . That is think first of u. Safe yourself first.

You re at that moment responsible and only responsible for u. STOP the thought of what will happen to us. The first thing here is that it is like a shipwreck, it is just the time for the two of u or "Us" to loose all u ever spent time to gather together. So, if certainly there might be no more "US" and what "US" have gather together should there be no more a me? That is the Big question.

It is only those who are able to rescue a "ME" that gets a "US" eventually.

Look, this could really be hard, I learn this from life ,I equally practiced it when I was faced with a similar challenge ; breaking up with someone you love deeply.

Note : It is at this moment not about the cause of your breaking up, either u tell a truth or a lie. The reality is you have just broken up and you must rescue yourself.

Just rescue yourself. Below are 3 top tips to rescue yourself when there is a broken relationship.

1. Give more to yourself.
 Please, do your best in this coming exam like u never have done, concentrate on your exam all the time . money and energy u would have shared with this guy.

, when it happened that I might break up with my girl friend I find it difficult to eat for two days, the 3rd day I was restored so , I simply concentrated all towards my project. I got amazing result.

2. Take a break , to enjoy and love u more than ever before.

,  I took out time to see what it was like taking decision I feel like, I was less bothered how hard such decision are. If she was there,she might think they are too risky a decision, I just might have felt so eventually.

So, It is a moment to be freely free.

3. Be joyful - if u don’t have joy it is dangerous.
Help your "ME". Whatever gives u joy, please go for it now more often than before.

,  I knew that joy was important, I like seeing people happy, that gives me alot of joy. So, I took out more time to keep smile on people. I spend more of my free time doing something’s in the Church. I spend more time with most of my friends. I used those credits on my phone that I could have used in calling just one person, rather in keep touch with many.

I look forward to see u smile with yourself.

Regards,

Olakunle
Wisdom Series (www.wisdomseries.com/forum)

beautiful girl,why are you just killing your self for this guy?don't you know that you are not made for one person alone.the fact you told your boyfriend about your escapades and he butts out,it's a clear sign that he his immature and does not have any idea what trust is all about.
he says he misses you,he loves you ,blah blah, think of those words clearly.he never meant them,and the other people on nairaland are saying let him heal,yeah right.

your guy probably is getting his groove on and you are here busting your busting your brains.
girl life is short and if i were you i would still run my package with the other guy.

no dull your self.

@ poster
  eeyahhh, i feel for u because u love him dearly, and i biliv he loves u too, there is nothing wrong in telling the truth just that its hurts badly,, anywayz, the most important thing is your conscience is clear which is the reason for telling the truth, but i still need to ask u this question: How would u feel if you were the one he told this,